The Ready For Polyamory Podcast

Do you hear words like "compersion" and "metamour" and cringe internally? Or are you someone who is excited to have in-group markers like talking about a Kitchen Table relationship? This episode talks about when these terms are useful, when they're less so, why we use them, and the definitions of some of the most common ones. I maintain the most frequently cited Polyamory Glossary online, at https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/polyamor [https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/polyamor]... but I am not an unconditional jargon booster - learn more in today's episode. (and make sure you and your partners are on the same page when using terms!) See you next week, when hopefully I start to get better at YouTube. You can find me at most other socials @readyforpolyamory, and I'll be teaching a class for Wicked Grounds on Jan 26 on Negotiation for Edgeplay (because I teach kink stuff not just polyam stuff) and you can find links to all my upcoming things in my linktree: https://linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory [https://linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory]

In a conversation that ranges a little beyond both books, Laura and Andrea Zanin discuss: What is Post-Non-Monogamy? Does it matter whether non-monogamy is an identity? What benefit can we glean from a post-non-monogamous identity? What are some reasons one might be post-non-monogamous? The flexibility of this concept and identity More than two, second edition, and what parts of it Andrea is most proud of putting into the world, as well as the process of taking the ten year old book apart and putting it back together. The future of non-monogamy. This conversation got a little deep, but also very funny, and I hope you all enjoy it. Andrea Zanin was an absolute delight to interview as well as to read, and you should go out and get their books. You can get Post-Nonmonogamy and Beyond from Bookshop here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/post-nonmonogamy-and-beyond-more-than-two-essentials-guide-andrea-zanin/20579162?ean=9781990869556 [https://bookshop.org/p/books/post-nonmonogamy-and-beyond-more-than-two-essentials-guide-andrea-zanin/20579162?ean=9781990869556] Or find a list of ways to get and review it as well as upcoming events here: https://thornapplepress.ca/books/post-nonmonogamy-and-beyond/ [https://thornapplepress.ca/books/post-nonmonogamy-and-beyond/] And likewise More Than Two, Second Edition can be found here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/more-than-two-cultivating-nonmonogamous-relationships-with-kindness-and-integrity-eve-rickert/20964103?ean=9781990869587 [https://bookshop.org/p/books/more-than-two-cultivating-nonmonogamous-relationships-with-kindness-and-integrity-eve-rickert/20964103?ean=9781990869587] and a more complete list of ways to get it and upcoming events promoting it are here: https://thornapplepress.ca/books/more-than-two/ [https://thornapplepress.ca/books/more-than-two/] You can find Laura & her upcoming book events here: https://readyforpolyamory.com/events [https://readyforpolyamory.com/events]

Eve Rickert, co-author of both editions of More Than Two, is on the show to discuss the process of creating More Than Two, Second Edition, what about it is different, why a second edition, and more. You can get More Than Two, Second Edition anywhere books are sold, with the official release date Sept 2, but preorder from the links provided by Thornapple Press here to support them: https://thornapplepress.ca/books/more-than-two/ [https://thornapplepress.ca/books/more-than-two/] You can follow MTT 2nd Edition on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/mttbook/ [https://www.instagram.com/mttbook/] Laura and Ready for polyamory have a big book release coming up as well; get Monogamy? In this Economy? before it comes out Aug 21, check out tour stops as they get added, class dates, and more at my linktree here: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory

"In Parable of the Sower, Octavia Butler has that affirmation, change is the only constant - and I think that's an important way to look at these life transitions. We can't be trying to stop change from happening, for us or for our kids." Libby Sinback of Making Polyamory Work sits down with Laura in this episode to discuss big life changes this week, and how they affect us, as polyamorous folks - especially through the lens of the two of us as polyamorous parents. Much is made, often, of trying to minimize changes in our lives - at least as they'll impact our families - but the reality is that our lives can be seen as a series of choices and changes, so today we talk about lenses, questions and strategies for listeners to consider and take away as they move through big changes, expected and not, and "positive" or "negative." (Remember - a "negative" change like a divorce, deescalation or move out might still be a net positive in the lives of those involved, but have a bunch of bumpiness or messiness on the way - so let's think of ways to navigate them while remaining in our values to the best of our ability.) Libby Sinback is a relationship coach, educator, and host of the podcast, Making Polyamory Work. She helps people who want to live and love outside the status quo break out of the harmful relationship patterns that are holding them back from nourishing, authentic, boundless love in their life. Libby believes love is why we are here and how we heal. You can find Libby at her website http://libbysinback.com [http://libbysinback.com], her podcast https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/makingpolywork [https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/makingpolywork] , and her upcoming group the foundations of open relating here:https://www.libbysinback.com/foundations-of-open-relating [https://www.libbysinback.com/foundations-of-open-relating]. She also wrote the foreword to Laura's upcoming book, Monogamy? In this Economy? Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory, which you can find for preorder here: https://bookshop.org/a/101457/9781805011187 [https://bookshop.org/a/101457/9781805011187] Non-men can join Laura for the women&femmes support group every second Sunday, the upcoming one May 19 has all proceeds donated to a GFM for a Palestinian family: https://femmessupport5.eventbrite.com [https://femmessupport5.eventbrite.com] Laura is moderating (and occasionally giving snarky commentary to) a class by the brilliant Dr. Marie Thouin called Compersion and You based on her new book, the first research-based book on compersion, on 06/06/2024, join us! http://compersion.eventbrite.com [http://compersion.eventbrite.com] Laura and Sarah Casper will be co-teaching a class on 06/09/2024, Building and Breaking Boundaries, come check it out and bring your questions about boundary setting in interpersonal relationships: http://buildingboundaries1.eventbrite.com [http://buildingboundaries1.eventbrite.com] Special Guest: Libby Sinback.

Laura sits down with Evie Lupine to discuss kink, asexuality, and non-monogamy and polyamory and how these intersect for Evie as well as the larger community. Evie shares her experience as an asexual person who finds that a lot of nonmonogamous dating includes "the social dance where people expect the first date to be a nicety they must complete to get to the sex"; and "even folks who express a lot of understanding verbally and have other partners can seem confused or disappointed when it remains that I'm asexual several months into a relationship." We talk a little about the contrast between the polyamorous "public face" of "it's about the LOVE not the SEX" versus her actual lived experience. The episode actually opens with a detailed discussion of the many platforms that have come and gone for sharing information on sexuality, nonmonogamy, and kink, and the ways it's informed and changed the actual experience of end users and of educators and creators, as well. Evie Lupine is a YouTuber, asexual sex educator, and loud advocate for understanding in the BDSM community online. You can find twice-weekly videos from her on non-monogamy and kink on her YouTube channel, and some additional information and services (she does advice!) on her Patreon; Twitter and Instagram have pages for her but are somewhat disused. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EvieLupine [https://www.youtube.com/c/EvieLupine] Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine [https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine] & https://www.patreon.com/evielupine2 [https://www.patreon.com/evielupine2] for 1:1 chats, video calls and advice Twitter: https://twitter.com/EvieLupine [https://twitter.com/EvieLupine] Instagram: @evie.lupine