The Self-Help Delusion

The Self-Help Delusion

The idea behind “self-help” has good intensions. It aims to empower you to change your life for the better, and that sounds very glamorous, doesn’t it? The foundation that self-help is built on though, is what makes it a bit flaky… In this episode we take a deeper look at what the problem is with self-help and what the better alternative is to living a more balanced life.

Mental Toughness - A 3D approach to success

When we think of the idea of success, whatever that might look like to you, how do we take the first step in achieving "success"? What does it take to achieve your goals and reach the desired outcomes that you aim for? In this episode, we will use a Mental Toughness approach and utilize a 3-dimensional strategy that can be used in every aspect of life in order to achieve success. Feel free to leave your comments or questions in the comment section below. Also, please remember to like, rate and share the podcast episode on Spotify and any of your favourite podcast platforms. https://tonywake.com https://linktr.ee/tonywake

Getting over Guilt

Guilt has an incredible way of popping up even when we’re barely doing anything "wrong" at all.  Most of us learn guilt throughout normal childhood development.  Guilt alerts us when we’ve stepped outside of the boundaries of our core  values. It makes us take responsibility when we’ve done something wrong  and helps us to develop a greater sense of self-awareness.    The feeling of guilt forces us to examine how our behaviour affects  others and make changes so that we don’t make the same mistake again. However, there is a MASSIVE difference between “healthy” and “unhealthy” guilt.  How can we learn to deal with guilt — accepting it when it is appropriate and letting it go when it’s unnecessary?  For more, go to:     https://linktr.ee/TheTonyWake

How to get over Shame

Shame is among the most “use-less” of human emotions, with the power to convince us that that little voice in our head is right after all—you know, the one that says “You’re not good enough,” or “You’ll never really belong,” or “Who would actually love you?” It’s not only an excruciatingly painful feeling, but also a universal one. Rich or poor, overweight or fit, successful or barely making eds meet, we all experience shame from time to time, whether we admit it or not (and we usually don’t). Shame can force us to alienate ourselves and seek refuge in unhealthy manners such as or addiction, violence, aggression, depression, eating disorders and bullying. Hence why it’s crucial that we learn ways to deal with it and to build healthy barriers against it. More here: https://tonywake.com [https://tonywake.com/] https://youtube.com/tonywaketv [https://youtube.com/tonywaketv] https://facebook.com/thetonywake [https://facebook.com/thetonywake] https://instagram.com/thetonywake [https://instagram.com/thetonywake]

How to deal with Blame

Life isn’t perfect. Things go wrong, mistakes are made, accidents and unforeseen circumstances happen, and at times our hopes get shattered. Through all of life's experiences and the challenges we each face; is your default reaction to find somebody or something else to blame? A lot of things that happen to us are the result of multiple contributing factors, and can be caused by a mix of our own actions as well as those of other people. Life is not a spectator sport and our interaction in it is what causes the experiences we have. If you find yourself trying to pass the buck for every mistake you make, then it’s probably gotten you into trouble in the past… …especially if you try to shift the blame onto your partner, family, best friends, or people you have to work closely with. Life is all about making mistakes. Because it’s when we go through and moving past the mistakes that we learn how to do things right, isn't it? If we never accept that we’ve made a mistake, how can we ever learn to do things better? With that in mind, let’s have a think about some of the reasons why we can be tempted to blame others, followed by a look at how to kick the habit of shifting the blame for our problems. For more go to: https://tonywake.com [https://tonywake.com] https://youtube.com/tonywaketv [https://youtube.com/tonywaketv] https://facebook.com/thetonywake [https://facebook.com/thetonywake] https://instagram.com/thetonywake [https://instagram.com/thetonywake]