Body or Soul?: Introduction to Come As You Are

Learning/Liking/Wanting: Come As You Are Chapter 3

The most important sex organ is...the brain!! Even so, Amy & Tommy can't help but start with the clitoris and the fact that it's been largely ignored until the 90s. The NINETEEN NINETIES.  Soon enough they move on to Chapter 3 of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, the author-described "nerdy chapter," chock full of brain science. Don't worry, Amy & Tommy find several reasons turn up the spice level, including examining their own contexts for positive sexual experiences! Mentioned in this Episode: The Female Edge by Sara Szal, MD [https://saraszalmd.substack.com/] "The Female Body Was Not Designed for the Sex Most Women Are Having After 35 [https://saraszalmd.substack.com/p/the-female-body-was-not-designed]" by Sara Szal, MD Inside Out  [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/] Inside Out 2 [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt22022452/] Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. [https://bookshop.org/a/111857/9781982165314] The Lord of the Rings, by J. R. R. Tolkein [https://bookshop.org/p/books/j-r-r-tolkien-4-book-boxed-set-the-hobbit-and-the-lord-of-the-rings-the-hobbit-the-fellowship-of-the-ring-the-two-towers-the-return-of-the-king-j/a20291553548484b?ean=9780345538376&next=t] Harry Potter Series by J. K. Rowling [https://bookshop.org/p/books/harry-potter-paperback-boxed-set-books-1-7-j-k-rowling/70ab3b30e944fe22?ean=9780545162074&next=t] Sexual Pleasure for Dummies by Myisha Battle [https://bookshop.org/a/111857/9781394355761] Adult Braces by Lindy West [https://bookshop.org/a/111857/9780306831836] More by Molly Roden Winter [https://bookshop.org/a/111857/9780593469637] Original Music: Song: Non Romantic Dust [https://music.apple.com/us/album/non-romantic-dust/1562054762?i=1562054763] Artist: Muistardeaux Collective [https://sinksandwich.com/muistardeaux-collective] Album: Mont Roc [https://music.apple.com/us/album/mont-roc/1562054762] Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2449386/fan_mail/new] Don't miss the good stuff! Sign up for our monthly newsletter here [https://workfrombedfriday.substack.com/]—it includes book reviews, date night ideas, and more juicy tidbits from the bed and beyond! Plus, you'll get links to alllllll the latest episodes! Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed.

Lemons & Little Jackets & Other Turn-Ons: Come As You Are Chapter 2

Amy & Tommy begin to connect the dots: have our favorite stories from childhood and teenhood shaped our romantic and sexual selves? Emily Nagoski explains as much in Chapter 2 of Come As You Are. Nagoski first blows the mind with the explanation of the dual-control model: we've all got sexual accelerators and sexual brakes. And not all of us are Lamborghinis! But then, there's CONTEXT. Nagoski is a terrific tease and the anticipation for Chapter 3 is PALPABLE! Mentioned in this Episode: First Love by Gay Head [https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/first-love-14-warm-and-glowing-tories/19037594/#edition=57286788&idiq=41780226] Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D. [https://bookshop.org/a/111857/9781982165314] Henry Danger [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Henry_Danger] Harry Potter Book Series [https://bookshop.org/a/111857/9780545162074] The Forest Princess by Harriet Herman [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22921605-the-forest-princess] For Keeps [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0095169/] The Destroyer Series by Warren Murphy and Richard Sapir [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Destroyer_(novel_series)] Penthouse Forum [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penthouse_Forum] Dressed to Kill [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0080661/] Less Than Zero [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0093407/?ref_=fn_t_1] Original Music: Song: Charles' Name [https://music.apple.com/us/album/charles-name/1716280572?i=1716280573] Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth [https://sinksandwich.com/rick-real-and-the-warmth] Album: Shong's Order [https://music.apple.com/us/album/shongs-order/1716280572] Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2449386/fan_mail/new] Don't miss the good stuff! Sign up for our monthly newsletter here [https://workfrombedfriday.substack.com/]—it includes book reviews, date night ideas, and more juicy tidbits from the bed and beyond! Plus, you'll get links to alllllll the latest episodes! Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed.

