Ep. 53 - Leaving a Relationship: Why It Feels Like Giving Up

Ep. 53 - Leaving a Relationship: Why It Feels Like Giving Up

Leaving a relationship isn’t just a personal decision—it often feels like a public one. In this episode, therapists Kristen and Allison unpack why walking away can come with so much guilt, shame, and second-guessing, even when it’s the healthiest choice. We explore how societal expectations—especially around marriage, family, and gender roles—can distort the narrative, casting the person who leaves as the “villain.” You’ll hear why blame so often falls on the one who steps away, and how that story can overlook the effort, pain, and attempts to repair that came long before the decision to leave. We also dive into the role of anger in relationships—not as something to suppress, but as a powerful signal that something deeper isn’t being met. And we take a closer look at the double standards that shape how men and women are judged when relationships end. If you’ve ever wondered whether leaving means failing—or if you’re carrying guilt for choosing yourself—this conversation offers clarity, validation, and a more compassionate way to understand your decision. In this episode, we cover: • Why leaving a relationship can feel like “giving up” • The impact of societal judgment and stigma • How blame gets assigned—and why it’s often misplaced • Gender dynamics and double standards in breakups • Understanding anger as a meaningful emotional signal Resources: —Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com —Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com Connect with us! —Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing —Follow us on Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast —Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to truenorthing@gmail.com   Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Ep. 52 - Stuck in Love: Why It’s So Hard to Leave an Unhealthy Relationship

Register for the FREE Relationship Capacity Masterclass here: https://www.interconnectedlove.com/capacity-masterclass In this episode, we continue the conversation from our previous discussion about leaving relationships that no longer feel healthy or aligned. If you’ve ever wondered “Why didn’t they just leave?” or asked yourself that same question, this episode explores the deeper layers behind that struggle. We unpack the invisible forces that can keep someone stuck — including low self-worth, unconscious beliefs about deserving love, social stigma, shame, and the confusion that can arise when a partner’s behavior keeps us emotionally hooked. Together we explore: • The internal beliefs that can make leaving feel impossible • How confusion and mixed signals can keep us attached • The role of shame and social expectations • Why someone might choose to stay — and why they might decide to go This episode offers compassion, clarity, and a deeper understanding of the complex emotional landscape of difficult relationships. Resources: —Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com —Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com Connect with us! —Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing —Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast —Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to truenorthing@gmail.com   Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Ep. 51 - Why Do Kids Take It Out on Mom? Understanding Emotional Safety & Dysregulation

Register for the FREE Relationship Capacity Masterclass here: https://www.interconnectedlove.com/capacity-masterclass This week on True Northing, we’re talking about something so many mothers quietly carry: Why do kids often take their emotions out on mom?Why is it that a child can be regulated, respectful, and “fine” everywhere else… only to unravel the moment they’re back with us? In this episode, Kristen shares vulnerably about a real-life parenting challenge she’s navigating — loving a child who thrives in other environments but seems to save their biggest emotions just for her. Together, we explore: • Why moms often become the emotional landing place • What dysregulation with a primary caregiver can actually signal • The role of attachment and emotional safety • What might be happening beneath the behavior • How to parent through those hard, triggering moments without losing yourself We talk about the tension of asking, “What am I missing?” while also learning to see these moments not as rejection — but as relationship. If you’ve ever felt like you get the worst of your child while everyone else gets their best… this conversation is for you. Resources: —Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com —Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com Connect with us! —Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing —Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast —Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to truenorthing@gmail.com   Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Ep. 50 - Truth Is Love: Choosing Alignment Over Fear

Register for the FREE Relationship Capacity Masterclass here: https://www.interconnectedlove.com/capacity-masterclass This week, we’re sharing what’s alive for us — the real-time lessons, themes, and initiations we’re currently moving through. We explore what it means to live from the understanding that truth is love — not harshness, not performance, not self-protection — but love. We talk about the kind of truth that softens instead of hardens, and how alignment feels in the body when it’s rooted in love rather than fear. We also dive into this reminder: your radiance is for you, no one else. What shifts when your expression isn’t for approval, validation, or impact — but simply because it’s true? And finally, we sit inside the tension of the in-between. The space where clarity hasn’t arrived. Where transitions are happening, but direction isn’t fully formed. How do you live, decide, and trust yourself when the next step isn’t obvious? This is a conversation about integration, becoming, and letting love lead — even (and especially) when the path isn’t clear. Resources:—Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com—Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com Connect with us!—Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing—Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast—Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to truenorthing@gmail.com   Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.

Ep. 49 – Why It’s So Hard to Leave: Your Brain, Your Childhood, and the Hope That Keeps You Hooked

Register for the FREE Relationship Capacity Masterclass here: https://www.interconnectedlove.com/capacity-masterclass ----- Why is it so hard to leave a relationship — even when you know it’s not right? In this episode, we explore the deep attachment and neurobiological forces that keep us bonded to partners long after the connection has become painful, confusing, or unfulfilling. You’ll learn how love impacts the brain, why breakups can feel like withdrawal, and how your nervous system can mistake familiar pain for safety. But we go beyond the science. We also look at the emotional patterns that may be quietly keeping you stuck — like trying to finally feel heard, accepting breadcrumbs because they feel familiar, or believing deep down that the love you truly want might not be available to you. This conversation is an invitation to reflect, not judge. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I just walk away?” this episode will help you understand yourself with more compassion and clarity. You’re not weak. You’re wired for connection. And understanding those wires can help you choose differently. Resources: —Want to discover what type of partner you attract and why?? Get your personal relationship roadmap at interconnectedlove.com / Use Code: TRUENORTH for $20 off —Shop LOAM for all things good for you and the Earth www.shoploam.com Connect with us! —Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: ⁠youtube.com/@truenorthing —Follow our Podcast Instagram: Instagram.com/@truenorthingpodcast —Have A Question You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Send us a note to truenorthing@gmail.com   Disclaimer: The content shared on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health concern. Never disregard professional advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast.