You’re Not Lazy… You’re Living Wrong

Ministry, Fatherhood & Identity with Sam Moldenhauer

Steven sits down with pastor, husband, father, and longtime friend Sam Moldenhauer for an honest conversation about ministry, identity, leadership, and the transformative journey of fatherhood. Together they explore how becoming a father exposes areas of selfishness, pride, and misplaced identity while deepening our understanding of God's love and the responsibility of leading others well. Sam shares lessons learned through ministry, foster care, raising young children, and serving the next generation. The conversation dives into the tension between leadership at home and leadership in ministry, what today's students are searching for, and why authentic discipleship matters more than ever. Whether you're a father, husband, ministry leader, or simply seeking to follow Jesus faithfully, this episode offers practical wisdom, encouragement, and hope for the road ahead. Topics include: • Fatherhood and spiritual growth• Ministry and identity• Foster care and family life• Leadership at home and in the church• Reaching the next generation• Following Jesus in everyday life

Why Is It So Hard for Men to Pray Out Loud?

Why is it so hard for men to pray out loud?This is something most guys feel… but almost no one talks about.You know you should pray.You believe in God.But when it’s time to actually say something out loud in front of other people…everything tightens up.This episode breaks down:• why prayer starts to feel like performance• where the pressure actually comes from• how to move from anxiety → relationship• and how to practically get comfortable praying out loud“Prayer was never meant to impress people.It was meant to connect with your Father.”If you’ve ever sat in a circle thinking“please don’t pick me to pray…”this one’s for you.🎧 Listen. Apply it. Then go do it.

Why Your Words Don’t Match Your Faith (2 Seconds)

There’s a gap most people don’t think about.You pray.You thank God.You lead your family.And then two seconds later…your words sound completely different.This episode is about that gap.Based on James 3, we’re talking about:• how your words reveal what’s actually in your heart• why your tone matters just as much as your words• how easy it is to slip into anger, gossip, or intensity• and the simple, practical habit that can change everythingThe idea is simple:It only takes two secondsto say something you don’t meanBut it also only takes two secondsto stop itThis isn’t about being perfect.It’s about becoming awareand choosing differently in the moment

You Only Get One Body. Are You Taking Care of It?

You only get one body. So what are you doing with it? In this episode, we talk about something most men ignore until it’s too late taking care of your body in the middle of real life. If you’re a dad, busy, tired, and feel like you don’t have time to focus on your health, this is for you. This isn’t about becoming a fitness expert or overhauling your life overnight. This is about awareness, stewardship, and making small decisions that actually move you forward. We talk about: • Why most men feel exhausted • How daily habits impact your energy • The idea of “kill it or build it” • Why removing things matters more than adding • How to start taking care of your body with limited time At the end of the day, your body impacts everything your energy, your clarity, your ability to lead your family. You can either slowly run yourself down… or start building something better. 0:00 Introduction 0:25 Why This Matters 1:05 The Tom Cruise Example 1:50 Observations from the Gym 2:30 Taking Care of Your Body 3:15 My Current Routine 4:00 Diet and Sugar 4:45 Living in a Culture of Consumption 5:30 Food and Health Perspective 6:15 Evaluating Your Health 7:00 Faith and Stewardship 7:45 The “Average” Problem 8:30 Feeling Fine vs Being Healthy 9:15 Choosing Your Hard 10:00 Time and Priorities 10:45 Subtracting Instead of Adding 11:30 Where Time Goes 12:15 Replacing Habits 13:00 Energy Drinks and Choices 13:45 What to Eliminate First 14:30 Thoughts on Alcohol 15:30 Why I Stepped Away 16:30 What Changed After 17:30 Creating Capacity 18:30 Life with Young Kids 19:30 Realization and Change 20:30 Impact on Daily Life 21:30 Kill It or Build It 22:15 Small Changes Add Up 23:00 What Can You Remove 23:40 Weekly Challenge

You’re Not Lazy… You’re Living Wrong

Most men don’t actually lack motivation. They lack clarity on who they are and what they’re meant to do. If you feel stuck, distracted, or constantly choosing comfort over growth, this is the conversation you need to hear. In this episode, we break down why so many men fall into cycles of self pleasure, distraction, and average living and why discipline alone is not the real answer. The deeper issue is identity. This is about more than motivation. It is about becoming the man you were created to be. You will learn: • Why chasing motivation always fails • The real reason you stay stuck in comfort • How purpose and faith unlock consistent action • Why most men never reach their potential • How to start building momentum with what you already have If you are a man searching for purpose, direction, or clarity in life, this will challenge you. Growth for men starts when you stop waiting and start aligning your life with who God made you to be. Your next step is simple: Cut one distraction this week and replace it with action that builds your future. 0:00 – Welcome Back 0:20 – Why Motivation Feels So Hard 1:05 – What We Think Motivation Is 1:50 – Why You Feel Stuck 2:35 – Comparing Yourself to Others 3:20 – Living an Average Life 4:10 – What We Can Learn from History 4:55 – Why Most People Never Change 5:30 – My Book Story and First Breakthrough 6:40 – Where Real Motivation Comes From 7:25 – The Problem with Self Pleasure 8:10 – The $500 Decision 9:30 – Turning Time into Assets 10:20 – Using Your Skills to Move Forward 11:05 – Why Identity Matters First 11:55 – Calling vs Comfort 12:50 – Rethinking Work and Purpose 13:50 – Finding Your Direction 14:45 – My Shift into AI 16:10 – You Were Designed for Something 17:00 – Stop Waiting for Clarity 17:50 – Aligning with God’s Will 18:50 – The Hard Truth About Comfort 19:50 – Replacing Distractions with Action 20:50 – Start with What You Have 21:50 – You Only Need 30 Minutes 22:40 – Stop Making Excuses 23:30 – Your Weekly Challenge