Flawthentic ME

080: Don't be the comfy couch; be the accent piece - People Pleasing at its worst!

In this episode, Sunny Lamba, unpacks the cost of people-pleasing and how boundaries, self-worth, and authentic belonging rebuild trust with yourself and depth in your relationships. She shares client stories, cultural conditioning, and practical scripts to help you say no with love and mean it. • people-pleasing as self-abandonment and resentment • don't be the “comfortable couch”; be an accent piece • boundaries as clarity not conflict • external validation vs self-worth and identity • belonging vs fitting in and cultural conditioning • empath myths and protecting energy with meaning • business boundaries, pricing, and scope • scripts for saying no early and cleanly • training others how to treat you through self-respect Come join us in "You Unlocked" community and let’s unlock your full potential together.  Send me a message on Instagram and let me show you how USW can shift this for you. Go and tag me on your stories @Sunny_lamba on Instagram and tell others about this. If you know someone who is struggling with this, share it with them You can also sign up for a newsletter so that you can get weekly tips and tool Join the Flawthentic Me community of powerful women who are always there to celebrate you.. Join Group here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/selfloveforsouthasianwomen]! Grab your Free 30-Day Self Love Calendar [https://sunnylamba.ck.page/selflovecalendar]. Let's connect: Website: www.flawthenticme.com [http://www.flawthenticme.com/] Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/sunny.lamba.16/] Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/sunny_lamba]

79: When Food Becomes More Than Nourishment: Eating Disorder Recovery with Mallary Tenore Tarpley

Mallary Tenore Tarpley shares her harrowing journey from childhood anorexia to her present-day reality as a mother in recovery, exploring the complex relationship between grief, control, and disordered eating. We talked about: • Mallary's loss of her mother at age 11 that became a catalyst for developing anorexia as an attempt to "stop time" and feel closer to her • The concept of "the middle place" in eating disorder recovery—the space between acute illness and full recovery where 85% of people identify • "slips" are not failures but opportunities for growth and forward movement • how cultural perspectives on food create additional complexities for those with eating disorders • genetic factors in eating disorders—we inherit vulnerability, not destiny • how motherhood transformed her relationship with her body and recovery • the importance of helping children see their bodies as worthy of respect regardless of appearance You can find Mallary's book "Slip: Life in the Middle of Eating Disorder Recovery" wherever books are sold. Connect with Mallary through her newsletter at mallary.substack.com or on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/mallarytenoretarpley/]. Join the Flawthentic Me community of powerful women who are always there to celebrate you.. Join Group here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/selfloveforsouthasianwomen]! Grab your Free 30-Day Self Love Calendar [https://sunnylamba.ck.page/selflovecalendar]. Let's connect: Website: www.flawthenticme.com [http://www.flawthenticme.com/] Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/sunny.lamba.16/] Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/sunny_lamba]

078: Motivation Myth & Gym Memberships - Your Guide to Consistency

Motivation is the last thing you need for building lasting habits; instead, identity work and environment design are the crucial elements that create genuine change. • The gym membership example shows how motivation only gets you to sign up, but doesn't help you show up consistently • Our brain loves automation and efficiency, making willpower an ineffective tool for habit building • Knowledge without implementation is worthless – reading books or watching videos isn't enough • Changing your identity to align with your desired habits is more powerful than waiting for motivation • Environmental design matters more than willpower – make good habits easier and bad habits harder • Paid programs work better than free resources because they provide accountability and guidance • Embodiment – taking physical action on what you learn – creates lasting change • Your mindset must change before your behaviors can transform consistently Join my new 6-week program, The Flawthentic H.A.B.I.T.S. Lab, starting August 4th. We'll work on identity transformation, finding your why, science backed and guilt free habit building. It includes six months of accountability to ensure your habits stick. Reach out to me on Instagram @Sunny_Lamba to learn more about transforming your habits for good. Join the Flawthentic Me community of powerful women who are always there to celebrate you.. Join Group here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/selfloveforsouthasianwomen]! Grab your Free 30-Day Self Love Calendar [https://sunnylamba.ck.page/selflovecalendar]. Let's connect: Website: www.flawthenticme.com [http://www.flawthenticme.com/] Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/sunny.lamba.16/] Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/sunny_lamba] Join the Flawthentic Me community of powerful women who are always there to celebrate you.. Join Group here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/selfloveforsouthasianwomen]! Grab your Free 30-Day Self Love Calendar [https://sunnylamba.ck.page/selflovecalendar]. Let's connect: Website: www.flawthenticme.com [http://www.flawthenticme.com/] Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/sunny.lamba.16/] Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/sunny_lamba]

077: Breaking the Silence - Men's Mental Health Crisis with Sunny Chopra

Men's mental health remains stigmatized despite its critical importance, with many men suffering silently due to societal conditioning that discourages emotional expression.  In this episode, I am talking to my first male guest, Sunny Chopra, a mental health coach who transformed his own life by embracing vulnerability, shares insights on how both men and women can break the cycle of emotional suppression. Topics covered: • Childhood conditioning sets the foundation for emotional suppression in men • Unprocessed emotions often emerge as anger, outbursts, or through unhealthy coping mechanisms like excessive alcohol use • External success doesn't necessarily indicate internal healing—many men appear fine while struggling silently • The pressure of being "the provider" creates immense stress that can manifest in physical health problems • Women can be allies by focusing on observable behaviors rather than directly addressing emotions • Creating safe spaces for vulnerability requires patience and understanding that men may lack emotional language • Simple practices like journaling, voice recordings, and regular emotional check-ins help build emotional awareness • Seeking professional help removes judgment and provides essential tools for emotional expression For more resources on men's mental health and to connect with Sunny Chopra, visit his Instagram @SunnyCCoaching [https://www.instagram.com/sunnyccoaching/] or check out The South Asian Healing Podcast. [https://open.spotify.com/show/68ZSN2kkhdjNsov0brx3kE?si=e1cb43f46b534958] Join the Flawthentic Me community of powerful women who are always there to celebrate you.. Join Group here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/selfloveforsouthasianwomen]! Grab your Free 30-Day Self Love Calendar [https://sunnylamba.ck.page/selflovecalendar]. Let's connect: Website: www.flawthenticme.com [http://www.flawthenticme.com/] Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/sunny.lamba.16/] Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/sunny_lamba]

076: Sleep Like Your Life Depends On it: Reclaiming Rest Through Mindset

Sleep quality directly reflects your relationship with yourself. In this episode, I share how I transformed from struggling with insomnia to consistently getting 7-8 hours of quality sleep without medication, and how you can do the same. • One-third of adults aged 35-64 aren't getting enough sleep, creating a sleep deprivation pandemic • Poor sleep is linked to chronic diseases, weight gain, cognitive impairment and mental health issues • Understanding your "why" for better sleep creates the motivation needed for lasting change • Auto-suggestion before sleep can program your subconscious mind to help you sleep better • Brain dumping before bed helps quiet racing thoughts by transferring your worries to paper • Keeping phones out of the bedroom is the single most important change for better sleep • Consistent sleep schedules, cool dark rooms, and relaxation techniques support quality rest • Start with one small habit rather than trying to change everything at once Download my Bedtime Routine Checklist for quality sleep using the link in the show notes.  If you're struggling with feeling worthy of rest and self-care, reach out to learn more about my 12-week Unleash Your Self-Worth program.  Share this episode on Instagram and tag me @sunny_lamba. Join the Flawthentic Me community of powerful women who are always there to celebrate you.. Join Group here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/selfloveforsouthasianwomen]! Grab your Free 30-Day Self Love Calendar [https://sunnylamba.ck.page/selflovecalendar]. Let's connect: Website: www.flawthenticme.com [http://www.flawthenticme.com/] Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/sunny.lamba.16/] Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/sunny_lamba]