The Momset Podcast

Choose quiet observations and follow it with quick, intentional corrections. A few years ago, I realized that explaining every decision to my kids—why they couldn’t have something, what I didn’t like about their behavior—only made things worse. It fueled conflict, invited pushback, and exhausted me emotionally. So I made a change. I started quietly noticing the behavior, keeping my thoughts to myself, and then making a swift correction without fanfare. Whether it was about food dyes, screen time, or behavior after movies, this shift brought peace to our home and confidence to my parenting. You'll want to get a pen and piece of paper ready for the writing exercise in the last part of this episode. It will help you experience a huge shift in mindset and self-empowerment! More details on my coaching membership [https://momset.com/membership/] are right here. I'm excited to hear about your implementation of "quiet observations and quick corrections" to your daily parenting triumphs!

Mother's Day is the time you show up as the mom you want to be and set the tone of what the whole rest of the year will be like for you as a mother. Who you are, what you think, how you feel, what you do as a mother. If you want a perspective like that this Mother's Day then this episode is for you. Packed with 4 key mentalities that support this focus while remaining appreciative of what others do for you and intentional of what you do for others. If you need more help supporting your mental health and daily mindset in motherhood then my coaching membership [https://momset.com/membership/] is the very best place to be. Come receive coaching, be challenged and connected to likeminded expansive women.

It's interesting that moms are being told how good and admirable it is to ask for help, then in the same breath we are told not to help our kids when they ask for it. "They're old enough to do it themselves." "They're big enough to do it themselves." "That's not mine, they should do it." "If I don't do it no one else will." I'm big enough, old enough and perfectly capable of simple tasks and sometimes those are the ones I feel are too big when I have so much else going on. I want my kids to know they can always ask for my help. Even when it's a problem or task to face on their own, I'll be there with them as a listening ear and word of guidance. Why would my kids ask for help with the big stuff if I instilled a "do it yourself" belief with the small stuff? This is my perspective that nurtures my willingness to serve seamlessly, say "yes" to helping and instilling lifelong beliefs. This is the Instagram reel I mentioned [https://www.instagram.com/reel/DHbSWBCR14E/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==] in the episode. Click here [https://momset.com/membership/] to learn about my coaching membership if you struggle with your mindset in motherhood and want to be free of your own thoughts.

How long would it take you to write out a list of allll the things you tell yourself you can't do? While some people want to fight to defend this "I can't" mentality so they can feel justified, YOU and I are ready to fight for that fire inside of us that knows WE CAN. This episode walks you through why it can feel so frustrating and freeing to say "I can, I just don't want to." What is the truth we can find when we shift our perspective this way and how to keep your feet on the ground through it all. I did a little IG reel [https://www.instagram.com/reel/DIwiriUvoq8/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==] on this! Be sure to do the writing exercise I described in this episode so you can become empowered to face the heart of the "I can't" mentality. I'm cheering you on, always. Remember, I have lots of negative thoughts and poor moments, too. I just really enjoy learning from them and challenging myself to do better with you.

The transition for 3-4 kids was hands down the hardest for me. I realized it was hardest because I had failed to equip my kids with the self-esteem to be independent and responsible in the ways I really needed them to show up while I recovered postpartum. May is our Declutter Your Heart and Home 28 Day challenge in the MOMSET Membership. This is a fantastic time to create a home that serves you and your family so everyone can build their self-esteem and thrive harmoniously. Join here today! [https://momset.mn.co/plans/1485290] Then I realized that I was stealing their self-esteem to build my own. I did just about everything for them everyday and I LOVED doing it. I felt GREAT, but at what cost? How did they get to feel when I took the opportunities from them? I'm sharing the practical changes I have made to build my own self-esteem AND provided endless opportunities for my kids to build their own, too.