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In this episode, I’m joined by Bill Eddy—founder of the High Conflict Institute and a leader in the fields of mediation and conflict resolution. We talk about the complexities of high conflict personalities and the emotional dynamics that make certain discussions difficult to manage. Drawing from his background as both a therapist and a lawyer, Bill shares practical strategies for mediators, therapists, and anyone navigating emotionally charged conversations. We talk about the EAR method (Empathy, Attention, Respect), the BIFF approach (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm), and how social media fuels conflict dynamics. Whether you’re dealing with legal disputes, family disagreements, or tough workplace conversations, this episode is packed with insights on how to manage conflict more effectively—without losing your cool. 00:00 – Introduction to High Conflict Dynamics 02:59 – Bill's Journey from Therapy to Law 05:53 – What Defines a High Conflict Personality 09:13 – Mediation Techniques & Emotional Insight 11:08 – The Role of Emotion in Conflict 15:34 – The EAR Method: Empathy, Attention, Respect 22:52 – BIFF Responses: Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm 33:07 – How Social Media Escalates Conflict 44:12 – Practical Tips for Handling High Conflict Situations Find Bill Eddy: High Conflict Institute [https://www.highconflictinstitute.com] Connect with Evelyn Marley: Instagram: @evelynmarley [https://www.instagram.com/evelynmarley] Website: www.evelynmarleycoaching.com [https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com] Download the Free Guide: 10 Ways to Say What You Mean (Without Starting a Fight) [https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com/freeguide] If you enjoyed this episode, leave a quick ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ rating or review—it really helps others find the show. And if someone you now is navigating difficult conversations please send it their way. high conflict, mediation, personality disorders, emotional management, conflict resolution, communication strategies, empathy, emotional intelligence, legal disputes, therapy, interpersonal relationships, social media, conflict management

In this solo episode, Evelyn Marley explores the concept of conflict in relationships through the metaphor of an overstuffed emotional cabinet. Just like a cluttered closet, our unresolved emotions—left unaddressed—can pile up until they explode. Evelyn shares how emotional regulation, boundary-setting, and intentional communication can help you clear the emotional clutter and create deeper connection. Free Guide * "10 Ways to Say What You Mean(without starting a fight) [https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com/freeguide] Connect with Evelyn Marley * Instagram: ⁠@evelynmarley⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/evelynmarley] * Website: ⁠www.evelynmarleycoaching.com⁠ [https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com] Rate & Review the Show If this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps others find the show and spreads the message of emotional clarity and connection. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Learn More about the Window of Tolerance: * Dr. Dan Siegel – https://www.drdansiegel.com [https://www.drdansiegel.com] * NICABM’s Breakdown of the Window of Tolerance – nicabm.com/window-of-tolerance conflict resolution, emotional health, communication, relationships, self-awareness, boundaries, emotional regulation, personal growth, mental health, coping strategies

