The New Reality with Money After Divorce

Core Values In Parenting: What Children Learn from Everyday Moments

In this episode, I sit down with leadership mentor and values-based coach, Adalena Oliver, about core values, those beliefs that guide decisions when no one is watching and how they shape parenting through what children observe in everyday moments.  Adelena shares how recognizing misalignment with her values, especially freedom, influenced her leadership and personal choices.  She recounts a childhood lesson that set her on a course of discovering the true meaning of core values. Adalena explains her Developmental Core Values Theory, emphasizing that values show up differently across life stages and that parents often err by punishing without curiosity about their children’s level of understanding, thoughts, and intentions.  We discuss principles like modeling values, apologizing, and restoring trust, as well as deciding which inherited practices to keep or change amid cultural and technology-driven pressures. If you’ve been wondering how to impart crucial values and ideals to your children in a meaningful way, tune in for tips to get you started.   CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome  01:07 Why Values Matter 02:21 Defining Core Values 06:01 Adalena’s Values Journey 12:15 Values Across Stages 14:39 Stop Scolding Start Being Curious 20:20 Consequences and Repair 25:53 Daily Values Conversations 29:24 Breaking Dysfunction Cycles 33:45 Unpopular Value Choices 39:29 Where To Follow Adalena 39:57 Final Takeaways  Check out our brand partners for this episode:  The Parenting 411 -  Motherhood can be beautiful and heavy at the same time. The Ministry of Mom Experience is a space for moms to breathe, connect, and be renewed—spiritually and emotionally. Learn more: https://www.ministryofmom.com [https://www.ministryofmom.com] Chewy – Keep your pet well-fed, well-dressed, and most of all, well loved with all the things you need at Chewy. Shop here: https://bit.ly/4nVp7Sv [https://bit.ly/4nVp7Sv]  **For more of our Favorite Finds for Moms and Families, click here: https://mave.ly/p411picks [https://mave.ly/p411picks] 👍  If this episode helps you, please like, subscribe, and share with a mom who wants to raise kids with character. #FamilyValues #Leadership #RoleModels #TheParenting411 #ParentInPurpose #MothersWork ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Let's stay connected: Website: http://www.theparenting411.com/ [http://www.theparenting411.com/]  IG: http://www.instagram.com/the_parenting_411 [http://www.instagram.com/the_parenting_411] Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/theparenting411 [http://www.facebook.com/theparenting411] YouTube:  http://www.youtube.com/@TheParenting411 [http://www.youtube.com/@TheParenting411]

From Trauma to Transformation: Creating Emotional Safety at Home

Today, I’m joined by Samira Jones, founder of Smarter Resilience and the nonprofit Survivors Advocates Voices Emerging (SAVE), for a heartfelt conversation about helping families navigate fear, anxiety, trauma, and life’s hardest seasons. Samira unpacks her SMART framework for resilience: Self-Awareness, Mindset Mastery, Action with Intention, Reinforcing Actions, and Transformation. She explains how resilience is not about simply returning to who you were before hardship, but about learning how to move forward with greater clarity, strength, and purpose. During the conversation, Samira shares a deeply personal part of her story.  It became a turning point, leading her to publicly name her truth and deepen her commitment to helping others heal and “bounce forward.”  Carol and Samira also explore what it looks like to create emotional safety at home.  Finally, this episode also highlights the reality that parents bring their own triggers into family life.  If you’ve ever wondered how to support your child through difficult emotions while tending to your own healing too, this conversation offers compassionate insight and practical encouragement. Connect with Samira L. Jones through her podcast, her book, and SurvivorsMag.com to learn more about her work.   CHAPTERS 00:00 - Welcome 02:22 What Is the SMART Framework? 05:54 The Moment of Truth 11:26 Building Emotional Safety at Home 21:52 Anxiety Warning Signs 23:19 When Kids Trigger Trauma 29:58 Reconciliation After Mistakes 33:05 Proud Mom Reflections 36:37 Where To Find Samira 37:37 Closing Thoughts CHECK OUT OUR BRAND PARTNERS for this episode.  The Parenting 411 - Feeling spiritually drained or running on empty? The Ministry of Mom Experience is a faith-centered day designed to help moms reset, refuel, and reconnect—while gaining practical parenting tools you can use right away. Get the details at https://www.ministryofmom.com  Ulta – Dermalogica Moms can keep their skin refreshed with Phyto Nature Firming Serum by Dermalogica. Grab yours from Ulta with link: https://bit.ly/4nj6Ezd.   **For more of our Favorite Finds for Moms and Families, click here: https://mave.ly/p411picks  👍 If this episode helps you, please like, subscribe, and share with a mom who’s carrying too much. #TheParenting411Podcast #Family Trauma #FamilyHealing #MentalHealth #Reconciliation #Anxiety #Trauma  ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Let's stay connected: Website: http://www.theparenting411.com/  IG: http://www.instagram.com/the_parenting_411 Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/theparenting411 YouTube:  http://www.youtube.com@TheParenting411

