How to Unlearn Old Patterns & Find Your Voice #009

Are We All Just Unlearning The Same Things At Different Ages?

What does it really mean to honour yourself in love, in business, in life? In this episode of The Soft Edit, we sit down with serial entrepreneur and podcaster Daisy Keter, (Growing Out Loud) . This is one of those conversations that feels like therapy, reflection, and a reality check all at once. We get into: 🔹 Why being comfortable with failure might be your greatest superpower 🔹 The control obsession that quietly fuels anxiety and how to unlearn it 🔹 People pleasing: why it shows up differently in love than everywhere else 🔹 "Stop waiting to be chosen - you are the chooser" and what that actually looks like in dating 🔹 What to do when someone says "I am who I am, deal with it" 🔹 Why loneliness in a relationship is scarier than being alone 💬 Drop in the comments: Are you a chooser or have you been waiting to be chosen? 🎙️ Follow Daisy: Growing Out Loud

How to Unlearn Old Patterns & Find Your Voice #009

What if the life you’re chasing… isn't even yours?In this episode of The Soft Edit, we explore unlearning. The quiet uncomfortable, necessary process of questioning everything you’ve been taught about who you should be. From societal expectations to internalized patterns, so much of our identity is built on noise. And at some point, you have to stop and ask: According to who?This solo reflection dives into the hard side of unlearning, why choosing yourself can feel uncomfortable (and even wrong) and how to start listening to your own voice againUnlearning is not a one-time decision. It’s a repeated, intentional act of choosing yourself over and over again. And while it may cost you comfort, familiarity, and even certain relationships… it gives you something far more valuable: A life that actually feels like yours.If you’ve ever felt lost, behind, or disconnected from your own life, this episode is for you.

#008 The Sister Tag: Tea, Therapy-ish, and Taking Up Space

Welcome back to The Soft Edit. This week, we are doing a Sister Tag episode, a warm, funny, unexpectedly tender conversation with Luam's real life sister (not a paid actor… allegedly).They talk about childhood memories (milk + sprinkles as a “dessert,” making glue out of leaves), who would win a staring contest, what still drives them crazy about each other, and the big stuff too: becoming more connected to themselves, learning to take up space, fear of being perceived, and why a creative practice can be a real barometer for your wellbeing.It is playful, honest, and grounding, the kind of episode that reminds you that softness can be learned, and joy can be protected.If you are in a season of change, let this be your permission slip to keep choosing yourself, gently. Like, subscribe, and tell us which question we should answer next.

#007 The Soft Take: Embracing Mistakes on the Path to Healing

In this intimate solo episode of The Soft Edit, Luam unpacks our complicated relationship with mistakes and why perfectionism is often less about excellence and more about survival 🧠💭For many of us, the fear of getting it wrong is rooted in trauma. We were taught that being “perfect” was the price of love, safety, and success. But a life without mistakes is often a life without depth 🚧✨In this episode, we explore: * Why perfectionism feels like a sentence, not a lesson 😮‍💨 * The hidden cost of always needing to get it right 🎭 * How mistakes become the messy magic that grows us 🌱 * Forgiving your past self and moving forward with grace 💌 * The extra pressure on women and minorities to be flawless 🫶🏽 If you’re stuck in fear, shame, or self-doubt, this is your reminder: your worth is not your track record ❌📊You’re allowed to grow 🌱You’re allowed to change 🔄You’re allowed to live fully 💫🎧 Listen, reflect, and send this to someone who needs permission to be human today.

#006: The Soft Sisters | Reconnecting Through Love, Forgiveness & Growth

Sibling relationships hold so much history—joy, pain, unspoken words, and deep love. In this episode, we gently explore how to heal old wounds, embrace forgiveness, and nurture growth through the softest kind of connection: love. If you’re ready to soften the edges of family ties and open your heart to new possibilities, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Listen now on Spotify and join us on this journey of self-love and healing. Your softest, strongest self awaits. 💗 #TheSoftEdit #TheSoftSisters #SelfLoveJourney #HealingTogether #Forgiveness #Growth #SiblingLove #healing #growth #podcast