Renouncing the Old Self: How To Stop Returning To Your Old Identity

Why Self-Forgiveness Is the First Step in Your Transformational Journey

What if the reason you feel stuck… isn’t a lack of discipline, clarity, or ambition? What if it’s something deeper—something quieter? In this powerful episode of Transformative Living Radio, we explore a truth that most people overlook on the path of personal growth: You cannot step into your next level while holding onto guilt from your past. So many people are doing “the work”—setting goals, building habits, investing in growth—but still feel blocked, hesitant, or undeserving of the life they say they want. Why? Because beneath the surface… they haven’t forgiven themselves. And until that happens, transformation stays incomplete. In this episode, we break down: *  Why self-forgiveness is not optional—it’s foundational  *  How unresolved guilt silently drives self-sabotage  *  The identity shift required to release your past and step into your future  *  A practical, step-by-step process to begin forgiving yourself today  This is not about ignoring your past… It’s about releasing its hold on your identity so you can finally move forward with clarity, confidence, and power. If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the weight of who you used to be… This episode is your invitation to put it down.  To book your free discovery coaching session today, please click here. [https://stan.store/TransformativeLivingLLC/p/book-a-11-call-with-me-7skbom9z] Download my free eBook " Unlock Your Inner Authority [https://stan.store/TransformativeLivingLLC/p/get-my-ebook-now-free-hyiv9xgw]."

Stop Seeking, Start Being — The Shift That Changes Everything

You can read every personal development book, save every mindset quote, and still feel like nothing is changing. I’m Andre Flax, and I’m calling out the subtle way our minds keep us “busy” with learning while we avoid the one thing that creates real self transformation: taking the step. The longer we plan, analyze, and wait for clarity, the more normal stuckness starts to feel.  We dig into a simple but powerful distinction: thinking transformation versus being transformed. Understanding ideas is useful, but it’s not the same as identity. When you keep saying “I’m trying” or “I’m working on it,” you may be reinforcing a life of effort without embodiment. When you shift to “This is who I am,” your choices begin to line up with that new standard. If the confident, disciplined, focused version of you already exists as a state you can step into, what changes about how you show up today?  I also walk you through four practical applications for intentional living: define the identity you need, claim it in the present, act from that identity immediately, and interrupt the old pattern when doubt shows up. You’ll leave with a concrete question you can use in the moment to reset your behavior and build momentum through action, not perfection.  If you’re ready to stop preparing and start becoming, press play, share this with a friend who’s stuck in “getting ready,” and subscribe. Then leave a review and tell me: what’s the one step you’re taking today?  To book your free discovery coaching session today, please click here. [https://stan.store/TransformativeLivingLLC/p/book-a-11-call-with-me-7skbom9z] Download my free eBook " Unlock Your Inner Authority [https://stan.store/TransformativeLivingLLC/p/get-my-ebook-now-free-hyiv9xgw]."

Living From The New Self

You can be doing everything “right” and still feel a strange hesitation when it’s time to step up. That pause is not a lack of progress, it’s often a sign you’re still seeing yourself through an old lens, even while your life is asking for the new you to lead.  I’m Andre Flax, a certified life and leadership coach, and I’m walking through what it really means to live from the new self consistently, not just when it feels comfortable. Using the story of two followers who walked beside Jesus without recognizing him, we explore how transformation can be present without being fully acknowledged. If you’ve been growing, thinking differently, and responding differently but still shrink in key moments, this conversation will help you name what’s happening and shift your awareness.  You’ll leave with five practical ways to anchor your identity: making decisions from identity instead of emotion, speaking from alignment, choosing consistency over intensity, trusting the transformational process without constant validation, and staying present so the “new self” is not a future goal but a current way of being. These are simple personal growth practices, but they’re powerful for self-mastery, confidence, emotional resilience, and lasting mindset change.  If this resonates, share it with a friend who’s in a growth season, subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next, and leave a review or comment where you listen. What’s one situation where you’re ready to stop waiting and start living from who you already are?  To book your free discovery coaching session today, please click here. [https://stan.store/TransformativeLivingLLC/p/book-a-11-call-with-me-7skbom9z] Download my free eBook " Unlock Your Inner Authority [https://stan.store/TransformativeLivingLLC/p/get-my-ebook-now-free-hyiv9xgw]."

Renouncing the Old Self: How To Stop Returning To Your Old Identity

A door can open and you can still stay seated. That’s the uncomfortable truth behind growth, and it shows up everywhere: the job you’re ready for, the hard conversation you keep postponing, the healthier version of you that feels “not like you” yet. We start with a story about freedom being available while identity stays trapped, then we bring it home to the ways we quietly return to old habits, old fear, and old self-talk. We talk about why identity change is emotional, not just logical. The inner voice that says “don’t risk it” often isn’t evil, it’s protective, built from rejection, failure, or playing small to stay safe. But when your opportunities expand and your mindset doesn’t, you end up feeling like an imposter in rooms you’ve outgrown. I connect this to renewing your mind and learning to “put off” the old self instead of managing it forever. Then we get practical with five simple practices you can use today: notice the pattern without judgment, stop rehearsing the old story, interrupt the inner critic without fighting it, act from the new identity before confidence shows up, and return again and again when you slip. Transformation becomes real in the small daily choices that retrain your mind and rebuild your self-concept over time. If this message hits, share it with a friend who’s standing in an open doorway, then subscribe and leave a review so more people can find Transformative Living Radio.  To book your free discovery coaching session today, please click here. [https://stan.store/TransformativeLivingLLC/p/book-a-11-call-with-me-7skbom9z] Download my free eBook " Unlock Your Inner Authority [https://stan.store/TransformativeLivingLLC/p/get-my-ebook-now-free-hyiv9xgw]."

Your Life Follows The Place Your Attention Rests

Two archers step to the line. One stares at wind and branches; the other sees only the center. That simple image unlocks a bigger truth we explore today: your life moves toward the place your attention rests, and learning to aim it—gently, consistently—changes everything. We break down how attention shifts can flip your entire state in seconds, often without anything changing outside you. Think of the mind like tall grass: every worry you revisit presses a path that becomes easy to follow. The good news is that the same mechanism can build new trails toward clarity, gratitude, and the future you want. We show you how to spot when attention drifts, create just enough space to choose again, and re-aim your focus without force using breath, anchors, and single-sentence goals. Along the way, we share everyday practices to train your focus: naming thoughts to reduce their grip, stacking micro-returns throughout the day, and using visual cues to keep your mind on what matters. We also address the quiet resistance from old identities and assumptions that try to pull you back to familiar patterns, and we set the stage for our next conversation on Neville Goddard’s idea of renouncing the old self. If you’re ready to stop feeding distractions and start feeding direction, this one gives you the tools and the mindset to make your aim steady. Subscribe to stay current with weekly tools for focus and growth, share this episode with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a quick review to tell us where your attention will land this week.  To book your free discovery coaching session today, please click here. [https://stan.store/TransformativeLivingLLC/p/book-a-11-call-with-me-7skbom9z] Download my free eBook " Unlock Your Inner Authority [https://stan.store/TransformativeLivingLLC/p/get-my-ebook-now-free-hyiv9xgw]."