Reinvention Room with Allison Hare

Ever wonder why toxic wellness culture has us dropping $80 on serums that don't work while wellness scams rake in billions targeting women who just want to feel better? I used to be that girl—clutching my overpriced celery juice, convinced the next biohacking trend would finally "fix" me, completely oblivious to how the wellness industry profits off our deepest insecurities. What if I told you that aging is not a disease to be cured, and that trillion-dollar industry built on essential oil wellness promises is actually designed to keep you coming back for more? Amy Larocca, award-winning journalist and author of "How to Be Well," is here to blow the lid off why wellness retreats feel like cults and how MLM schemes disguised as self-care are preying on our desire to belong. In today's episode, Amy and I dive deep into the uncomfortable truth about how the wellness industry specifically targets women, turning our natural desire for health and connection into profit margins. We're talking about everything from the psychology behind wellness scams to why "optimizing" ourselves has become another form of perfectionism that's keeping us stuck. If you've ever side-eyed your collagen gummies or wondered why that expensive retreat left you feeling more confused than transformed, this conversation is going to hit different. What You'll Learn in This Episode: * Why toxic wellness culture specifically targets women and how to spot the manipulation tactics before you fall for them * The real reason wellness scams are a $3.7 trillion industry—and it's not because the products actually work * How wellness retreats use cult-like psychology to make you feel like you belong (while emptying your wallet) * Why MLM schemes disguised as essential oil wellness are preying on women's desire for community and financial freedom * The uncomfortable truth about biohacking trends and whether any of these "optimization" methods are actually helping you * How the wellness industry profits by convincing us that aging is a disease that needs expensive, complicated solutions * What Amy Larocca discovered during her deep dive into wellness communities—and why debunking doesn't work * The difference between actual health practices and commodified self-care that keeps you buying but never "fixed" This conversation with Amy hit me right in the gut because honestly, I've been that woman throwing money at wellness promises, hoping the next thing would finally make me feel "optimized." The truth is, we're all craving something real to believe in—but maybe what we're actually looking for isn't found in a $200 supplement or exclusive retreat. What if the real wellness revolution is learning to trust our own bodies and stop outsourcing our intuition to people who profit from our insecurities? If this episode made you question your collagen gummies or side-eye that wellness influencer in your feed, grab Amy's book "How to Be Well [https://amzn.to/4jXu4s3]," share this episode in your group chat, and let's start having these conversations that actually matter. Buy How To Be Well - Amy Larocca's book [https://amzn.to/4jXu4s3] Amy's IG: https://www.instagram.com/amylaroccaauthor/ Be sure to rate, review, and follow this podcast on your player and also, connect with me IRL for more goodness and life-changing stuff. * Schedule a FREE podcast clarity call with me [https://allisonhare.com/freecall] - Your future audience is out there. Talk to them! * Sign up for the free Reinvention Roadmap weekly email [https://www.allisonhare.com/email] * AllisonHare.com [https://www.allisonhare.com/] * Follow me on Instagram [https://instagram.com/allison__hare], LinkedIn [https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555154007153], and YouTube [https://youtube.com/@reinventionroom]. * DOWNLOAD the free podcast equipment guide [https://go.allisonhare.com/equipment]- No guesswork, no google rabbit holes, start recording today * Reb3l Dance Fitness [https://reb3lfitness.com/orders/customer_info?o=97556#via=ahare]- Try it at home! Free month with this link [https://reb3lfitness.com/orders/customer_info?o=97556#via=ahare]. * Personal Brand [https://calendly.com/bbgallison/60] - need help building yours? Schedule a call with me here [https://calendly.com/bbgallison/60] and let's discuss. * Feedback and Contact:: allison@allisonhare.com

The gender divide is tearing through every corner of our lives right now, and honestly? It's fucking confusing out there. While ambitious women are crushing it in boardrooms and lecture halls, we're watching a crisis of masculinity unfold in real time—and the dating challenges that follow are enough to make you want to swipe left on humanity altogether. How did we get to a place where traditional gender roles feel both completely outdated and weirdly appealing again, where toxic masculinity battles with something called "tonic masculinity," and where the trad wife movement is somehow trending on the same timeline as record-breaking female college enrollment? If you're watching this cultural battlefield from the middle like I am, wondering what the hell happened to just... connecting with people, then buckle up because we're about to unpack why everyone feels so damn lost. In today's episode, we're talking about everything from the rise of incels to why Gen Z is rushing back to church, plus the real tea on why building meaningful friendships in adulthood feels harder than landing your dream job. This isn't about picking sides—it's about understanding how gender and mental health, modern family dynamics, and our collective fear of rejection are shaping the way we love, work, and show up in the world. What You'll Learn in This Episode: * Why the gender divide is creating an 80/20 dating crisis that's leaving high-achieving women struggling to find equal partners * The shocking data behind the crisis of masculinity—including why suicide rates among young men are skyrocketing and what it means for all of us * How toxic masculinity versus tonic masculinity is reshaping what it means to be a man in 2025 (and why Tim Walz is the perfect example) * The real political agenda behind the trad wife movement and why "prairie core" isn't as innocent as those sourdough starters make it seem * Why 60% of college students are now women and how this educational flip is changing modern family gender roles forever * The connection between avoidance of pain, dating challenges, and why everyone's rushing back to traditional gender norms * How ambitious women are burning out trying to prove their worth while simultaneously being told to "lean back" into feminine energy * The surprising strategy for building deep friendships in adulthood that actually works (hint: it involves getting comfortable with rejection) If this episode hit a nerve, GOOD! It means you're awake and ready to stop avoiding the hard conversations that actually change things. The state of gender roles is playing out in every boardroom, bedroom, and dating app, and understanding why we've ended up here gives you serious power to navigate it all differently. So tell me: which part of this cultural shift resonates most with your own experience? Are you feeling the dating struggles, the friendship challenges, or maybe you're questioning everything you thought you knew about modern gender norms? If you're ready to build something meaningful in your business, relationships, or leadership while working through any of this cultural chaos, book a free strategy call with me at allisonhare.com/freecall [http://allisonhare.com/freecall] to find your voice in this shifting landscape. LINKS & MENTIONED RESOURCES * "The Mask You Live In" [https://youtu.be/hc45-ptHMxo?si=i0UpE-GXKvcJJpq8] - Documentary by Jennifer Newsome (Gavin Newsom's wife) about how boys are socialized to suppress emotions * The Lost Boys Study [https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/CSJ-The_Lost_Boys.pdf] - Research from The Center for Social Justice (UK-based organization) examining educational and economic disparities affecting young men * Emily in Your Phone [https://open.substack.com/pub/emilyinyourphone/p/jam-girl-summer-is-the-new-self-care?r=cv3oz&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false] - Substack newsletter by Emily Amick discussing the political undertones of the tradwife movement * Launch your podcast [https://allisonhare.com/freecall] - Book a free clarity call with Allison NOTABLE TIME STAMPS 00:01 - Episode introduction: The elephant in the gender studies room and why everything feels confusing right now 02:30 - Growing up in the 90s: How women were socialized to be small, pleasant, and pick-me girls 06:45 - The makeup bag story: Personal reflection on teenage socialization and the need to "present perfectly" 09:15 - The Lost Boys Study: Data on how men are struggling educationally, economically, and mentally 12:20 - Male suicide crisis: Why suicide is now the leading cause of death for men under 50 14:10 - "The Mask You Live In" documentary discussion: How boys are limited to only two emotions 17:35 - Toxic vs. tonic masculinity explained (Tim Walz as an example) 19:45 - The incel movement and Andrew Tate's influence on frustrated young men 25:30 - The tradwife movement: Political undertones behind the "prairie core" aesthetic 31:20 - Personal story: Leaving corporate job and unlearning "never rely on a man" messaging 36:15 - Modern dating crisis: The 80/20 problem and educational gender flip 40:25 - Friendship struggles: The shame of not having a best friend as a high-performing woman 43:50 - Coach Dara's friendship strategy: Being upfront about wanting deep connections 48:30 - Avoidance of pain as the root of cultural problems 52:15 - Final thoughts on connection, rejection, and getting out of comfort zones Be sure to rate, review, and follow this podcast on your player and also, connect with me IRL for more goodness and life-changing stuff. * Schedule a FREE podcast clarity call with me [https://allisonhare.com/freecall] - Your future audience is out there. Talk to them! * Sign up for the free Reinvention Roadmap weekly email [https://www.allisonhare.com/email] * AllisonHare.com [https://www.allisonhare.com/] * Follow me on Instagram [https://instagram.com/allison__hare], LinkedIn [https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555154007153], and YouTube [https://youtube.com/@reinventionroom]. * DOWNLOAD the free podcast equipment guide [https://go.allisonhare.com/equipment]- No guesswork, no google rabbit holes, start recording today * Reb3l Dance Fitness [https://reb3lfitness.com/orders/customer_info?o=97556#via=ahare]- Try it at home! Free month with this link [https://reb3lfitness.com/orders/customer_info?o=97556#via=ahare]. * Personal Brand [https://calendly.com/bbgallison/60] - need help building yours? Schedule a call with me here [https://calendly.com/bbgallison/60] and let's discuss. * Feedback and Contact:: allison@allisonhare.com

