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Compare, Despair, Repeat: How Social Media Hijacks Your Self-Worth

49 min · 5 mei 2026
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We are not supposed to talk about this. That social media is making us miserable. That it's affecting our mental health. That we're outsourcing our self-worth to an algorithm and calling it a Tuesday. In this episode, I sit down with Mari Wuellner — founder of The Crew Life and a multi-business owner who took a three-month social media sabbatical last summer and came out the other side with some uncomfortable truths. We talk about what actually happens when you cut the cord. The withdrawal symptoms (yes, they're real). The faux loneliness that disappears the second you start having actual coffee with actual humans. The "in-between moments" we've trained ourselves out of — the grocery line, the red light, the wait at a restaurant — that we now reflexively fill with scrolling because we've forgotten how to just be. We get into the compare-and-despair loop, the way the algorithm decides your worth on any given day, and the racket of "everyone's an expert now" (yes, we drag Mel Robbins, you're welcome). We talk about hate comments, body comments, and the desensitization that happens when the algorithm serves you a puppy video, then a grandpa with a baby, then a woman being murdered in the street. And we talk about what to do about it. Not in a perfect, Pinterest, ten-step-system way. In a real way. If you've felt like social media is doing something to you and you can't quite name it, this one's for you. About Mari Mari Wuellner is a feisty entrepreneur, multi-business owner, and founder of The Crew Life Coaching Collective. She opened her insurance agency in 2008, growing it to $3MM in annual premium, and launched her coaching practice in 2017. After her kids kept saying "don't post it," Mari took a 3-month social media sabbatical that revolutionized how she shows up in business and life.Now [http://life.Now] she helps women design lives they actually want to live—not just perform online. Mari is married to Tom, mom to three kids, real estate investor, podcaster, and avid traveler who believes in living on purpose, not by default. Connect with Mari: * Instagram: @mariwuellner * The Crew Life: www.thecrewcc.com [http://www.thecrewcc.com] Connect with Danielle: * Instagram: @inspiredactionwellness * Website: inspiredactionwellness.com [http://inspiredactionwellness.com] Copyright & Legal Disclaimer All content in this podcast episode is the intellectual property of Danielle Young and Fine, I’ll Talk About It, unless otherwise stated. This episode is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or professional advice. Views and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect the views of the host. Listener discretion is advised. Any actions you take based on this content are done at your own risk. Unauthorized reproduction or distribution is prohibited.

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