12. Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Boys and Men: Part 2

13. Other-esteem

“Self-esteem” is a near-ubiquitous idea we millennials have been steeped in ever since taking that awkward middle-school wellness class taught by that teacher who was anything but well (this happened to everyone, right?!). “Other esteem” - our beliefs about the basic characteristics of others - is equally important, yet rarely talked about. Positive, negative, or otherwise, these beliefs both shape and are shaped by our individual social worlds. When overly rigid, our other-esteem beliefs can create self-fulfilling prophecies where we interact with others in ways that only prove our worst expectations and disqualify anything more positive. In this latest episode, Jon and Gabe share their differing other-esteem beliefs, where these come from, and how these have shaped their social lives.

12. Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Boys and Men: Part 2

In Part 2 of their three-episode discussion on the APA’s guidelines for psychological practice with boys and men, Gabe and Jon wrap up the remaining definitions. They flesh these out by looping in past discussions of how potent patriarchal conditioning is and how it shapes what gives us the “ick”.

11: Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Boys and Men - Part 1

Continuing on the theme of men in therapy, Jon and Gabe begin a multi-part discussion (because ya'll know we can't be brief) on the American Psychological Association's (APA) official guidelines for improving therapy and general psychological practice for boys and men. In this first of three part episode series, they give their take on what's so exciting about these aspirational guidelines and APA's definition of gender, gender role strain, oppression, and more.

10. Men in therapy

Folks from across the social spectrum agree that men need to heal and change. Ironically, those same folks (including us!) often mock men when they take steps to try and do so. “Go to therapy” is just as often genuine advice as it is a pithy dismissal of the long road from undoing patriarchal conditioning to the wholeness that hopefully follows. In this episode of Thru Shame, Gabe and Jon discuss the mockery of men’s successful and not-so-successful attempts to reconnect with themselves and how our cultural biases rightly and wrongly shape what even counts as “therapy”. Send us your shameful stories or topics at thru.shame.pod@gmail.com

9: Compensatory masculinity

Societal norms dictate that men should be masculine, powerful, and stoic. Ironically, this can make our sense of manhood all too easy to threaten. This can leave us susceptible to the dreaded feeling of not being “man enough” and trying to compensate in absurd, self-defeating ways. While there are plenty of obvious ways this can happen, there are just as many subtle ways that men fall right into this trap. In the latest episode of Thru Shame, Jon and Gabe share stories about times when, even with the best of intentions, they’ve unknowingly done this.