Managing the ‘Mother Load’ While Building a Brand

Julie Cole calls herself a “recovered lawyer”.  She’s the mom of six, and co-founder of Mabel’s Labels, the now award-winning, multimillion-dollar label company that started in a basement. Julie tells the real story behind growing a business while raising a big family, navigating an autism diagnosis, and learning that self-care sometimes looks less like spa days…and more like boundaries, help, and lowering your standards without shame. This conversation is equal parts inspiring and practical—with plenty of takeaways for moms who are building dreams, raising kids, and trying to do it all without burning out. In This Episode, You’ll Hear About: * How Julie Cole and her co-founders spotted a market gap that became Mabel’s Labels * Why durability mattered so much…including the early dishwasher testing during R&D * What it took to launch and grow a brand before social media * The power of grassroots marketing: free press, word-of-mouth, early mom bloggers, and later social platforms * The real-life cost of entrepreneurship for moms: late nights, sacrifices, and aligning co-founders * What Julie’s “self-care season” really looked like while raising six kids Learn more about Julie at https://mabelslabels.com   CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome 02:03 Meet Julie Cole 07:14 From Basement R&D to Launch: Building an Early E‑Commerce Brand 13:31 Tips for Moms with a Business Idea 17:03 Self‑Care Reality Check 22:46 Raising Independent Kids: Chores, Responsibility & ‘Don’t Do It For Them’ 30:35 The ‘Mother Load’: Invisible Labor, Decision Fatigue & Workplace Flexibility 36:51 What She’s Most Proud Of: Role Modeling, Culture & Building a Company Community 39:37 Advice for Moms: Find Your People, Curate Social Media & Take the Next Step 41:09 Closing Thoughts   CHECK OUT OUR BRAND PARTNERS for this episode. The Parenting 411 - Feeling spiritually drained or running on empty? The Ministry of Mom Experience is a faith-centered day designed to help moms reset, refuel, and reconnect—while gaining practical parenting tools you can use right away. Get the details at https://www.ministryofmom.com [https://www.ministryofmom.com/] Chewy – Keep your pet well-fed, well-dressed, and most of all, well loved with all the things you need at Chewy. Shop here: https://bit.ly/4nVp7Sv [https://bit.ly/4nVp7Sv] **For more of our Favorite Finds for Moms and Families, click here: https://mave.ly/p411picks 👍 If this episode helps you, please like, subscribe, and share with a mom who’s carrying too much. #MotherLoad #momLife #parentingSupport #Branding #Entrepreneur #workingMoms #TheParenting411Podcast

Can AI Help Stressed Parents? - Real Talk about Managing Family Life

Feeling overwhelmed by the invisible mental load of parenting?   Appointments. Email.   School updates.  Birthday parties. And the pressure to “do it all”? In this episode of The Parenting 411 Podcast, I talk with Amy Briggs, a pediatric speech-language pathologist, mom, and creator of Aviva, an AI-powered scheduling assistant built to help families reclaim time, reduce stress, and stay present. Amy shares what she witnessed in families’ homes post-pandemic: rising standards, constant guilt, and moms apologizing for not keeping up. We unpack executive functioning (your brain’s “conductor”), why scheduling is emotional, and how practical support can bring you back to connection and joy. Amy also addresses common concerns about AI, including privacy and control. Learn more about Amy Briggs and Aviva at https://www.withaviva.com/ [https://www.withaviva.com/]   CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome + Ministry of Mom invite 01:06 Invisible mental load + meet Amy Briggs 08:06 Executive functioning for parents 14:08 Why scheduling triggers anxiety 20:59 Can AI reduce parental stress? 23:48 How Aviva works for real family life 26:11 4 hours back + fewer dropped balls 29:24 “No trophy for doing it all” 35:07 Closing + community invite    Check out our brand partners for this episode:   The Parenting 411: Motherhood can be beautiful and heavy at the same time. The Ministry of Mom Experience is a space for moms to breathe, connect, and be renewed—spiritually and emotionally. Grab your copy:  https://www.mothersworkthebook.com [https://www.mothersworkthebook.com/]  Ulta – Dermalogica Moms can keep their skin refreshed with Phyto Nature Firming Serum by Dermalogica. Grab yours from Ulta with link: mavely.app.link/e/d1yGDmi0CXb [https://mavely.app.link/e/d1yGDmi0CXb]   Don’t forget to sign up for The Ministry of Mom Experience (Washington, DC) — May 2: A faith-centered day to reset and walk away with practical parenting tools and encouragement. Register at https://www.ministryofmom.com [https://www.ministryofmom.com/]   **For more of our Favorite Finds for Moms and Families, click here: https://mave.ly/p411picks [https://mave.ly/p411picks]   If this episode helps you, please like, subscribe, and share with a mom who’s carrying too much.   #mentalLoad #momLife #parentingSupport #executiveFunctioning #familyScheduling #workingMoms #TheParenting411Podcast

The New Reality with Money After Divorce

For this conversation, I just had to bring Donna Cates back. You'll recall she's a financial expert and certified divorce financial analyst who knows her stuff. Our conversation is short but loaded with nuggets divorcing moms need to know. We talk about the emotional and practical impacts of divorce on children, focusing on how parents can manage financial disparities and communicate effectively to maintain stability for their kids. Donna offers insights on handling alimony and child support, emphasizing the importance of predictability and creating positive experiences. The discussion highlights tools like Our Family Wizard to facilitate co-parenting communication. Tune in for valuable advice on leading with wisdom and fairness during challenging times. Connect with Donna: • Website: MoneyMattersWealth.com • Social: Money Matters Wealth Solutions (and “Donna Cates”)   CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome 00:33 Special Invitation: Ministry of Mom Experience 01:06 Introducing Financial Expert Donna Cates 01:53 Discussing Lifestyle Adjustments with Children 04:20 Understanding Child Support and Alimony 07:19 Ongoing Practices for Co-Parenting 08:44 Financial Truths Children Need to Hear 10:51 Connecting with Donna Cates 13:11 Final Thoughts #KidsAndDivorce #CoParenting #EmotionalWellbeing #PeacefulParenting #DoItForTheKids The Parenting 411: Motherhood can be beautiful and heavy at the same time. The Ministry of Mom Experience is a space for moms to breathe, connect, and be renewed—spiritually and emotionally. Learn more: https://www.ministryofmom.com [https://www.ministryofmom.com] Ulta - Dermalogica:   Moms can keep their skin refreshed with Phyto Nature Firming Serum by Dermalogica. Grab yours from Ulta with link: https://bit.ly/4nj6Ezd [https://bit.ly/4nj6Ezd] **For more of our Favorite Finds for Moms and Families, click here: https://mave.ly/p411picks [https://mave.ly/p411picks] #DivorceFinancialPlanning #DivorceSupport #WomenAndMoney #SingleMomSupport #CoParenting #ChildSupport #529Plan #FinancialEmpowerment #DivorceAdvice #TheParenting411Podcast ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Let's stay connected: Website: http://www.theparenting411.com/ [http://www.theparenting411.com/] IG: http://www.instagram.com/the_parenting_411 [http://www.instagram.com/the_parenting_411] Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/theparenting411 [http://www.facebook.com/theparenting411] YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@TheParenting411 [http://www.youtube.com/@TheParenting411]