The Decade Game That Can Transform Your Future | Carolyn Buck Luce

The Decade Game That Can Transform Your Future | Carolyn Buck Luce

Many people reach midlife feeling successful on paper but disconnected from themselves. In this conversation, Chip Conley talks with Carolyn Buck Luce about what it actually looks like to rebuild your life in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond. Carolyn opens up about leaving Wall Street, going through a very public personal crisis, redefining ambition, and creating the “Decade Game”, a simple but powerful way to think about who you want to become over the next 10 years. They talk about: * Why purpose often starts showing up earlier than we realize * What happens when you stop compartmentalizing your life * Why many women feel more confident and free in midlife * How imagining your future self changes your decisions today * The difference between wishful thinking and thoughtful wishing This is one of those conversations that feels honest, grounding, and surprisingly energizing, especially if you’ve been feeling the pull toward a new chapter. Watch now and think about the person you want to become next. Timestamps: (05:47) Purpose, Imagination, and Identity (09:19) The Origin of the Decade Game (11:24) Success, Secrets, and Reinvention (16:25) Carolyn’s “Egyptian Period” (18:20) How to Design Your Next Decade (20:01) Reinventing Life After Retirement (23:57) Why Life Changes in Stages (26:36) The Fear of Starting Over (29:46) Why Midlife Can Empower Women (35:12) The Power of MEA and Community (41:40) Rules for Living an Epic Life (43:16) Thoughtful Wishing vs Wishful Thinking Learn more about MEA at ⁠https://www.meawisdom.com/ #MidlifeChrysalis #ChipConley #CarolynBuckLuce #MidlifeTransformation #PersonalGrowth #WomenOver50 #PurposeInLife #Reinvention #SelfDiscovery #HealthyAging #MidlifeWomen #LifeTransitions #MindsetShift #EmotionalWellbeing #PersonalDevelopment

What 88 Years of Research Revealed About Happiness | Robert Waldinger

For nearly 90 years, researchers tracked one question: what actually makes people happy, healthy, and fulfilled as they grow older? In this episode, Chip sits down with psychiatrist, Zen teacher, and Harvard study director Robert Waldinger to explore what 88 years of research can teach us about relationships, aging, purpose, and emotional well-being. Together, they unpack: * Why strong relationships predict happiness and longevity better than success or money * The hidden loneliness behind social media and “curated lives” * What Zen practice teaches about anxiety, suffering, and being fully present * Why nobody is happy all the time and why that’s normal * How paying attention to what energizes you can change your life Warm, wise, and deeply human, this episode is full of insights that stay with you long after the conversation ends. Listen now and join the conversation. Timestamps: (03:03) How Life Changed After 50 (06:13) The Harvard Study on Happiness (08:36) Why Relationships Matter Most (10:00) Friendship as a Daily Practice (12:31) Making New Friends as You Age (13:52) Social Media and Modern Loneliness (16:53) Why He Started Zen Practice (19:35) Nothing to Fix and Living Well (21:16) What Zen Meditation Really Is (23:11) Presence vs Dissociation (25:52) Why Happiness Is Not Constant (27:32) Attention as the Deepest Form of Love (30:21) Why Pain Always Passes (33:16) Robert Waldinger on Retirement (36:34) Learning to Trust Your Inner Signals Learn more about MEA at ⁠https://www.meawisdom.com/ #RobertWaldinger #HappinessResearch #GoodLife #Longevity #HealthyAging #Zen #Meditation #RelationshipsMatter #EmotionalWellbeing #Mindfulness #MentalHealth #HarvardStudy #PersonalGrowth #AgingWell #HumanConnection

How to Turn Anxiety Into Wisdom, Clarity, and Resilience

Anxiety, burnout, and emotional overwhelm make a lot more sense once people understand what’s actually driving them. In this episode, Chip Conley, founder of MEA, former Airbnb executive, and bestselling author of Emotional Equations, talks with Derek Gehl about the hidden patterns behind anxiety, fear, purpose, and emotional resilience. Chip shares powerful insights on: * Why anxiety comes from uncertainty and powerlessness * The difference between fear and anxiety * How painful experiences become future wisdom * Why emotions begin in the body * The difference between purpose and emotional escape Chip also introduces his practical Anxiety Balance Sheet exercise, a simple tool designed to help people separate what they can control from what they can’t during stressful seasons of life. 📘 Want to dive deeper into Chip’s emotional frameworks and equations? Check out Emotional Equations here: https://www.chipconley.com/books/emotional-equations/ Timestamps: (00:00) Chip’s Emotional Equations book (02:30) Why emotions confuse so many people (4:06) Despair equals suffering minus meaning (06:10) Leading a company through crisis (08:57) What Bhutan taught Chip about happiness (11:03) The difference between fear and anxiety (14:27) How to regain control over anxiety (16:07) The anxiety balance sheet exercise (18:33) Wisdom as the square root of experience (20:28) Workaholism vs Calling Learn more about MEA at ⁠https://www.meawisdom.com/ #EmotionalEquations #Anxiety #FearVsAnxiety #EmotionalWisdom #EmotionalResilience #MentalHealth #Psychology #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #StressManagement #MeaningAndPurpose #EmotionalIntelligence #ChipConley #MidlifeChrysalis #BurnoutRecovery