I cried before we even started recording. That’s how much this woman has impacted me. Ciara Burton isn’t just a guest. She’s been a lifeline, a mirror, and a deep, generous force of wisdom in my life—and in the lives of so many women who are waking up to the truth that doing more isn't the answer. This conversation is about what happens when you stop trying to control everything and finally trust yourself. We talk about the identity unraveling that happens in motherhood, the grip of perfectionism, the pain that forces clarity, and how to build actual self-trust—not just talk about it. Ciara doesn’t coach from a place of “here’s how to fix your life.” She shows you how to actually listen to yourself. This episode is for the women who are done muscling through and ready to hear what their life has been trying to tell them all along. 🔥 WHAT WE TALK ABOUT: * [00:03] The moment Ciara said “you don’t need tactics—you need to be heard” * [08:00] Why “dropping into the heart” is more than a wellness meme—it’s a lifeline * [13:00] Ciara’s perfectionist phase and the dark night that followed * [18:45] Healing PCOS through belief work, moon cycles, and spiritual grit * [20:10] The birth that broke her open—and what she learned when she surrendered * [27:00] The solo trip to Maui that changed everything * [33:00] Rebuilding a marriage, one aligned decision at a time * [38:40] How control became her safety blanket—and what helped her release it * [44:50] Why saying no is a spiritual practice * [51:10] Authenticity as the highest vibration (yep, even higher than love) * [55:30] How being love—not just doing the work—actually changes the world Connect with Ciara: * Website: ciaraburton.com [https://ciaraburton.com] * Instagram: @ciaramburton [https://www.instagram.com/ciaramburton] * Program: becometheceoofyoursoul.com [http://becometheceoofyoursoul.com] Book a free podcast clarity call with Allison [https://allisonhare.com/freecall] Be sure to rate, review, and follow this podcast on your player and also, connect with me IRL for more goodness and life-changing stuff. * Schedule a FREE podcast clarity call with me [https://allisonhare.com/freecall] - Your future audience is out there. Talk to them! * Sign up for the free Reinvention Roadmap weekly email [https://www.allisonhare.com/email] * AllisonHare.com [https://www.allisonhare.com/] * Follow me on Instagram [https://instagram.com/allison__hare], LinkedIn [https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555154007153], and YouTube [https://youtube.com/@reinventionroom]. * DOWNLOAD the free podcast equipment guide [https://go.allisonhare.com/equipment]- No guesswork, no google rabbit holes, start recording today * Reb3l Dance Fitness [https://reb3lfitness.com/orders/customer_info?o=97556#via=ahare]- Try it at home! Free month with this link [https://reb3lfitness.com/orders/customer_info?o=97556#via=ahare]. * Personal Brand [https://calendly.com/bbgallison/60] - need help building yours? Schedule a call with me here [https://calendly.com/bbgallison/60] and let's discuss. * Feedback and Contact:: allison@allisonhare.com

What do you do when everything you were raised to believe starts to crack? Holly, known as Hope with Holly on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube, has built a following of over 500,000 by saying the things most people are too scared to admit. She talks about religious trauma, surviving loss, parenting a transgender child, dating in midlife, and what it means to find your voice when it feels like everything’s falling apart. In this episode, Holly shares her raw, funny, heartbreaking story of leaving Christian fundamentalism. We talk about: Growing up Pentecostal and what “church” really looked like Marrying under prophetic pressure (yes, really) Losing her daughter Monroe and the unraveling that followed Being labeled a heretic for asking basic questions Rebuilding identity after religious and social death Parenting a transgender son in the Deep South Becoming a truth-teller with a platform—and a whole lot of haters Redefining spirituality, purpose, and freedom on her own terms This conversation is for anyone who’s ever felt betrayed by their belief system or pressured to stay quiet to “belong.” Holly proves you’re allowed to change—and you’re still worthy of connection even if you no longer check the boxes. 📍 Notable Timestamps 00:02 – Holly’s background growing up in Pentecostal chaos 06:45 – The moment she was told to marry a man by a prophet 14:00 – Losing Monroe and the wake-up call that followed 21:38 – Questioning God, the Bible, and everything she was taught 34:19 – Parenting through deconstruction and showing up for her trans son 41:10 – How she found her voice and created “Hope with Holly” 49:35 – Why she started her platform with just 4 followers in mind 53:58 – What spiritual liberation looks like today 59:00 – Her workbook for dating and self-discovery 1:01:20 – Building her Soul Sisters community of over 1,000 women 📚 Resources Mentioned Hope with Holly on TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@hopewithholly], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/hopewithholly], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/hopewithholly] Holly’s Dating & Self-Discovery Workbook [https://stan.store/HopeWithHolly/p/get-my-workbook-now-w5s2hjnx] Book a free podcast clarity call with Allison [https://allisonhare.com/freecall] Be sure to rate, review, and follow this podcast on your player and also, connect with me IRL for more goodness and life-changing stuff. * Schedule a FREE podcast clarity call with me [https://allisonhare.com/freecall] - Your future audience is out there. Talk to them! * Sign up for the free Reinvention Roadmap weekly email [https://www.allisonhare.com/email] * AllisonHare.com [https://www.allisonhare.com/] * Follow me on Instagram [https://instagram.com/allison__hare], LinkedIn [https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555154007153], and YouTube [https://youtube.com/@reinventionroom]. * DOWNLOAD the free podcast equipment guide [https://go.allisonhare.com/equipment]- No guesswork, no google rabbit holes, start recording today * Reb3l Dance Fitness [https://reb3lfitness.com/orders/customer_info?o=97556#via=ahare]- Try it at home! Free month with this link [https://reb3lfitness.com/orders/customer_info?o=97556#via=ahare]. * Personal Brand [https://calendly.com/bbgallison/60] - need help building yours? Schedule a call with me here [https://calendly.com/bbgallison/60] and let's discuss. * Feedback and Contact:: allison@allisonhare.com

This episode marks 6 years behind the mic—and I’m telling the truth behind what it actually takes to make it this far in podcasting (hint: it’s not downloads, shiny guests, or the right mic). I’m spilling stories I’ve never shared—about the breakdowns, breakthroughs, and BS that made this podcast what it is today. If you’ve got a podcast, want one, or have outgrown something in your life, this is your episode. SHOW NOTES: In this raw solo episode, I pull back the curtain on what six years, five podcast names, a million downloads, and a reinvention (or ten) really looks like. Here’s what you’ll hear: Why your voice doesn’t need fixing—just a bigger room What I learned from launching 250+ episodes and nearly quitting The real story behind my very first podcast coaching cohort When Clubhouse was a thing—and how it changed everything The hard truth about podcast conferences and chasing downloads Why “go viral” is a terrible strategy The Cindy Robinson phenomenon and how unknown guests can have the biggest impact What I wish every podcaster understood before buying another mic The 4 P’s that make a podcast actually work (this is gold) And a few things I got totally wrong that you shouldn’t repeat If you're creating content, building a brand, or wondering if your message matters—this episode will speak to you. NOTABLE TIMESTAMPS: 00:02 – The OG intro from 2019 06:11 – The real reason I started a podcast 16:08 – Podcast name changes & identity shifts 26:44 – My very first coaching program (Press Play origin story) 32:20 – What podcast conferences taught me (and what they didn’t) 41:13 – The Cindy Robinson effect (must-hear segment) 51:32 – Leaving corporate: The mic gave me what the paycheck couldn’t 58:05 – The top 3 ways to monetize your podcast 01:09:18 – The 4 Ps of podcasting (Purpose, Person, Premise, Promise) 01:19:50 – The power of intimate, honest podcasting RESOURCES MENTIONED: Book a free clarity call: allisonhare.com/freecall [https://allisonhare.com/freecall] Join the email list: allisonhare.com/email [https://allisonhare.com/email] Cindy Robinson's book: Bright Girl Lacks Focus [https://amzn.to/4mmVBpd] Be sure to rate, review, and follow this podcast on your player and also, connect with me IRL for more goodness and life-changing stuff. * Schedule a FREE podcast clarity call with me [https://allisonhare.com/freecall] - Your future audience is out there. Talk to them! * Sign up for the free Reinvention Roadmap weekly email [https://www.allisonhare.com/email] * AllisonHare.com [https://www.allisonhare.com/] * Follow me on Instagram [https://instagram.com/allison__hare], LinkedIn [https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555154007153], and YouTube [https://youtube.com/@reinventionroom]. * DOWNLOAD the free podcast equipment guide [https://go.allisonhare.com/equipment]- No guesswork, no google rabbit holes, start recording today * Reb3l Dance Fitness [https://reb3lfitness.com/orders/customer_info?o=97556#via=ahare]- Try it at home! Free month with this link [https://reb3lfitness.com/orders/customer_info?o=97556#via=ahare]. * Personal Brand [https://calendly.com/bbgallison/60] - need help building yours? Schedule a call with me here [https://calendly.com/bbgallison/60] and let's discuss. * Feedback and Contact:: allison@allisonhare.com