Episode 11: 99 Problems - Is Getting Older One?

Episode 11: 99 Problems - Is Getting Older One?

Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's. Threads was on fire this morning. Jay-Z showed up at The Roots Picnic — combed-out locks, dressed in the black Tims, fifty-seven years old and completely himself. Meanwhile Drake dropped three albums after two years of silence and the internet split right down generational lines. And I couldn't stop asking myself: which one am I? In this episode, I'm talking about what two rap legends taught me about what it means to actually inhabit the chapter you're in — versus performing one you've already left. In this episode: * Jay-Z on that stage vs. Drake in his feelings — and what the contrast really means * What Kendrick's beef revealed about authenticity that's hard to unsit with * Why I have some Drake in me — and why I'm not ashamed of it * The difference between feeling young on the inside and performing young on the outside * Why growing into yourself loudly was never in the script we were handed * Are you inhabiting the chapter you're actually in — or performing the one you've already left? Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time. Come say hi on Instagram 🫶🏽 @iamangelbr | @iamwewerenttoldpodcast

Episode 10: The Boiled Egg

Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's. I'll be honest — this episode almost didn't happen. I've been in a two-day existential funk, the real "is this it?" kind, not the tagline kind. It was CJ who told me to just talk about it. So here I am, Monday at 3:24 PM, showing up anyway. In this episode, I'm talking about what a boiled egg, a 1973 Jamaican recipe book, and a kitchen dance taught me about showing up for yourself on the blah days. In this episode: * Why this episode almost didn't get made * Dancing alone in the kitchen to Bob Marley — and why it worked * The 1973 recipe book that stopped me in my tracks * "Not a cook merely, but a designer" — the line that cracked something open * Why showing up, even imperfectly, is the whole point * What is your boiled egg moment — the small, quiet way you're showing up for yourself today? Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time. Come say hi on Instagram 🫶🏽 @iamangelbr | @wewerenttoldpodcast

Episode 9: The S Word

Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's. I had coffee recently with a woman I've known since I was four years old — same prep school, same high school, now both mothers of twelve-year-olds. Part of our convo was about what Catholic school did to us, and what it quietly withheld -- the S words. Both of them — sex and silence. And either way, we were never supposed to talk about either one. In this episode, I'm talking about the silence around sex and desire that shaped us as girls — and what it's costing us and our children, if we don't name it. In this episode: * What Catholic school's silence actually taught us about our bodies * Why our mothers couldn't give us what they'd never been given * How I came to understand virginity as a transaction — and why * The conversations I'm determined to have with my son that nobody had with me * Why silence was never neutral — it was always a position * What did the silence cost you — and what are you doing differently? Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time. Come say hi on Instagram 🫶🏽 @iamangelbr | @iamwewerenttoldpodcast

Episode 8: What Happens When the Street Goes Quiet?

Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's. I was at my favourite café last week — the one I go to alone, to write — when something ordinary happened — a cashier was filming content, a beautiful young man stepped into the sunlight, and I realised I was on the other side of the camera entirely. In this episode, I'm talking about the part of us that still wants to be seen — and why nobody told us that wanting wouldn't just quietly resolve itself. In this episode: * The café moment that made me sit with something I wasn't expecting * The internal version of ourselves we've been living inside for years * What the marriage script told us about desirability — and what it got wrong * The honest question we don't ask enough about being noticed * Why the wanting is not the problem * The question to sit with: Are you still giving yourself permission to want to be seen? Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time. Come say hi on Instagram 🫶🏽 @iamangelbr | @iamwewerenttoldpodcast

Episode 7: Crashout Season

Millennial girlies, pull up a chair — and no, for once, not at your therapist's. I'm going to be honest with you — I have been crashing out for the last two weeks. Eleven minute voice notes, therapy, ceiling-staring. A full, sustained emotional crash. And I almost didn't make this episode because I kept waiting until I had something neat to say about it. I don't. What I have is the crash itself. And I think that might be more useful. In this episode, I'm talking about what happens when life hands you something the script never prepared you for — and why falling apart might be exactly the right response. In this episode: * The funeral that cracked everything open * The script we were all handed — and the chapter it's missing * Why the crash is not a malfunction, it's a reckoning * What it means to have somewhere safe to fall apart * The kind of strength nobody told us to build * The question to sit with: Who are the people you can crash with? Grab your drink or your iced coffee, my friend. It's go time. Come say hi on Instagram! 🫶🏽@iamangelbr | @iamwewerenttoldpodcast