Why Deep Listening is the Key to Transformation | Gail Larsen

The parts of ourselves we silence are often the very things that make us come alive. In this heartfelt episode of Midlife Chrysalis, I sit down with Gail Larsen, transformational speaking teacher, author, and longtime MEA faculty member, for a soulful conversation about authenticity, creativity, aging, and finding your voice. From growing up in a restrictive religious environment to helping thousands of people discover their “original medicine,” Gail shares the wisdom she’s gathered through decades of transformation and deep listening. Together, we explore: * Why emotional connection matters more than polished performance * How transformational listening helps us reconnect with ourselves * Why our unique gifts are meant to be shared * How entering the unknown keeps us fully alive * Why transformation comes not from strategy, but from mystery This is one of those conversations that gently stays with you long after it ends. Timestamps: (02:22) Why Her 80s Feel Like the Best Years (04:18) Escaping a Restrictive Religious Life (07:19) Motherhood, Divorce, and Unexpected Paths (8:20) Madame Ovary and Finding Humor in Menopause (11:43) Her First Speech to 4,000 Women (13:34) Comfort Zone vs Home Zone Speaking (17:43) The Heart of Transformational Speaking (18:37) Discovering Your Original Medicine (20:13) What Makes a Speech Truly Transformative (22:43) Getting Out of the Jet Lag of Your Life (25:00) Why People Lose Themselves in Midlife (27:21) The Origins of Transformational Listening (32:15) Feeling Creatively Dried Up After COVID (34:26) Creativity, Soul, and Transformation (35:18) Menopause, Reinvention, and Santa Fe (40:54) Growing Older vs Growing Whole (43:27) Gail’s Biggest Life Lessons (45:11) Chip Conley on Cancer, Loss, and Wisdom Learn more about MEA at ⁠https://www.meawisdom.com/ #MidlifeChrysalis #GailLarsen #TransformationalListening #Authenticity #PersonalGrowth #SelfDiscovery #TransformationalSpeaking #FindYourVoice #EmotionalHealing #MidlifeTransformation #Creativity #Purpose #DeepListening #SpiritualGrowth #AgingWisely

Why Success Alone Will Never Fulfill You | Brad Stulberg

You hit your biggest goals… and still feel empty? In this episode, performance expert and bestselling author Brad Stulberg breaks down why success alone doesn’t fulfill us and what actually does. Drawing from his own experience with burnout, mental health struggles, and years of research, Brad shares a powerful new way to think about excellence, purpose, and what it really means to live well. Here are a few key takeaways: * Success won’t save you: Chasing outcomes often leaves you feeling just as empty. * Excellence is a practice: It’s about who you become, not what you achieve. * Consistency beats intensity: Real mastery is built over years, not quick wins. * Joy isn’t optional: It’s what makes the journey sustainable. * You don’t have to grow from every struggle: Sometimes, surviving is enough If you’ve ever felt stuck, burned out, or wondering “Is this it?”, this conversation will change how you see success and your path forward. 👉 Watch now and rethink what truly matters. Timestamps: (03:01) What True Excellence Means (04:30) Early Influence and Life Direction (06:25) Mental Health Crisis & Turning Point (12:44) What “Gumption” Actually Means (14:26) Flow State Is Overrated (18:41) Why Joy Beats Discipline (25:14) Why Success Feels Empty (28:45) Enjoying the Process (31:20) Why Midlife Feels Hard (33:12) Finding Purpose Again (36:28) Self-Optimization Culture (41:17) Don’t Be One-Dimensional (44:37) Build a Bigger Life (46:20) Wisdom Bumper Sticker Learn more about MEA at ⁠https://www.meawisdom.com/ #excellence #meaningfullife #arrivalfallacy #selfimprovement #personaldevelopment #consistency #joyintheprocess #mastery #purpose #successmindset #mentalhealth #burnoutrecovery #growthmindset #habits #lifelessons