In this engaging conversation, Dr. Angelica Shiels discusses her journey as a psychologist sharing powerful insights on relationships, attachment theory, and the importance of emotional attunement. Drawing from her unique background—including time spent working in maximum security prisons—Dr. Shiels explores how trauma, parenting, and personality styles shape the way we connect with others. Dr. Shiels offers practical wisdom for parents, educators, and partners navigating emotional regulation, self-awareness, and connection. Top Takeaways: * Why attachment theory is crucial for understanding emotions. * How trauma and personality styles impact connection. * Emotional attunement as a parenting and partnership superpower. * The surprising lessons Dr. Shiels learned in maximum-security prisons. * Systems-level solutions to school violence and generational trauma. Chapters: 00:00 – Meet Dr. Shiels 05:50 – Attachment Theory Basics 09:13 – Why Attunement Matters 14:57 – Sensitive vs. Rigid Personalities 21:05 – Lessons from Prison Psychology 37:58 – Mentorship & Prevention 52:42 – Emotional Self-Awareness Connect with Dr. Angelica Shiels: Instagram  [https://www.instagram.com/dr.angelicashiels] Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@dr..angelica.shie?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Website:https://marylandfamilypsychology.com/ [https://www.drshielslcsw.com] Let’s Connect: If something in this episode resonated with you or you have questions about coaching, I’d love to connect. Instagram:@evelynmarley [https://www.instagram.com/evelynmarley/] Email: twistedplotpod@gmail.com [twistedplotpod@gmail.com] Website: www.evelynmarleycoaching.com [https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com] Books by Dr. Angelica Shields: * Patterns of Love – A deep dive into attachment styles, stress responses, and parenting strategies. Available on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com] * Safety Then Connection – A practical workbook with exercises to help understand core beliefs and build emotional safety in relationships. Key Theories & Frameworks: * Attachment Theory – Includes avoidant, anxious, and disorganized (aka fearful-avoidant) styles. * The Attunement Method – Dr. Shields’ signature approach for healing relationships by first creating nervous system safety. * “Hide it” vs. “Expose it” Stress Responses – Her original framework explaining how people react to emotional distress. * Core Beliefs & Externalizing Beliefs – A tool to track your internal thought patterns in relationships (found in her workbook). * Safety Orientation – Are you safety-driven by your internal instincts or external guidance? * Nature vs. Nurture Theory – How inherent sensitivity or rigidity shapes attachment styles. Referenced Therapy Models: * Gottman Method – Known for concepts like stonewalling and emotional bids. * Imago Relationship Therapy – A couples therapy model focused on dialogue and childhood wounds. Research Highlight: * The Violence Project – A study-based initiative researching school violence and generational trauma. More info at theviolenceproject.org [https://theviolenceproject.org] Support & Prevention Programs: * Big Brothers Big Sisters – Mentorship program proven to positively shift at-risk youth trajectories. Learn more [https://www.bbbs.org] * Trauma-Informed School Coaching (idea discussed) – A proposed model to support kids in school through trained mentors/coaches. Support the Show: If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review the podcast! It helps more people find the show and allows me to continue bringing amazing guests your way. Keywords: relationships, attunement, attachment theory, parenting, psychology, social media, emotional intelligence, personal development, mental health, couples therapy, trauma, crime, mentorship, emotional attunement, prevention, mental health, generational trauma #attachmenttheory #emotionalattunement #relationships #mentalhealth #parenting #couplestherapy #psychology #emotionalintelligence #generationalhealing #personaldevelopment #podcastepisode #communicationtools #traumainformedcare #innerwork #growthmindset

After a little break from the podcasting, I’m back—and in this episode, I’m catching you up on everything that’s been happening behind the scenes. I share my personal journey into divorce coaching, how mediation training has shifted my perspective, and why conflict resolution and emotional intelligence are now at the heart of the work I do. This episode is all about clarity—what divorce coaching really is (and isn’t), why creating space for self-awareness matters, and how supporting someone through uncertainty is very different from giving advice or therapy. Whether you’re navigating your own relationship shifts or just curious about how to communicate more effectively, this episode offers insights and support to help you move forward with confidence. If something in this episode resonated with you or you have questions about coaching, I’d love to connect. Instagram: @evelynmarley [https://instagram.com/evelynmarley] Email: twistedplotpod@gmail.com Website: https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com/ If you are looking to find ways to support the podcast, I would appreciate if you could rate and review so the podcast could reach more people and I can continue to bring more amazing guests. Keywords: divorce coaching, conflict resolution, personal growth, mediation, emotional intelligence, relationship support, self-awareness, communication skills, coaching certification

Join host Evelyn Marley on this third eye-opening episode of the Twisted Plot Podcast as she uncovers the hidden impact of thought-terminating clichés like "It is what it is," "Everything happens for a reason." These phrases often shut down meaningful conversation and critical thinking. Learn to recognize and counteract these verbal barriers to foster open dialogue and enhance your communication skills. Like what you heard?? Leave a review and share with a friend. Join our weekly newsletter The Mindful 3 for quick tips and insights on all things growth mindset. https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com/newsletter Find Evelyn on instagram @evelynmarley [https://www.instagram.com/evelynmarley/]