Hair We Are: I'd Rather Dye Than Go Grey

Sleep Divorce? Rethinking the Shame of Sleeping Separately

More couples later in life are sleeping in separate rooms and in some cases separate homes. Called "Sleep Divorce" by the media, what does this trend say about evolving ways we are thinking about sleep, intimacy, self-empowerment and the judgment of others as we age? For many women over 60, sleep can feel precious and precarious. Figuring out just the right  pre-requisites for a good night's sleep is becoming more of a priority. What meaning do partners, and peers make of the desire some women feel to sleep apart, and how are women navigating the challenges and shame that may arise as a result?  Join Constance and Lori for this episode when they unpack the choice couples are making to sleeps separately. And -- a new feature -- we take a call from a WADY listener about her Sleep Divorce.  Show Notes: What is a Sleep Divorce [https://medicalxpress.com/news/2025-07-survey-reveals-americans-engage-divorce.html]? How To Get a Sleep Divorce and Stay Happily Married [https://www.prevention.com/health/sleep-energy/a44128946/sleep-divorce/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=mgu_ga_pre_md_pmx_prog_org_us_20739785489&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20733447543&gbraid=0AAAAADA2LlJTu6DWfvLP3g8qvDKtC6Aug] Can a Sleep Divorce Save Your Relationship? [https://www.dailyom.com/articles/all/what-is-a-sleep-divorce-and-should-you-try-it-experts-explain?aff=910&ad=1&utm_source=google&utm_medium=ppc&utm_campaign=PerformanceMax&acct=9358138875&campaign_id=16896613381&utm_content=pmax&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=16896614062&gbraid=0AAAAADzP57jx8OyiE5T-sN-s-fOZt8DVr] We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to:  Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2515923/fan_mail/new]  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com [WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com]  Follow the show on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053]  Visit our Website [https://wady.buzzsprout.com/] Listen and Subscribe Here! [https://linktr.ee/WeAintDeadYetPod] (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device.  Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2515923/fan_mail/new] Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

The Original Oldster: A Conversation with Sari Botton

Please join us for a lively chat with Sari Botton, founder of Oldster Magazine, about her recent rise to fame and her lifelong obsession with aging. After being rejected by endless employers in her 50s, and then working her butt off, she has finally earned a much-deserved seat at the publishing table, and her star continues to rise. We cover topics ranging from turning 60, becoming our more authentic selves, Sari’s dream that became the catalyst for Oldster, the fascinating phenomenon of subjective age, some of Sari’s favorite interviews and essays from Oldster, to a refreshing counter-narrative to assumptions about attractiveness in middle age.  And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard.   SHOW NOTES Sari Botton [http://saribotton.com/]'s memoir in essays, And You May Find Yourself...Confessions of a Late-Blooming Gen-X Weirdo [https://bookshop.org/books/and-you-may-find-yourself/9781942762997], was chosen by Poets & Writers magazine for the 2022 edition of its annual "5 Over 50" feature [https://www.pw.org/content/5_over_50_2022?article_page=2]. She edited the bestselling anthologies Goodbye to All That: Writers on Loving and Leaving NewYork [https://bookshop.org/books/goodbye-to-all-that-revised-edition-writers-on-loving-and-leaving-new-york/9781541675681]and Never Can Say Goodbye: Writers on Their Unshakable Love for New York [https://bookshop.org/books/never-can-say-goodbye-writers-on-their-unshakable-love-for-new-york/9781476784403]. She publishes Oldster Magazine [http://oldster.substack.com/], Memoir Land [http://memoirland.substack.com/], and Adventures in Journalism [http://adventuresinjournalism.substack.com/].  The Puzzling Gap Between How Old You Are and How Old You Think You Are [https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2023/04/subjective-age-how-old-you-feel-difference/673086/] We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to:  Email Us: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com [WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com] Follow the show on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053] Visit our Website [https://wady.buzzsprout.com/]  Listen Here! [https://linktr.ee/WeAintDeadYetPod] (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device. Just click "https://www.google.com/search?q=Subscribe&client=safari&hs=USZp&sca_esv=3728410091068af3&sxsrf=ANbL-n4kD7AHLXuouOxXqcQKC7l-N_Fb7g%3A1774227217755&ei=EY_Aad3gLdmqqtsP3PqcgQo&biw=1428&bih=708&ved=2ahUKEwjyyOK857STAxW3kWoFHVzEAHkQgK4QegQIARAC&uact=5&oq=hit+subscribe+for+a+podcast&gs_lp=Egxnd3Mtd2l6LXNlcnAiG2hpdCBzdWJzY3JpYmUgZm9yIGEgcG9kY2FzdDIFECEYoAEyBRAhGKABMgUQIRigATIFECEYoAEyBRAhGKABMgUQIRifBTIFECEYnwUyBRAhGJ8FMgUQIRifBTIFECEYnwVIxzJQwg1Y6i5wAXgAkAEAmAGHAaABnAuqAQM3Lje4AQPIAQD4AQGYAg-gAoUMwgIJEAAYBxgeGLADwgIIEAAYgAQYsAPCAgUQABiABMICBhAAGBYYHsICCBAAGBYYHhgKwgILEAAYgAQYigUYhgPCAggQABiABBiiBMICBRAAGO8FwgIFECEYqwKYAwCIBgGQBgqSBwQ1LjEwoAekWLIHBDQuMTC4B_8LwgcGMC4xLjE0yAc-gAgB&sclient=gws-wiz-serp&mstk=AUtExfDPy-70KOji52DxQYD20D4KsODWv0SHVDHl7zwPgl_ENg2-IcPYytzvkhvGMw2-0_8enBiCcqCv0MO1sDHS66G_M0cE0yV-MPhMhHiAluDvK-ef-NFrkczGr1TWVG7lSyDNs3hfqA77u7ITmh6sVSgKl7s5NAbgrjvbmyOiXWsab_UdgasEET92suC0JFADvCjnOfG9nuATF1GvkXqnHlvNlJqqkxZKuaC0O6vd5VQtFMs4NzV7a2qcjm5Xgayts8KQuyNjdWWNs7SRxD_-mFKKeFtGp6w61QBk6VHtWTwjSg&csui=3 Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2515923/fan_mail/new] Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Anti-Aging is Anti-Living: Flourish Instead

