Why High Achievers Lose Control at Night and How to Stop ft. Nadege Saysana | Massimo Rigotti

How High Achievers Can Stop Running on Fear ft. Steve Barton | Massimo Rigotti

“You are already a 10.” – Steve Barton Steve Barton Website: https://www.stevebartoncoaching.com [https://www.stevebartoncoaching.com] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/service-marketplace/projects/15194679164/ [https://www.linkedin.com/service-marketplace/projects/15194679164/] Co-author of The Father, The Son and The Aha Moment Massimo Rigotti sits down with Steve Barton, business builder, creator of the Game of 10, and a registered health and wellness coach whose process was presented to the Harvard Business School case study team. Steve has spent decades helping high-achieving men who look completely in control on the outside but are quietly managing intense internal pressure — fear, self-doubt, guilt, and shame. Steve shares his own powerful awakening at age 36 after running his family business and realizing he had “everything in the world but wasn’t happy.” He explains the key distinction between discipline-based sobriety and true awareness-based self-mastery. Through his simple, real-time framework — The Game of 10 — he teaches high performers how to shift from being driven by fear and ego to living from presence, authenticity, and inner peace without needing escapes. The six core declarations — I am a 10. I’m doing the best I can with the awareness I have. I am enough. I do enough. I have enough. — become an active meditation that quiets the racing mind and aligns thoughts, feelings, and actions with your innate divine state of being. This conversation maps directly onto the S.O.B.E.R. Method, especially the Observe → Behavior → Execute cycle. Steve’s Game of 10 gives listeners a practical way to catch internal noise in real time and respond from awareness instead of reaction. The S.O.B.E.R. Move for This Week (Direct from the Episode) Observe one moment today when internal noise — fear, self-doubt, guilt, shame, or the urge to escape into work or old habits — starts to run the show. Pause and name it. Ask yourself: “Am I at a 10 right now or am I identified with thought?” Execute by silently or out loud declaring the Game of 10 phrases: I am a 10. I’m doing the best I can with the awareness I have. I am enough. I do enough. I have enough. Repeat this active meditation at least three times this week and notice the difference between being run by the noise versus living from clarity and calm. Listener Action Steps • Visit https://www.stevebartoncoaching.com [https://www.stevebartoncoaching.com] to learn more about the Game of 10 and Steve’s coaching. • Memorize and practice the six Game of 10 declarations daily as an active meditation. • Run one full S.O.B.E.R. cycle this week using the Game of 10 when internal pressure arises. • Share this episode with a high-achieving man who looks successful on the outside but carries heavy internal pressure. Your Future is S.O.B.E.R.™ Explore the S.O.B.E.R. Method Website: https://sobermethod.com [https://sobermethod.com] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sobermethod/ [https://www.instagram.com/sobermethod/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sobermethod [https://www.youtube.com/@sobermethod] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sobermethod [https://www.tiktok.com/@sobermethod] Massimo Rigotti, The S.O.B.E.R. Method Podcast

Why High Achievers Lose Control at Night and How to Stop ft. Nadege Saysana | Massimo Rigotti

“Be curious instead of furious.” – Nadege Saysana   Nadege “Nan” Saysana Website: https://www.milobingefix.com/ [https://www.milobingefix.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nan.saysana.coaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/nan.saysana.coaching/] LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/nan-saysana/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/nan-saysana/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nadege.saysana1/ [https://www.facebook.com/nadege.saysana1/] YouTube: https://youtube.com/@nadegesaysanacoaching [https://youtube.com/@nadegesaysanacoaching]   Massimo Rigotti sits down with Nan Saysana, founder of Milo BingeFix and Havening techniques practitioner. Nan helps high-achieving women who stay incredibly disciplined all day yet lose control at night with food, scrolling, or other numbing behaviors. Drawing from her own 30-year journey, she reveals that the root cause is rarely the food itself but deep patterns of “I’m not good enough,” stress, and perfectionism. She shares rapid, neuroscience-backed tools, including simple Havening touch and breathwork that can interrupt the urge loop in under 10 seconds. The conversation maps directly onto the S.O.B.E.R. Method, giving listeners concrete ways to observe the first flicker of the urge, name what is really happening, and execute a grounded response before momentum builds. The S.O.B.E.R. Listener Action Steps • Visit https://www.milobingefix.com/ [https://www.milobingefix.com/] to explore Nan’s work with high-achieving women and sign up for her free masterclass “I just ate dinner. Why do I want more?” or the free gift “How Not to Eat Everything After Dinner.” • Practice one Havening or grounding technique (hand-rubbing or deep breathing) at least three times today, even when you are not in an urge moment, so it becomes available when the urge hits. • Run the full S.O.B.E.R. cycle on one nighttime trigger this week and journal what you notice. • Share this episode with a high-achieving friend who stays disciplined all day but struggles once the house gets quiet. Your Future is S.O.B.E.R.™ You do not need more willpower. You need better tools and a kinder inner voice. Nan’s practical neuroscience techniques prove that you can catch the urge in seconds, respond with self-compassion, and build the trust in yourself that lasts long after the lights go out. The sober, steady version of you is already there. You are simply learning how to let her lead. Explore the S.O.B.E.R. Method Website: https://sobermethod.com [https://sobermethod.com] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sobermethod/ [https://www.instagram.com/sobermethod/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sobermethod [https://www.youtube.com/@sobermethod] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sobermethod [https://www.tiktok.com/@sobermethod] Massimo Rigotti, The S.O.B.E.R. Method Podcast

“He Wasn’t an Addict…He Was My Son”: A Mother’s Fight Against Shame and Silence ft. Katie Rizzo

“There’s nothing to be ashamed of. I would rather have Nicholas here any day than have him gone.” – Katie Rizzo Katie Rizzo Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katierizzo007/ [https://www.instagram.com/katierizzo007/] Website & Books: https://www.katierizzo.com/ [https://www.katierizzo.com/] The Trimesters of Grief (memoir) – available wherever books are sold Massimo Rigotti launches the Perspectives Bonus Series with Katie Rizzo, mother, high school teacher, and author of the upcoming memoir The Trimesters of Grief. Katie shares the heartbreaking story of losing her 25-year-old son Nicholas to an accidental overdose involving oxycodone and Xanax. Nicholas was a gifted soccer player, a people-pleaser who struggled with anxiety, and a young man who never felt he was enough despite being deeply loved. What began with sports injuries and prescribed painkillers spiraled into years of rehabs, shame, secrecy, and family heartbreak. Katie speaks candidly about the stigma she and Nicholas faced, the self-blame that nearly defined her, and her refusal to let her son be remembered only as “an addict.” Katie introduces her powerful framework, The Trimesters of Grief, likening the grieving process to pregnancy: the disorienting first trimester, the isolating second trimester when the world moves on, and the third trimester in which grief becomes something you must nurture daily while still showing up for life. Through poetry, art, saying “yes” to others, and doing esteemable things, she is learning to carry both her love for Nicholas and the grief that remains. This episode shines a light on the often-invisible side of addiction, the toll it takes on parents, siblings, and marriages, and the quiet strength required to fight shame and silence. Key Takeaways • Addiction is a family disease fueled by shame and stigma. • “He wasn’t an addict… he was my son” — a powerful reminder of the human being behind the struggle. • Grief does not have an expiration date; it must be carried and befriended. • Doing esteemable things rebuilds self-worth for both those in recovery and those left behind. • Society’s “willpower and rock bottom” approach leaves too many families broken. Listener Reflection for This Week 1. Observe one moment when shame or self-blame arises—about your own past or someone you love. 2. Name it without judgment: “This is the disease speaking, not the truth about me or them.” 3. Choose one small, esteemable act of self-compassion or connection. 4. Execute it at least three times this week and notice how it shifts what you are carrying. Listener Action Steps • Pre-order or follow The Trimesters of Grief. • Follow Katie on Instagram @katierizzo007 for poetry and reflections. • If you are supporting someone in addiction or walking through grief, attend one grief support meeting this week. • Share this episode with any parent or loved one who feels alone in their struggle. Your Future is S.O.B.E.R.™ Addiction does not define the person we love — or the person left behind. Katie’s courage reminds us that even in the deepest grief, love and legacy endure. You are not alone. Healing is possible. Hope is real. Explore the S.O.B.E.R. Method Website and Work with Massimo: sobermethod.com [http://sobermethod.com] All socials: @sobermethod Massimo Rigotti, The S.O.B.E.R. Method Podcast

How to Break Addiction Habits Before They Reach Your Kids ft. Chris Rogers | Massimo Rigotti

“It’s not the thing, it’s the place from which it’s coming from.” – Chris Rogers Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebootedteen/ [https://www.instagram.com/rebootedteen/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@rebootedteen [https://www.youtube.com/@rebootedteen] Free Rebooted Teen Parent Program: https://www.rebootedteen.com [https://www.rebootedteen.com] Massimo Rigotti sits down with Chris Rogers, certified recovery coach and founder of Rebooted Teen. Chris turned his own long struggle with compulsive pornographic use into a mission helping parents break generational cycles of addiction and digital dependence. They discuss how successful parents can quietly battle their own patterns while fearing their kids are suffering in silence. Chris shares practical red flags (secrecy around devices, over-sexualized language, cynicism about relationships, apps like TikTok, YouTube, Discord, and Snapchat), shame-free ways to start conversations, and why the real target is never the behavior itself but the underlying emotional needs. Key tools from the Rebooted Teen Program include the Park Bench Exercise (dialoguing with your future rebooted self) and Internal Family Systems dialoguing with sub-personalities to build self-awareness without shame. The episode emphasizes values-driven decisions, modeling the confidence you want your children to develop, and why recovery is an inside-out process. This conversation aligns powerfully with the S.O.B.E.R. Method, showing parents how to Observe their own nervous-system reactions, design calm responses, and Execute new behaviors that break cycles before they reach the next generation. The S.O.B.E.R. Move for This Week 1. Observe one moment this week when your nervous system reacts strongly to something your teen or child does (fear, anger, urge to control, or avoid). Name the old pattern without judgment. 2. Pause and ask: Am I reacting from my own unresolved wiring or leading from the parent I want to be? 3. Choose one small, calm, shame-free response. 4. Execute that new response at least three times this week and notice how the conversations and relationship feel. Listener Action Steps • Run one full S.O.B.E.R. cycle in your journal on a parent-child trigger. • Download the free Rebooted Teen Parent Program at https://www.rebootedteen.com [https://www.rebootedteen.com] and try a conversation starter this week. • Practice the Park Bench or dialoguing exercise yourself first. • Share this episode with any parent quietly worried about their child’s screen time or compulsive behaviors. Your Future is S.O.B.E.R.™ You don’t need to be a perfect parent — you need to be a present, self-aware one. Small, shame-free conversations today can prevent generational cycles tomorrow. Healing is possible. Hope is real. Explore the S.O.B.E.R. Method Website and Work with Massimo: sobermethod.com [http://sobermethod.com] All socials: @sobermethod Massimo Rigotti, The S.O.B.E.R. Method Podcast

Why High Achievers Still Struggle With Addiction ft. Dr. Jess Armine | Massimo Rigotti

S01E08: The Dopamine Burnout Effect with Dr. Jess Armine "Addiction is not a discipline problem. It is a low dopamine biology problem driven by genetics, oxidative stress, and mitochondrial dysfunction from sustained high performance and burnout." – Dr. Jess Armine Dr. Jess Armine Website: www.drjessarmine.com [http://www.drjessarmine.com] Complimentary 30-minute Discovery Session for prospective patients: https://drarmine.as.me/getacquainted [https://drarmine.as.me/getacquainted] LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/jess-armine-dc-rn-a0537329/ [http://www.linkedin.com/in/jess-armine-dc-rn-a0537329/] Instagram: www.instagram.com/drjessarmine724/ [http://www.instagram.com/drjessarmine724/] YouTube: www.youtube.com/@DrJessArmine [http://www.youtube.com/@DrJessArmine] Massimo Rigotti sits down with Dr. Jess Armine, functional medicine practitioner and expert in neuro endo immunology with over 45 years in healthcare. Dr. Jess reframes addiction and persistent low motivation not as a failure of willpower but as a biological issue rooted in Reward Deficiency Syndrome. He explains how genetic predispositions such as variations in the DRD2 gene, disruption of the Brain Reward Cascade, oxidative stress, and mitochondrial dysfunction from sustained high performance and burnout create the flatness and exhaustion many high achievers experience. The S.O.B.E.R. Move for This Week (Direct from the Episode) 1. Observe the moment your nervous system or reward circuitry feels hijacked today. Notice the physical sensations first the flatness, the racing thoughts, the fatigue, or the urge to reach for something to feel normal. Name the old pattern without judgment. 2. Interrupt the automatic loop with a 30 second neural pause. Ask yourself what your brain is actually trying to protect or signal right now. 3. Choose one small restorative response instead of the old autopilot reaction. 4. Execute that new response at least three times this week and notice how your energy, motivation, and clarity shift when you supply your brain with different input. This is the S.O.B.E.R. Method in action: Stoic awareness, Observe the trigger, Behavior design, Execute and test, Restore. Your Future is S.O.B.E.R.™ This is not about becoming a different person. It is about updating the operating system so the person you actually are can finally run clean, calm, and confident. Dr. Jess expertise and clinical experience prove that the brain is plastic and the patterns are changeable. The only question is whether you will start collecting better data today. Keep observing. Execute with intention. Subscribe, leave a review, and share with someone crushing it externally but struggling internally. Explore the S.O.B.E.R. Method S.O.B.E.R. Method Book [https://www.amazon.com/Flavors-Confidence-S-B-R-ebook/dp/B0FQ4HGRR3] Website and Work with Massimo: sobermethod.com [http://sobermethod.com] All socials: @sobermethod Massimo Rigotti, The S.O.B.E.R. Method Podcast