How to Fight for Your Teen When They’re Falling Apart

If You Never Heal It, It Will Show Up in How You Lead

Description A lot of leadership problems do not start on the outside.They start underneath the surface. It is easy to focus on strategy, performance, and productivity while ignoring the deeper issues that quietly shape how we lead. But when you do not know yourself, have not dealt with what is driving you, or keep running without healthy rhythms, it will eventually show up in your leadership. In this episode, Jim sits down with Greg Woodard, author of Leadership From Within: Navigating the Path Toward Soul-Driven Success, for a thoughtful conversation about self-leadership, trauma, personality, sustainable rhythms, and what it looks like to lead from a healthy internal place. Together, Jim and Greg talk about the gap between who you are and how you lead, why personality and past experiences matter more than most people realize, how unaddressed trauma leaks into relationships and leadership, and why healthy rhythms are not optional if you want to lead for the long haul. They also talk about perfectionism, fear, imposter syndrome, and the simple truth that sometimes growth begins when you stop overthinking and finally move. If you have been feeling stuck, stretched, or aware that something deeper may be affecting the way you show up, this episode will help you slow down, look inward, and lead with greater intention. In This Episode, You Will Learn * Why self-awareness is one of the foundations of healthy leadership * How personality, wiring, and past experiences affect the way you lead * What happens when trauma goes unaddressed in a leader’s life * Why unhealthy inner wounds always spill into relationships * How Greg built sustainable rhythms during high-pressure military service * The difference between spiritual practices for others and spiritual care for yourself * Why leaders must protect their own soul instead of waiting for someone else to do it * How perfectionism and fear keep people from moving forward * Why action matters more than endless preparation when it comes to growth Time Stamps 00:00 Intro and why internal leadership matters 00:27 Meet Greg Woodard and his background in military chaplaincy 02:58 Greg’s new book, Leadership From Within 03:46 The gap between who you are and how you lead 04:20 Why knowing your wiring matters in leadership 06:25 Tools like DISC, Enneagram, StrengthsFinder, and self-awareness 07:19 How childhood experiences and attachment shape adult leadership 09:05 Trauma, unhealed wounds, and the impact on relationships and leadership 12:53 Self-imposed pressure, transition, and slowing down after military life 15:30 Walking, reflection, and making space for healthier rhythms 16:48 Why Jesus modeled a slower, more intentional pace 17:36 Why leaders must prioritize their own soul care 18:42 Greg’s framework for rhythms and sustainable leadership 20:15 The four rhythms: relational, physical, emotional, and spiritual 22:15 False rhythms and doing spiritual work for others while neglecting yourself 22:56 What to do when you feel stuck, limited, or afraid 23:24 Why leaders have to move before clarity fully comes 24:27 Perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and finishing what you start 26:16 Where to connect with Greg and learn more about the book Key Takeaways * Healthy leadership starts with knowing yourself. * Your personality, past, and wiring affect how you lead. * Trauma that is never addressed will leak into leadership and relationships. * Sustainable leadership requires intentional rhythms. * Leaders must care for their own soul instead of waiting for permission. * Spiritual activity is not the same as spiritual health. * Perfectionism can quietly keep you stuck. * Sometimes the next step is not more thinking. It is movement. Connect with Greg Woodard 🌐 Website: https://www.gregwoodard.com/leadership-from-within [https://www.gregwoodard.com/leadership-from-within] 📱 Social: ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/gregoryswoodard/], ⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/gregoryswoodard/],⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/gregorywoodard] ⁠ Connect with Jim 1. 🌐 Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.leadwithjim.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.leadwithjim.com/] 2. 🎙️ Ask a Question: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠leadwithjim.com/ask⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.leadwithjim.com/ask] 3. 📱 Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@leadwithjim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://instagram.com/leadwithjim] 4. ▶️ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Lead with Jim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://youtube.com/@leadwithjim] 5. 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I Thought Hating Myself Would Change Me

Description What if the thing keeping you stuck is not a lack of discipline, but the shame driving everything underneath it? In this episode, Jim sits down with Jonathan McLernon for a raw conversation about trauma, emotional eating, self-sabotage, faith, and the long road back from self-hatred. Jonathan shares how a violent trauma in South Africa cracked open deeper wounds, how binge eating became a way to cope, and why trying to control himself harder only made the cycle worse. Together, Jim and Jonathan unpack the hidden link between shame and addiction, why some people know all the right things but still cannot change, and how a punitive view of God can keep faith trapped in the head instead of rooted in the heart. They also talk about the coach who met Jonathan with compassion instead of condemnation, the question that exposed how little value he had for himself, and why real healing often begins with much smaller steps than people expect. If you have ever felt stuck in cycles of emotional eating, self-sabotage, harsh self-talk, or trying to force your way into healing, this episode will help you see why shame never sets people free and why compassion is not weakness. It may be the starting point of real change. In This Episode, You Will Learn * Why emotional eating is often about pain, not food * How shame can keep self-sabotage alive for years * What Jonathan means by being a “cerebral Christian” * Why a distorted view of God can block real healing * The difference between behavior control and heart-level change * Why compassion felt dangerous to Jonathan at first * The question that exposed the root of his self-hatred * How small actions can begin rebuilding self-worth * Why progressive healing is more realistic than instant change Time Stamps 00:00 Intro: The brain, the body, and healing 00:43 Meet Jonathan McLernon and the work he does 03:16 Trauma, gifts, and the suffering that reshaped his life 05:12 What it means to be a “cerebral Christian” 07:23 Moving faith from the head to the heart 12:54 When coping mechanisms stop helping you cope 14:41 Why willpower and tight control kept failing 17:08 Why compassion felt soft, risky, and unsafe 19:13 The question that changed everything 21:04 “He gave him a robe, not a straitjacket” 22:16 How to begin healing when you do not have support 23:40 The power of small actions that rebuild worth 26:14 Why healing is usually progressive, not instant 27:00 Near-death trauma, betrayal, and rebuilding again 29:19 Jonathan’s “x-ray vision” and seeing people’s potential Key Takeaways * You cannot shame yourself into lasting change. * Emotional eating and addiction are rarely just about the behavior. * A harsh inner world often hides under high performance. * More control is not always the answer. Sometimes it is the trap. * Compassion is not weakness. It is often the doorway to healing. * Small actions can begin changing a deeply damaged identity. * Faith can stay trapped in the mind when the heart still fears God. * Healing usually happens step by step, not all at once. * People need understanding more than condemnation. Connect with Jonathan McLernon 🌐 Website: https://jonathanmclernon.substack.com/ [https://jonathanmclernon.substack.com/] 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/BTBA_podcast [https://www.instagram.com/BTBA_podcast] ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BTBA_podcast [https://www.youtube.com/@BTBA_podcast] Connect with Jim 1. 🌐 Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.leadwithjim.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.leadwithjim.com/] 2. 🎙️ Ask a Question: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠leadwithjim.com/ask⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.leadwithjim.com/ask] 3. 📱 Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@leadwithjim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://instagram.com/leadwithjim] 4. ▶️ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Lead with Jim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://youtube.com/@leadwithjim] 5. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@leadwithjim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/leadwithjim] Support & Engage with the Show ✅ Subscribe to The Unshakable Life wherever you listen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-in-the-grind/id1767405179] | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/1nw8OCTdwQAqjx0hzuRQQM?si=6038435315bd4bde] | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠iHeartRadio⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://iheart.com/podcast/260758213/] ✅ Leave a 5-star review if this episode encouraged your faith. ✅ For more faith-driven leadership content, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠leadwithjim.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [www.leadwithjim.com]. Thanks for listening! Never miss an episode of The Unshakable Life. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite podcast app—and if this resonated, share it with a friend who needs the tools to develop an Unshakable Life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

How to Fight for Your Teen When They’re Falling Apart

Description When your child is battling depression, trauma, anxiety, or self-harm, it can feel like your whole life turns into survival mode. In this episode, Jim sits down with Jenn Robb, nurse practitioner, author of Warrior Mom Rising, and mom of a daughter who walked through severe mental health struggles, to talk about what it really looks like to fight for your child without losing yourself in the process. Jenn shares the warning signs they saw, the weight of trying to keep her daughter alive, the guilt and self-blame many moms carry, and how surrendering control to God changed the way she walked through the hardest season of her life. Together, Jim and Jenn talk about caregiver burnout, how to find the right counselor, why moms do not need to know everything said in therapy, and the practical ways a parent can become a safe place for a struggling child. They also unpack the tension between faith and suffering, and what it means to keep showing up when healing is slow. If you are walking through mental health struggles with your child, or love someone who is, this conversation will give you hope, wisdom, and a few practical next steps. In This Episode, You Will Learn * How to recognize when a teen’s struggle is more than “just a phase” * Why moms often lose themselves while trying to save their child * What healthy advocacy looks like during a mental health crisis * Why finding the right counselor matters more than finding the fastest one * How to support your child without forcing them to tell you everything * Why self-care is necessary for caregivers, not optional * What surrendering control to God can look like in a real crisis * How faith can hold when your family is walking through pain Time Stamps 00:00 Intro 00:18 Meet Jenn Robb and her background in medicine 01:08 Her daughter’s mental health struggle begins 02:53 Trauma, depression, PTSD, and anxiety hit hard 03:39 Why mothers often become the voice for their child 04:31 Warning signs that it was more than a phase 06:28 How Jenn almost lost herself trying to keep her daughter alive 07:14 Why you cannot pour from an empty cup 08:20 Jenn shares the heart behind Warrior Mom Rising 10:06 Where God was in the middle of the crisis 10:51 The moment Jenn realized she had to surrender control 12:38 Wrestling with anger, pain, and trusting God 13:33 Finding purpose in pain 15:01 Helping a child live, trust, and keep faith after trauma 17:14 The lies moms tell themselves in the middle of the battle 19:39 The first steps for moms whose child is struggling right now 20:40 Why the right counselor matters so much 21:27 Why parents do not need to know everything said in therapy 22:51 The “mousse cake” code word and a practical support tool 24:27 Does the counselor need to be Christian? 26:22 How this journey changed Jenn’s prayer life 27:47 Where to find Jenn, her book, and free resources Key Takeaways * A child’s mental health crisis can quickly become a caregiver crisis too. * Losing interest in what they once loved can be a major warning sign. * Moms often carry guilt that does not belong to them. * You can advocate hard for your child without trying to control every detail. * The right therapist fit matters more than choosing the first available option. * Your child needs a safe place, not constant pressure to explain everything. * Taking care of yourself helps you care for your child better. * Surrender is not quitting. It is trusting God while still doing your part. Connect with Jenn Robb 🌐 Website: ⁠ [https://www.5ampodcast.com]https://warriormomcoach.net/ [https://warriormomcoach.net/] 📱 Social: ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/warriormom_jennrobb], ⁠⁠⁠Threads [https://www.threads.com/@warriormom_jennrobb],⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/jenn.robb.2025/] , Pinterest [https://www.pinterest.com/Warriormom_jennrobb/] 📘 Book: Warrior Mom Rising [https://warriormomcoach.net/book-devo] 🎁 Free resources: Tips for finding the right counselor and tools to help moms feel more equipped [https://warriormomcoach.net/] Connect with Jim 1. 🌐 Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.leadwithjim.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.leadwithjim.com/] 2. 🎙️ Ask a Question: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠leadwithjim.com/ask⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.leadwithjim.com/ask] 3. 📱 Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@leadwithjim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://instagram.com/leadwithjim] 4. ▶️ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Lead with Jim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://youtube.com/@leadwithjim] 5. 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When Your Whole Life Changes Overnight: Rebuilding After Loss

Description What do you do when the life you built falls apart, and the future you expected is suddenly gone? In this episode, Jim sits down with Michelle Bader Ebersole, author, speaker, podcast host, and founder of Widow Goals, for a conversation about grief, healing, and what it looks like to rebuild after devastating loss. After losing her husband Luke in 2020 following a long battle with cancer, Michelle found herself navigating widowhood, parenting, faith, and the hard work of learning how to live again. Together, Jim and Michelle talk about the loneliness of grief, the phrases people say that are meant to help but often hurt, and why healing is not just about time passing. Michelle shares how God met her in her darkest season, how the idea of being “chosen” changed her perspective, and how that journey eventually gave birth to her podcast, nonprofit, retreats, books, and support programs for widows across the country. If you are carrying grief, walking through change, or trying to find your footing after life hit harder than expected, this conversation will remind you that pain is not the end of your story. In This Episode, You Will Learn * Why grief is not only about death, but any major loss or life change * What to say, and what not to say, to someone who is grieving * Why healing is not about time alone, but what you do with the time * How Michelle moved from widowhood into purpose-driven ministry * The difference between stuffing grief and actually processing it * Why faith does not erase pain, but can steady you through it * How Widow Goals is helping widows survive, heal, and thrive * Why churches need to do more to support widows and grieving families Time Stamps 00:00 Intro to grief, healing, and rebuilding life after loss 00:35 Michelle shares who she is and the mission behind Widow Goals 01:34 Michelle’s background in entrepreneurship and teaching 05:03 The emotional shift from a vibrant life into grief and loss 05:50 Luke’s cancer story, amputation, and the family’s long road through illness 08:13 Raising children while facing terminal cancer in the home 10:48 Jim asks about faith, bitterness, and blaming God 11:30 Michelle shares the moment God reframed her pain through the idea of being chosen 13:27 What not to say to someone who is grieving 16:38 Why grief support needs to be practical, specific, and present 18:32 The turning point from personal pain to serving other widows 19:03 How the Widowed Too Soon podcast and Widow Goals nonprofit began 21:29 Why grief does not heal just because time passes 22:12 What grief work actually looks like 23:36 Michelle explains her book, workbook, and church support program 25:10 A challenge to churches to better care for widows 26:20 Where to find Michelle, her books, podcast, and local groups Key Takeaways * Grief changes your life, but it does not have to end your purpose * Time by itself does not heal grief * People need presence and practical help more than empty phrases * Faith can hold you steady even when life makes no sense * Healing requires honesty, not suppression * What you feel, God can heal * Widows need real community, not silence * Pain can become ministry when it is surrendered and stewarded well Connect with Michelle Bader Ebersole 🌐 Website: WidowGoals.org [https://widowgoals.org/] 🎙️ Podcast: Widowed 2 Soon [https://widowgoals.org/podcasts/] 📚 Book: Widow Goals [https://widowgoals.org/widowgoalsbook/] 📱 Social: Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/widowed2soonm], Youtube [https://www.youtube.com/@widowed2soon], Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@widowgoals], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/widowgoals] Connect with Jim 1. 🌐 Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.leadwithjim.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.leadwithjim.com/] 2. 🎙️ Ask a Question: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠leadwithjim.com/ask⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.leadwithjim.com/ask] 3. 📱 Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@leadwithjim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://instagram.com/leadwithjim] 4. ▶️ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Lead with Jim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://youtube.com/@leadwithjim] 5. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@leadwithjim⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/leadwithjim] Support & Engage with the Show ✅ Subscribe to The Unshakable Life wherever you listen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-in-the-grind/id1767405179] | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/1nw8OCTdwQAqjx0hzuRQQM?si=6038435315bd4bde] | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠iHeartRadio⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://iheart.com/podcast/260758213/] ✅ Leave a 5-star review if this episode encouraged your faith. ✅ For more faith-driven leadership content, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠leadwithjim.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [www.leadwithjim.com]. Thanks for listening! Never miss an episode of The Unshakable Life. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite podcast app—and if this resonated, share it with a friend who needs the tools to develop an Unshakable Life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Survival Mode Made This Feel Normal

Description Most of us did not mean to build a business that eats our marriage, our health, and our peace. It usually happens slowly, then one day you realize you are living in survival mode and calling it “drive.” In this episode, Jim sits down with Mark Dolfini, Marine veteran, strategist, and author, for a grounded conversation about time wealth, personal vision, and the hidden cost of doing everything yourself. Mark shares the season where he was juggling a massive real estate portfolio, losing revenue fast, sleeping on the floors of rental properties, and eventually landing in the hospital with double pneumonia after working himself into the ground. Together, Jim and Mark unpack why smart, high-work-ethic entrepreneurs often get trapped in over-responsibility, why discernment matters more than brute force, and why personal vision has to come before business vision if you want a life that actually works. They also talk about faith, identity, and how low self-worth can quietly sabotage clarity, delegation, and follow-through. If you feel stretched thin, disconnected at home, or like your business has started to run your life, this will help you reset with honesty and practical next steps. In This Episode, You Will Learn * Why “smart + hardworking” can become a trap without discernment * The difference between work-life balance and work-life harmony * How Mark’s business collapse led to a near-death wake-up call * Why delegation often fails when pride, fear, or survival mode is driving * How personal vision becomes the “circuit breaker” for everything else * Why low self-worth makes vision work feel impossible for some people * A simple way to think about your future that does not feel overwhelming Time Stamps: 00:00 Intro: When business starts stealing your life 01:27 Meet Mark Dolfini: Marine, entrepreneur, strategist 03:50 The “bare minimum” years and the early strategy mindset 05:53 Navigation, discipline, and why details started to matter 07:45 Quietly drowning in activity: 92 rentals and too many fires 09:05 The real problem: no discernment, no delegation 11:42 The revenue drop and survival mode taking over 13:24 Hospital story: “I literally worked myself to death” 16:20 The wake-up moment that forced boundaries and clarity 19:31 Where do you start if you cannot slow down? 20:19 Low self-worth and why vision can feel impossible 21:51 A better approach than a “100th birthday speech” 23:19 Marriage, faith, and putting God back in the center 25:30 How to connect with Mark and the book offer 27:21 The core warning: business vision without personal vision Key Takeaways * Smart entrepreneurs often assume every problem is theirs to solve. That mindset creates burnout fast. * Discernment is not optional. It is how you decide what you do, whatyou delay, and what you hand off. * You cannot build a healthy business if you never learn to value your time correctly. * Survival mode will make you proud of things that are actually destroying you. * Personal vision comes first. Otherwise, you end up building a life that serves the business. * Low self-worth makes “vision work” feel threatening, not inspiring, and that needs to be addressed with care. * Faith is not a side note here. For Mark, it is the starting point for clarity, identity, and direction. 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