In this episode, Constance goes into full on fan-girl mode with our guest Barbara Waxman, a gerontologist and coach who helps people lead an undiminished life as they age. We talk about flourishing and recognizing the importance of not just our life span and health span, but something Barbara calls the Third span, comprised of our mindset, relationships and purpose at this stage of life. We unpack the growing issue of well-being burnout, and Barbara offers lots of research findings and tips for aging well into our what she calls our Trophy years.  SHOW NOTES  Barbara's Website [https://barbarawaxman.com] Barbara's Podcast on Flourishing and Finding Purpose in Midlife [https://www.meawisdom.com/podcast/barbara-waxman-how-to-flourish-and-find-purpose-in-midlife/] The Middlescence Manifesto: Igniting the Passion of Midlife, Barbara Waxman [https://www.amazon.com/Middlescence-Manifesto-Igniting-Passion-Midlife-ebook/dp/B01N3PPA8X/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0] The role of mindset, purpose and relationships in longevity, TEDx Boston [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQoaus6I_NE] (After listening, try Barbara's 30-Day Flourish Challenge!) The Seven Lifestyle Levers Assessment [https://lifestylelevers.barbarawaxman.com] (Free) How Older Adults Are Improving Their "Sex Span" [https://www.nytimes.com/2026/03/05/well/family/sex-span-longevity-health.html?smid=url-share] Welcome to Holland Story [https://www.emilyperlkingsley.com/welcome-to-holland] We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to:   Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com [WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com]  Follow the show on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053]  Visit our Website [https://wady.buzzsprout.com/]  Listen and Subscribe Here! [https://linktr.ee/WeAintDeadYetPod] (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device.  Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2515923/fan_mail/new] Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Hair We Are: I'd Rather Dye Than Go Grey

One thing that doesn't change as we age, is our obsession with our hair. For women over 60, many conversations often get around to asking one burning question..."Should I let my hair go grey?" In this episode, we will go there with our guest Ellen Taxman, a woman who prides herself in being "low fuss" in her appearance, and who even works in the field of aging. We hear from Ellen about her surprise that the Dye-Grey dilemma is causing so much confusion. So dive into our cheerfully rambling conversation about how our mothers' decisions about hair dyeing influenced us, dealing with others' opinions and how they view us and our evolving hair color, and the messages society is giving to women about aging. Join us for this episode, regardless of whether you have, or haven't, or are thinking you will or won't ever go grey. We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to:  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com [WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com] Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362]: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362] Follow the show on Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053] https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053  Visit our website [https://wady.buzzsprout.com/]: https://wady.buzzsprout.com [https://wady.buzzsprout.com/] Listen Here! [https://linktr.ee/WeAintDeadYetPod] (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY   Send a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2515923/open_sms] Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2515923/fan_mail/new] Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Get Ready For Retirement and Life After

In this episode we dive into the myths, barriers and boundary issues that get in the way of moving into, and fully enjoying retirement. For many working women, their careers are a source of pride and self-definition. Take a listen to this episode with Retirement Coach Elaine Belansky as we explore the question of "Who Am I?" once your career is in the rear view mirror, and Elaine provides tips and some free tools for making room for your next chapter to begin. SHOW NOTES:  Elaine’s Website:  https://elainebelansky.com [https://elainebelansky.com] Blog: https://elainebelansky.com/blog [https://elainebelansky.com/blog] Retirement Vision Starter Kit: https://elainebelansky.com/free-retirement-starter-kit [https://elainebelansky.com/free-retirement-starter-kit] Who Am I Now? Guide: https://elainebelansky.com/who-am-i-now [https://elainebelansky.com/who-am-i-now] Boundary Builder: https://elainebelansky.com/boundary-builder [https://elainebelansky.com/boundary-builder] Ikigai: I describe this in one of my blog posts: https://elainebelansky.com/blog/retirement-clarity [https://elainebelansky.com/blog/retirement-clarity] Newsletter: https://elainebelansky.com/newsletter [https://elainebelansky.com/newsletter] https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/53913/33-activities-you-should-try-in-your-first-year-of-retirement-to-discover-what-truly-fulfills-you/ We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to:  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com [WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com] Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362]: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362] Follow the show on Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053] https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053  Visit our website [https://wady.buzzsprout.com/]: https://wady.buzzsprout.com [https://wady.buzzsprout.com/] Listen Here! [https://linktr.ee/WeAintDeadYetPod] (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY   Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2515923/fan_mail/new] Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt