#15 Kristal Desantis - Masculinity and Emotionally Available Men

#15 Kristal Desantis - Masculinity and Emotionally Available Men

Kristal is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in marriage, family, relationships and men’s issues. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer 01:34 Crystal's Key Pillars for a Successful Relationship: Safety 09:11 The Importance of Self-Awareness and Seeking Therapy 19:14 Balancing Emotional Availability and Traditional Masculine Roles 26:43 Recognizing Red Flags and Green Flags in Relationships 29:19 Dating for Companionship vs. Seeking a Life Partner 31:03 The Importance of Discussing Unsexy Topics 32:23 Religion and its Role in Relationships 35:02 Open Communication about Desires and Expectations 36:38 Increasing Emotional Connection with the 'Heartbeat Exercise' 52:52 Happiness and Life's Purpose: Feeling Enough and Being Open to Recalibration Takeaways Safety is a crucial aspect of a successful relationship, and it can be achieved through self-awareness, stability, self-regulation, and self-expression. Men should prioritize self-awareness and seek therapy or coaching to develop emotional availability and vulnerability. It is important for men to define the kind of partner they want and be aware of red flags and green flags when pursuing a relationship. Developing an inner cheerleader can help counter the inner critic and promote self-compassion. Men should focus on positive reinforcement and validation rather than self-criticism. The skills that make you a good dater are different from the skills that make you a good life partner. Discussing unsexy topics like finances, children, and family values is crucial when building a life together. Religion can be a significant factor in a long-term relationship. Open communication about desires and expectations is essential. The 'heartbeat exercise' (validate a point of pride, express care for a moment of pain, and be curious about each other's pleasurable experiences) can increase emotional connection in a relationship. Happiness is feeling enough and having peace, while life's purpose is fluid and can change over time. Kristal's Links: https://www.instagram.com/atxtherapist/ [https://www.instagram.com/atxtherapist/] https://www.amazon.com/Strong-Relationship-Field-Guide-Modern/dp/1959099027/ [https://www.amazon.com/Strong-Relationship-Field-Guide-Modern/dp/1959099027/]

#14 Bobby Hobert - How to Create Your Dream Life before 30 (And You Can Too!)

Bobby is a lifestyle design coach for entrepreneurs and podcast host! Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 08:20 The Impact of Supportive Parents 10:15 Friendship and Support in Pursuing Dreams 19:12 Navigating Challenges and Self-Doubt 20:49 Staying Committed to the Process 23:26 Overcoming Perfectionism and Taking Breaks 25:07 Finding Balance and Enjoying the Journey 28:11 Recognizing Your Worth and Embracing Self-Acceptance 30:49 Supporting Friends Through Tough Times 38:20 The Authenticity of Online Personalities 45:39 The Power of Personal Transformation 56:24 The Role of Environment in Personal Growth 57:32 The Impact of Moving to a New City 59:58 Building a Community in a New City 01:06:16 From Material Possessions to Experiences: A Shift in Mindset 01:16:33 Staying True to Oneself and Helping Others 01:21:06 Defining Happiness as Flow and Timelessness Takeaways The advice to do what you love and have supportive parents can have a profound impact on one's journey and provide confidence and resilience. Friendship and support are crucial in pursuing dreams, and it's important to believe in and support others' passions. Challenges and self-doubt are inevitable, but staying committed to the process and trusting the journey can lead to growth and success. Comparing oneself to others and striving for perfection can hinder progress, so it's important to focus on personal growth and take breaks when needed. Finding balance and enjoying the journey are key to long-term sustainability and fulfillment. You are enough and what you are doing is enough. Be present for your friends and create space for them to share. Online personalities can be authentic and the same in person. Transformation stories are unique and inspiring. Changing your physical environment can be a catalyst for change, but internal change is necessary as well. Moving to a new city can be a pivotal step in attracting new friends and opportunities. Building a community in a new city requires effort, consistency, and being open to new experiences. Shifting from valuing material possessions to finding happiness in experiences and personal growth can lead to a more fulfilling life. Staying true to oneself and helping others optimize their lives can bring a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Happiness can be defined as being in a state of flow and not being aware of time. Bobby's Links: https://www.instagram.com/bobbbaaaay/ [https://www.instagram.com/bobbbaaaay/] https://www.bobbyhobert.com/links [https://www.bobbyhobert.com/links] https://www.bobbyhobert.com/ [https://www.bobbyhobert.com/] My Links: https://www.youtube.com/@TheMindsUnleashedShow [https://www.youtube.com/@TheMindsUnleashedShow] ⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/themindsueric⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/themindsueric⁠⁠] ⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@themindsunleashedshow [https://www.tiktok.com/@themindsunleashedshow] ⁠⁠ https://www.twitter.com/mindsueric⁠ [https://www.twitter.com/mindsueric⁠]

#13 Sara Roccisano - Wall Street Banker to Travel Storyteller (I Swam with Great White Sharks!)

Sara is an author, scuba diver, storyteller, and speaker. Chapters 01:14 Maintaining Mental Health During Unemployment 02:26 The Power of Creativity and Passion 08:25 Embarking on a Spiritual Journey 09:47 Authenticity and Self-Belief in Times of Uncertainty 12:38 Trusting Yourself and Letting Things Unfold 23:04 Sarah's Healing Journey and Ayahuasca Experience 29:32 Understanding Ayahuasca and Trusting the Process 34:59 The Importance of Research and Finding a Reputable Place for Ayahuasca 36:26 Surrendering and Trusting the Process 42:48 The Transformative Power of Love and Compassion 49:28 Exploring Other Avenues for Personal Development and Growth 55:16 Defining Happiness as a Feeling of Joy and Lightness 01:05:21 Discovering Purpose by Following One's Highest Passion Takeaways Finding creative outlets and pursuing passions can help boost mental health during periods of unemployment. Exploring spirituality and engaging in self-discovery can lead to personal growth and transformation. Authenticity, self-belief, and surrendering to the unknown are key in navigating unemployment. Trusting oneself and letting things unfold without expectations can lead to unexpected opportunities and outcomes. Do thorough research and find a reputable place before participating in an ayahuasca ceremony. Surrendering to the medicine and trusting the process is key Love and compassion can help overcome fear and difficult experiences. Explore other avenues for personal development and growth, such as scuba diving and listening to inspirational podcasts. Happiness is a feeling of joy and lightness. Purpose unfolds over time and can be discovered by following one's highest passion Sara's Links: https://www.instagram.com/emboldenadventures/ [https://www.instagram.com/emboldenadventures/] https://bio.site/EmboldenAdventures [https://bio.site/EmboldenAdventures] https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4hQ0dQZzPcWWOvkTImJjqQ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4hQ0dQZzPcWWOvkTImJjqQ] My Links: https://www.youtube.com/@TheMindsUnleashedShow [https://www.youtube.com/@TheMindsUnleashedShow] ⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/themindsueric⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/themindsueric⁠⁠] ⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@themindsunleashedshow [https://www.tiktok.com/@themindsunleashedshow] ⁠⁠ https://www.twitter.com/mindsueric⁠ [https://www.twitter.com/mindsueric⁠]

