You Were Not Born a People Pleaser. You Were Trained.

Your Family Does Not Want To See You Win

What happens when the people closest to you become your biggest obstacle? In this episode of Make It Make Sense with Andrinique, she is getting into something most people are afraid to say out loud. Family members who speak negativity over your goals. Old bosses who told you that you were not good enough. Friends and peers who planted seeds of doubt right when you were starting to grow. And the very real experience of trying to build something inside an environment that was designed, whether intentionally or not, to make sure you fail. In this episode Andrinique covers the psychology behind why the people closest to you sometimes struggle the most to support you, the research behind why experts say keep your goals private, and what a toxic and disruptive environment actually does to your nervous system and your ability to manifest what you are working toward. More importantly, this episode is about what you do with all of it. How you protect your agency, regulate your nervous system, and get creative enough to keep building no matter what is happening around you. If you have ever recorded in a bathroom for quiet, written your business plan in a parked car, or gone to bed with headphones on just to get a full night of sleep, you are not alone. This episode is for you. Subscribe, follow, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it today. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrinique_davis?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/andrinique_davis?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61574679670017&mibextid=wwXIfr&mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61574679670017&mibextid=wwXIfr&mibextid=wwXIfr] YouTube: https://youtube.com/@andrinique_marie?si=T6fqfMHsi010A1tI [https://youtube.com/@andrinique_marie?si=T6fqfMHsi010A1tI] Substack: https://substack.com/@andriniquemarie?r=5dpzat&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur [https://substack.com/@andriniquemarie?r=5dpzat&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur]

The Karmelo Anthony Verdict and the Outrage From the Black Community

The verdict came down. Karmelo Anthony was found guilty of murder and sentenced to 35 years. And then the Black community showed up, loud, fast, and for all the wrong reasons. Death threats sent to a family that already buried their child. Adults spitting on grieving teenagers outside a courthouse. "F*ck Austin" screamed at minors walking to their cars. All in the name of justice. In this episode, Andrinique asks the question nobody wants to answer: where is this energy when the victim is Black? Because 88% of Black homicide victims in this country are killed by other Black people. Over 8,000 in 2024 alone. No fundraisers. No protests. No celebrities posting. No outrage. The same community that burned down its own neighborhoods in 2020 and called it a movement is rallying behind a murder conviction and calling it racism. And the people who should be leading accountability conversations are leading the noise instead. This episode is not about whether Karmelo Anthony deserved 35 years. It is about what our response to that verdict revealed about us. While you are here, subscribe so you never miss an episode. Then come find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrinique_davis?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/andrinique_davis?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61574679670017&mibextid=wwXIfr&mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61574679670017&mibextid=wwXIfr&mibextid=wwXIfr] Substack: https://substack.com/@andriniquemarie?r=5dpzat&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur [https://substack.com/@andriniquemarie?r=5dpzat&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur] You Tube: https://youtube.com/@andrinique_marie?si=T6fqfMHsi010A1tI [https://youtube.com/@andrinique_marie?si=T6fqfMHsi010A1tI]

Grown Body, Child Mind: When the Adult Raising You Never Grew Up

You have probably met them. The adult who cannot take accountability. Who makes every conversation about them. Who controls everything and celebrates nothing. Who shuts down or blows up and leaves everyone around them walking on eggshells. Now imagine that person is someone's parent. In this episode of Make It Make Sense, Andrinique is getting into one of the most searched and least talked about topics in mental health right now. Emotionally immature adults raising children. How arrested development happens, when the adult's emotional growth got frozen, what it does to the kids living inside that environment, and why researchers are connecting this directly to the mental health crisis unfolding across an entire generation. We cover the four types of emotionally immature parents identified by clinical psychologist Dr. Lindsay Gibson, the neuroscience behind why childhood neglect rewires the brain, the documented patterns of control and jealousy that show up in emotionally stunted parents, and what the research actually recommends for anyone healing from this right now. If you grew up feeling like your emotions were too much, like approval was something you had to earn, or like no matter what you did it was never enough, this episode was made for you. Subscribe, follow, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it today. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrinique_davis?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/andrinique_davis?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61574679670017&mibextid=wwXIfr&mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61574679670017&mibextid=wwXIfr&mibextid=wwXIfr] Substack: https://substack.com/@andriniquemarie?r=5dpzat&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur [https://substack.com/@andriniquemarie?r=5dpzat&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur] YouTube: https://youtube.com/@andrinique_marie?si=T6fqfMHsi010A1tI [https://youtube.com/@andrinique_marie?si=T6fqfMHsi010A1tI] Ebooks: https://andrinique.gumroad.com/l/czyonq [https://andrinique.gumroad.com/l/czyonq]

Delete the Shame, Not the App: Removing the Stigma of Dating Apps for Women Over 50

If you have ever deleted a dating app before a friend could see it, laughed it off before someone else could make the joke, or felt embarrassed to admit you are on Bumble, Hinge, or Match at 50 plus, this episode is exactly what you need to hear. The stigma attached to dating apps for women over 50 is real, it is loud, and it is completely unfounded. Nearly 35% of all online dating users are now over 50. Women in their 40s and 50s are one of the fastest-growing demographics across Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Match, and Silver Singles. And 27% of couples who married in 2025 met on a dating app. The women using these platforms are not desperate. They are decisive. In this episode, Andrinique breaks down exactly where the stigma came from, the specific lies it tells, why the internal shame is the most damaging part, and how women over 50 can start talking about this openly without apology. Because the goal was never the app. The goal is love. And you do not have to be ashamed of wanting it. Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrinique_davis?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/andrinique_davis?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61574679670017&mibextid=wwXIfr&mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61574679670017&mibextid=wwXIfr&mibextid=wwXIfr] YouTube:  https://youtube.com/@andrinique_marie?si=BY2ftqQ94tPL7 [https://youtube.com/@andrinique_marie?si=BY2ftqQ94tPL7OxL] Subscribe, follow, drop a comment, and share this episode with the woman who needs to stop hiding and start living.

When Did Black Prom Become " Hood Prom"

On this episode of Make It Make Sense with Andrinique, we have all seen the videos. Girls on horses, Rolls Royces in front of the projects, with building entrances blocked. This episode asks the question nobody is brave enough to answer: why? We get into the history behind where this performance mentality came from, the research on why Black households spend more on visible goods than building actual wealth, who is profiting off this culture, and the chargeback pattern that has the community robbing its own Black small business owners. And we end with the hardest question of all: if there was no camera, no Instagram, no TikTok, would the horse still show up? Timestamps: • 0:00 Introduction • 2:00 What Black prom has become • 8:00 The history: Sunday best, Civil Rights, and where the dignity went • 15:00 The research: conspicuous consumption and what it is actually costing us • 22:00 Who is getting paid off this culture and where the money goes • 28:00 The chargeback pattern and the community robbing itself • 34:00 How other cultures celebrate without going broke • 40:00 What would change if even 10% of this money went somewhere it mattered • 44:00 Final thoughts Food for thought: How did we get to a place where the performance became the point? When did dressing up stop being about dignity and start being about likes? And why are we spending thousands to impress people in a comment section while the kids in those pictures have no savings, no plan, and no safety net? The real question is not whether we can afford the horse. It is whether we can afford to keep thinking this way. If this episode made you think, follow the show, subscribe wherever you listen, and drop a comment. Make It Make Sense is the conversation Black culture needs. Do not miss an episode.