4 Cultural Myths About Mindset

How To Adult Better Through Curiosity And Play

Your nervous system is not only reacting to life, it is reacting to what you expect life to be. Naomi Mills closes out the mindset series by getting practical about how belief, curiosity and playfulness change what your body does under pressure, and why the placebo and nocebo effect is not a niche science fact but a daily reality for your health and wellbeing. We talk about what happens as adults when we become allergic to looking silly, failing publicly, or being new at something. Naomi shares a playful tool from improv, the “Yes And” game, and why practising agreement and creativity can open the system out of threat mode and into connection. We also bring back a simple perspective check many of us use with children, then forget for ourselves: will this matter tomorrow, next week, or next month? From there we go deeper into mantras as belief filters, not pretty quotes. You’ll hear an example that lands for a lot of high-achieving people: “I am deeply loved even at rest”, and how shifting that kind of story can change your physiology, your boundaries and your capacity to recover. We finish with a grounded take on manifestation: get clear on how you want to feel, take action, and let your subconscious start highlighting the opportunities you used to walk past. If you want a calmer, braver nervous system and a mindset that supports real change, follow the podcast, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to their body.

Placebo And Nocebo: How Belief Changes Biology

If a sham knee operation once outperformed the real surgery for pain and mobility, it forces a bigger question: what if expectation is not a side note, but a biological input your nervous system is using all the time? I’m Naomi Mills, and I’m digging into the placebo effect and the nocebo effect as proof of how tightly linked the body, brain, and healing really are. This is not about pretending you are fine or “thinking yourself well”. It is about understanding how meaning, belief, and repeated inner stories can shift physiology in measurable ways. We look at how nocebo can creep in through side effect lists, scary predictions, and the familiar line of “nothing can be done”, then how those messages can organise the nervous system around threat, fear, and increased pain. I share examples from my work and from firewalking, where attention and expectation can amplify sensation long after an event, and we connect it all back to survival wiring: your brain keeps asking “Am I safe?” and “What should I prepare for?” From there we move into what helps: genuine hope, clearer language, and practical nervous system support like sleep, hydration, food, daily regulation practices, and connection. I also share how learning about epigenetics changed my relationship with a personal fear after losing my mum to cancer, and why your “future self” is shaped by the filters you live through today. If you have ever felt betrayed by your body, this is a reminder to make it a friendlier place to be.  Subscribe, share this with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to their body. Do you have a mind/body or nervous system topic you want to hear more about? Visit www.youaretheanswer.co.uk or email hello@youaretheanswer.co.uk and let us know!

What Are We Really Seeking When We Pick Up A Screen?

Your screen time might not be a bad habit at all. It might be your nervous system trying to solve a real problem the fastest way it knows how. I’m Naomi Mills, chiropractor and host of You Are the Answer, and I’m inviting you to look at scrolling, gaming, and constant checking through the body’s wiring rather than through shame, guilt, or “just try harder” discipline.  We talk about what happens when your baseline stress response sits a little too high for a little too long. In that low-level fight or flight state, your brain craves both relief and stimulation, and screens deliver both on demand. We unpack dopamine, unpredictability, notifications, and why the next video, message, or like can feel irresistible even when it doesn’t genuinely make you feel good. This nervous system regulation perspective also explains why focus can feel harder offline, because real life isn’t designed around constant rewards.  If you’re a parent, we go deeper into why teens struggle more with smartphones and social media. The teenage brain’s reward and emotional centres develop earlier than the logical centres that support impulse control, and the prefrontal cortex keeps developing into the mid twenties. That doesn’t mean your child is weak or difficult. It means the environment matters, and the support needs to match their stage of development.  We finish with a practical shift that changes everything: regulation versus distraction. You’ll leave with kinder questions to ask yourself or your young person, plus real-world ideas that meet the underlying needs for safety, connection, soothing, and healthy stimulation. If this resonated, subscribe, share with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to their body. You can order your nervous system reset deck via my website: Products | You are the answer [https://youaretheanswer.co.uk/resources/products]

What Is Your Phone REALLY Doing To Your Nervous System?

Your phone isn’t just a tool in your hand, it can become the background environment your nervous system lives in. When that environment is filled with constant input, rapid topic switching, comparison, and fear-based headlines, your body can stay slightly on alert all day long and we end up calling it a “mindset problem”. I want to take the shame out of that and bring it back to something more honest and more workable: regulation starts in the body, not in perfect thoughts.  We talk about why modern screen time can leave you feeling tired but wired, why scrolling before bed or first thing in the morning primes your stress response, and how clickbait and negativity hook into survival wiring that doesn’t always know what is relevant to your real life. I also share the dopamine layer of social media and novelty, why stillness can feel oddly uncomfortable over time, and why even curated images can land in the body as a subtle signal of “I’m behind”.  Rather than pushing discipline or deleting everything, we explore a gentler, more sustainable path: creating space. Small pauses like a phone-free start to the day, a short walk without input, waiting in a queue without scrolling, or keeping your phone out of the bedroom can give your nervous system the gap it needs to settle. When your body softens, your thoughts often shift on their own.  If this resonates, listen, share it with someone you care about, and leave a review. Subscribe so you don’t miss next week, and tell me what you notice when you add a little more space to your day.

4 Cultural Myths About Mindset

Four phrases get repeated like gospel in self-help culture: “fake it till you make it”, “no pain, no gain”, “everything happens for a reason”, and “just think positive”. I’m not here to mock them, because each one holds a kernel of truth. I am here to slow them down and ask the missing question: what is your nervous system doing while you’re trying to live by that slogan? When we’re in fight or flight, advice that relies on controlling thoughts can feel impossible. That doesn’t mean you’re failing, it means your body is trying to protect you. We explore why confidence built on pretending can deepen disconnection, how growth requires discomfort but not pain, and why rushing to find meaning after a painful event can invalidate real emotion. We also name the subtle harm of toxic positivity, especially when we use it on ourselves, and why you can’t think your way out of a body that feels unsafe. You’ll leave with a calmer, more practical model for mindset: regulate first, then reframe. I share grounded nervous system regulation tools like gentle stretching of your comfort zone, integrating emotions through the body, journalling, movement, and a simple three-breath reset you can do anywhere. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to safety in their body.