#12 Matthew Félix - Leave Your 9-5 & Follow Your Dreams

Matthew is a human potential life coach, author of 4 books, podcast host, traveler, and speaker. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:50 Leaving Corporate America 09:24 Stepping into the Unknown 15:22 Following Your Passion 31:38 Overcoming Comparison 40:17 The Journey of Writing 41:55 The Writing Process 47:35 Ghostwriting 01:09:18 Travel Recommendations 01:20:17 The Connection Between Travel and Writing 01:27:10 Developing Confidence in Intuition 01:33:31 Avoiding Self-Sabotage 01:43:05 Defining Happiness and Joy 01:48:46 Living a Life True to Oneself 01:54:40 Being of Service to Others Takeaways: Taking time off to explore creativity and find one's true calling is essential for personal fulfillment. Stepping into the unknown can be daunting but also exciting, as it opens up new possibilities. Comparing oneself to others is unproductive and can hinder personal growth and happiness. Writing a book is a unique process for each individual and requires taking action and embracing the unknown. Gratitude and focusing on one's own journey are key to finding fulfillment and success. The writing process varies for each individual and depends on the genre of writing. Writing a book can take years and requires consistency and discipline. Ghostwriting is a popular option for writers and can be a lucrative opportunity. When it comes to travel, starting with familiar destinations in Western Europe is recommended, followed by venturing into unfamiliar territories and experiencing the beauty of nature. Creating space and time for inspiration is important in the writing process. Traveling to different places can provide new perspectives and enhance creativity. Developing confidence in intuition requires creating space, listening to the inner voice, and trusting it. Avoid self-sabotage by being present, aware, and questioning limiting beliefs. Happiness is a deep, profound feeling of connection and joy. Life purpose is living a life true to oneself and being of service to others. Matthew's Links: https://www.instagram.com/matthewfelix/ [https://www.instagram.com/matthewfelix/] https://www.lifecoachmatthew.com/ [https://www.lifecoachmatthew.com/] https://www.matthewfelix.com/ [https://www.matthewfelix.com/] My Links: https://www.youtube.com/@TheMindsUnleashedShow [https://www.youtube.com/@TheMindsUnleashedShow] ⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/themindsueric⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/themindsueric⁠⁠] ⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@themindsunleashedshow [https://www.tiktok.com/@themindsunleashedshow] ⁠⁠ https://www.twitter.com/mindsueric⁠ [https://www.twitter.com/mindsueric⁠]

#11 Allyson Roberts - The Power of Self Love

Allyson is a cognitive behavioral expert, best-selling author of 4 books, and a TedX speaker. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 05:22 Understanding Codependency 08:25 Creating a Safe Space for Acceptance 12:18 Healing the Inner Child 15:17 Challenging Dysfunctional Patterns 31:01 The Decision to Place a Child for Adoption 39:36 Allyson's Journey in Education and Career 45:17 Working with Battered Women and Children 47:50 Reconnecting with a Long-Lost Son 52:26 Navigating Complex Family Relationships 56:03 The Importance of Setting Boundaries 01:05:37 Healing from Trauma and Prioritizing Self-Care 01:27:13 Finding Happiness in the Present Moment Takeaways: Healing from childhood trauma and codependency requires self-acceptance and the willingness to feel and process emotions. Creating a safe space for children and friends involves acceptance, open communication, and respecting boundaries. Placing a child for adoption can be a difficult but selfless decision, allowing the child to have a better life. Working in the field of helping battered women and children requires empathy and a strong commitment to supporting survivors. Personal growth and healing often involve facing and challenging dysfunctional patterns and beliefs. Placing a child for adoption can be a difficult decision, but it can also be an act of love and selflessness. Reconnecting with a child who was placed for adoption can be a powerful and emotional experience. Setting boundaries is crucial in maintaining healthy relationships, especially in complex family dynamics. Healing from trauma requires ongoing work and therapy, and it is important to prioritize self-care. Being fully present in the moment is key to experiencing true happiness and connection with others. Allyson's Links: https://www.instagram.com/allysonroberts_/ [https://www.instagram.com/allysonroberts_/] https://www.allysonroberts.com/ [https://www.allysonroberts.com/] https://linktr.ee/AllysonRoberts [https://linktr.ee/AllysonRoberts] My Links: https://www.youtube.com/@TheMindsUnleashedShow [https://www.youtube.com/@TheMindsUnleashedShow] ⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/themindsueric⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/themindsueric⁠⁠] ⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@themindsunleashedshow [https://www.tiktok.com/@themindsunleashedshow] ⁠⁠ https://www.twitter.com/mindsueric⁠ [https://www.twitter.com/mindsueric⁠]