Hard AND Wet: Come As You Are Chapter 1

Baby gherkin clits and shameful pudendums. Shleimige flüssigkeiten and pillow talk. Hard AND wet. It's all here in Amy & Tommy's discussion of Chapter 1 of Emily Nagoski's groundbreaking book, Come As You Are. Beginning at the beginning, In Chapter 1, Nagoski guides her readers through genital development from the point of conception through adulthood. We all have the same parts, just organized differently. All incredible! "Heated Rivalry: The Unauthorized Musical Parody" [https://www.heatedrivalryparody.com/] Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. [https://bookshop.org/a/111857/9781982165314] Intersex statistics [https://hudson.org.au/disease/womens-newborn-health/intersex-conditions/] TED Radio Hour on aging [https://www.npr.org/2026/05/01/nx-s1-5805979/how-to-be-a-super-ager-its-not-your-genes] Chana Bloch, poet [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poets/chana-bloch] Original Music: Song: Saintes Maries de la Mer [https://music.apple.com/us/album/saintes-maries-de-la-mer/1692478542?i=1692478848] Artist: Ian and The Deep Sheets [https://sinksandwich.com/ian-and-the-deep-sheets] Album: Lick the Razor Clean [https://music.apple.com/us/album/lick-the-razor-clean/1692478542] Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2449386/fan_mail/new] Don't miss the good stuff! Sign up for our monthly newsletter here [https://workfrombedfriday.substack.com/]—it includes book reviews, date night ideas, and more juicy tidbits from the bed and beyond! Plus, you'll get links to alllllll the latest episodes! Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed.

Body or Soul?: Introduction to Come As You Are

What IS our human-ness? Is it the SOUL? Or is it the BODY? What is it that reminds us that we aren't supercomputers and that AI-generated bots aren't human? Amy & Tommy dig into that question as they open up Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are for in-depth discussion. Amy confuses the beloved San Francisco Chronicle columnist Herb Caen with an artist at the paper, Warren Goodrich. No matter. We just gotta keep on talking. Mentioned in this episode: Maybe Happy Ending [https://www.maybehappyending.com/?gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21366293706&gbraid=0AAAAA9gfsvwIdIQml6vnT-BEAF8r722S6&gclid=CjwKCAjw-8vPBhBbEiwAoA39WtXNZ4RKUP6dZAt_Q0VYgt4bckRBrdUc6tpbSDEeBsqeEJoxbUv0lBoCvysQAvD_BwE] Homo Deus by Yuval Noah Harari [https://bookshop.org/a/111857/9780062464347] "My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could" from Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/my-ai-loves-me-better-than-anyone-ever-could/id1237931798?i=1000755110749] "We Got AI Boyfriends" from Dire Straights with Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory [https://www.direstraightspod.com/p/we-got-ai-boyfriends] FOUND! First Love short stories selected by Gay Head, featuring "EPICAC" by Kurt Vonnegut, Jr. [https://www.etsy.com/in-en/listing/4432726613/vintage-book-1963-first-love-by-gay-head] Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.  [https://bookshop.org/a/111857/9781982165314] Herb Caen [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herb_Caen]  Magnificent Sex by Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph. D and A. Dana Ménard, Ph.D [https://bookshop.org/a/111857/9780367181376] Joel Embiid [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joel_Embiid] Original Music: Song: Piano Man (Live at Hidden East Tavern) [https://music.apple.com/us/album/piano-man-live-at-hidden-east-tavern/1561445977?i=1561445984] Artist: Muistardeaux Collective [https://sinksandwich.com/muistardeaux-collective] Album: Abstractio's Prestige [https://music.apple.com/us/album/abstractios-prestige/1561445977] Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2449386/fan_mail/new] Don't miss the good stuff! Sign up for our monthly newsletter here [https://workfrombedfriday.substack.com/]—it includes book reviews, date night ideas, and more juicy tidbits from the bed and beyond! Plus, you'll get links to alllllll the latest episodes! Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed.

An AI Threesome: Season 3 Premiere!

Welcome to Season 3 of Work From Bed Friday! Inspired by the feminist podcasting duo Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory of Dire Straights, Amy & Tommy try an AI experiment—in the name of research, of course. Eye-opening, spicy, fascinating, and ultimately disturbing, they discuss the experience candidly, wondering what effect this technology will have on our future love, sex, and connection as a culture. Mentioned in this episode: "My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could" from Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/my-ai-loves-me-better-than-anyone-ever-could/id1237931798?i=1000755110749] "Love in the Time of AI Companions" in the New Yorker  [https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2026/03/16/love-in-the-time-of-ai-companions] "We Got AI Boyfriends" from Dire Straights with Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory [https://www.direstraightspod.com/p/we-got-ai-boyfriends] Dire Straights Substack [https://www.direstraightspod.com/] Candy AI [https://candy.ai/] Joi  [https://joi.com/] Greenpeace article on the environmental impact of AI [https://www.greenpeace.org/international/story/82486/ai-energy-environment-democracy/] Original Music: Song: Can You Get Me a Flashlight? [https://music.apple.com/us/album/can-you-get-me-a-flashlight/1781358167?i=1781358379]  Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth [https://sinksandwich.com/rick-real-and-the-warmth] Album: FM Perspective [https://music.apple.com/us/album/fm-perspective/1781358167]  Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2449386/fan_mail/new] Don't miss the good stuff! Sign up for our monthly newsletter here [https://workfrombedfriday.substack.com/]—it includes book reviews, date night ideas, and more juicy tidbits from the bed and beyond! Plus, you'll get links to alllllll the latest episodes! Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed.