Life: The Ultimate Choose Your Own Adventure Game

In this episode Cliff and Daphne dive deep into the world of decision-making. They explore the idea that every choice we make—big or small—shapes our lives in significant ways. They challenge the conventional wisdom around decisions, discussing the fears, influences, and the psychology that governs how we make choices. Firstly, they discuss the fear that most people have of making the wrong decision: How the fear of failure and loss of status influences our choices. They discuss the factors that influence and impact the results of our decisions as well, such as:  -The concept of Bounded Rationality: The concept that our decision-making is limited by the information we have, the time constraints we face, and our cognitive limitations. - Cultural and Societal Influences: The role of status and the avoidance of shame in shaping our decisions. - Practical Wisdom: How ancient and modern philosophies can guide us to make better decisions, emphasizing the balance between logic, evidence, and personal values. - Existential Responsibility: The idea that our decisions define who we are and the importance of taking responsibility for our choices. Key Takeaways to assist us in making decisions:  -Understand Your Values:Aligning decisions with personal values and goals is crucial to supporting our learning, our vision for the future and to support a fulfilling life. - Regular Reflection: Reflecting on past decisions helps us understand our true motivations and make better future choices. - Consider Risks and Outcomes: Practical wisdom involves assessing potential risks and preparing for different outcomes. - Embrace Responsibility: Accepting that every decision shapes our essence encourages mindful and deliberate choices. Responsability is simply our ability to respond to change and things that arise in the moment, without blame, judgement and criticsm of ourselves and as importantly, others. Quote of the Episode: “You make your best decision with the information you have available, the time you have available, and by understanding that we are going to have cognitive limits. Therefore, you really can’t ever get it ‘wrong.- Daphne Connect with Us: You can find Cliff at Cliff Ravenscraft [https://www.cliffravenscraft.com/]. And email him with the subject line 'Values" if you would like the free document he created based on the values exercise he talks about on the show.  You can find Daphne at Daphne Scott [https://www.daphne-scott.com/] and get her book, "Waking Up A Leader: The Five Relationships of Success". You can also subscribe to more of her writing on Substack at https://dsleadershiplife.substack.com/ [https://dsleadershiplife.substack.com/].  Continue to join us each week as we support you to choose your own adventure!

Ep 28: Choose (It) Yourself: Imagination, Courage, Confidence In this episode of Life: The Ultimate Choose Your Own Adventure Game, Cliff and Daphne dive deep into the concept of choosing oneself. Drawing inspiration from the popular phrase "treat yo’self" from Parks and Recreation, they explore the importance of self-empowerment through three key lenses: Imagination, Courage, and Confidence. Imagination: The first step in creating the life you want is to imagine it. Whether it's public speaking, running a company, or leading a group, it all starts with a vision. Cliff and Daphne stress the importance of creating your own vision, rather than letting others define it for you. Courage: Courage is the dividing line between success and mediocrity. Using the analogy of putting in golf, the hosts emphasize that without the courage to take action, success is impossible. Courage is the fuel that propels your vision into reality. Confidence: Confidence is often misunderstood. Cliff and Daphne debunk the myth that only certain people are "pre-ordained" for success. They argue that a lack of confidence is essentially internalized futility, where people believe they need permission to succeed. Instead, they advocate for self-confidence rooted in the understanding that everyone has the potential to succeed in their vision and dreams. Quote of the Episode: "Don't quit your daydream."-Cliff Closing Thoughts: Cliff and Daphne encourage listeners to take the reins in their lives by imagining their future, summoning the courage to pursue it, and cultivating the confidence to believe in their own potential. Stay connected with us at www.cliffravenscraft.com [http://www.cliffravenscraft.com] and at www.daphne-scott.com [http://www.daphne-scott.com]  Until next time, choosing yo'self! ---

Episode 027: How and Why to Say No Welcome back to Life: The Ultimate Choose Your Own Adventure Game, where your hosts, Cliff Ravenscraft and Daphne Scott, guide you through the ever-changing landscape of life, one adventure at a time. As we kick off Season 2, we're diving into a topic that resonates deeply with everyone: learning to say "no." In this episode, we explore the power of saying "no" and why mastering this skill is essential for your well-being. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by chronic stress or just trying to maintain balance, this episode has something for you. Daphne and Cliff delve into the transactional and transformational aspects of "no," discussing how it can protect your energy, clarify your priorities, and ultimately lead to more meaningful "yes" moments. You'll learn why saying "no" isn't just about setting boundaries; it's about cultivating a life of intention.Join us as we navigate this critical life skill and ensure you're playing the game of life on your terms. We also discuss the common fears associated with saying "no," such as disappointing others or being seen as a jerk, and how to overcome these challenges. Practice a slow "yes" and a quick "no" this month, and discover how this simple shift can transform your life.  Key Takeaways: - Why saying "no" is crucial for preventing burnout and overwhelm. - The importance of clear boundaries for a more intentional life. - Strategies for overcoming the fear of disappointing others. - How to practice and get comfortable with saying "no." Quote to Remember: Every "no" is a "yes" to something else and every "yes" is a "no" to something too. Connect with Us: Visit Cliff at https://www.cliffravenscraft.com [https://www.cliffravenscraft.com]) and Daphne at https://www.daphne-scott.com [https://www.daphne-scott.com] for more insights and resources. Thanks for joining us on this episode of Life: The Ultimate Choose Your Own Adventure Game. Stay tuned for more episodes, and until next time, remember that saying "no" is a powerful choice that leads to a more fulfilling "yes."

In this episode of "Life: The Ultimate Choose Your Own Adventure Game," podcast, hosts Daphne and Cliff wrap up the first season with a reflective discussion on the key takeaways from their 26-week journey. They delve into the profound concept of life and its complexities, discussing how different practices and philosophies have influenced their perspectives. The hosts explore topics such as the Five Levels of Attachment by Don Miguel Ruiz Jr., the importance of mindfulness, and the interplay between emotions and thoughts. They share personal anecdotes and insights on how to navigate emotional states, the role of a compelling vision, and the interconnectedness of various practices and modalities. The episode concludes with a heartfelt thank you to their listeners and a promise of more adventures in the upcoming season. 1. Introduction: - Reflecting on the journey of Season 1. - The profound concept of life and its complexities. 2. Five Levels of Attachment: - Discussion on Don Miguel Ruiz Jr.'s book "The Five Levels of Attachment." - The metaphor of the Five Levels and their impact on our lives. - Personal insights from Cliff on his reading experience. 3. Mindfulness: - Mindfulness as a fluid and evolving practice. - Different ways to practice mindfulness in daily life. - The significance of being present in the moment. 4. Navigating Emotional States: - Differentiating between feelings and thoughts. - Identifying and managing emotional states. - Personal experiences of dealing with emotions. 5. Appreciation and Reframing: - The importance of trading expectations for appreciation. - How reframing perspectives can transform experiences. - Personal stories of shifting mindsets. 6. Compelling Vision: - The role of a compelling vision in personal and professional growth. - Creating a vision for the next three to six months. - The impact of having a clear direction and purpose. 7. Interconnectedness of Practices: - Integrating various practices and modalities. - Creating personalized frameworks for growth. - The iterative nature of personal development. 8. Conclusion: - Gratitude for the listeners’ support throughout the season. - Announcing the return of the podcast in the fall with Season 2. - Encouraging listeners to stay subscribed and connected. Get your free handout here [https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fo/bas1ie3j4zw99s1xdmf8s/AEoxAsXvfzKLEM8hqGENCLs?rlkey=27e0hkqqmlco32629u5te6caa&dl=0] of this season's summary that you can print and put the practices, into practic.  Additional Resources: - Subscribe to Daphne’s mailing list at www.daphne-scott.com [http://www.daphne-scott.com] and also get the Feedback Toolkit to support you and your teams. Giving feedback is one of the most challenging things any great leader must do to support the growth and development of their team and overall success. This toolkit offers the tips, tricks and skills for maximal effectiveness for any leader.  You can also find Daphne's writings at DS Leadership Life-Thrive in the 9-5 [https://dsleadershiplife.substack.com/] where she discusses all topics at the intersection of work and life.  Join Cliff’s email newsletter at https://www.cliffravenscraft.com [https://www.cliffravenscraft.com/] for free access to the "All Beliefs Have Consequences" keynote and the Free the Dream course. Check out the Train with Cliff Audio Journal for behind-the-scenes insights and personal growth content at Train With Cliff Audio Journal [https://www.cliffravenscraft.com/trainwithcliff]. Get your subscription now for the next ninety-days at $25.00 a month.  Stay tuned for Season 2 starting in the fall, with fresh content and new adventures.

In this thought-provoking episode of "Life: The Ultimate Choose Your Own Adventure Game," hosts Cliff Ravenscraft and Daphne Scott delve into the metaphor of "getting off the bus" to explore themes of personal freedom and choice. Through the lens of a vivid dream recounted by Daphne, the discussion centers on the critical moments when we decide to diverge from our usual paths to pursue new opportunities. The episode examines the concepts of 'freedom from' and 'freedom to,' highlighting the non-linear nature of personal growth and the importance of challenging conventional beliefs about success. It's a deep dive into how stepping away from societal expectations can lead to profound self-discovery and redefine what it means to achieve success and fulfillment. The hosts encourage listeners to rethink their own journeys, ponder what they truly want, and consider the radical possibilities that come from choosing their unique paths. We discuss the idea of moving the negative out of our life as not being a gaurantee that we will experience the positive and why it might do just the opposite, we discuss the power of choosing what we really want and also, why focusing on the 'how' can stop us from moving in the direction of our experiences.  You will want to listen to this episode if you've been considering making any sort of change in your life whatsoever.  We also announce that we will bring this season of the show to a close in our next episode and return in the fall.  If you are interested in taking your life and your business to the next level, be sure to join Cliff on his podcast, The Cliff Ravenscraft Show Podcast [https://www.cliffravenscraft.com/podcasts/the-cliff-ravenscraft-show-mindset-answer-man]. If you're looking to transform your experience around money, time, your identity, friendships and stepping into the unknown, Daphne invites you to purchase her book Waking Up A Leader: The Five Relationships of Success [https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Leader-Five-Relationships-Success/dp/1544504829]. This book is a roadmap that guides you to consider what you really want in life and gives you the steps to embrace living your life with intention and action.