Recover Yourself: Out from Under the Influence

Happy 4th of July!!! Now let's dig into the wound of Independence. In this episode, I speak with Mary Wagstaff [//www.marywagstaffcoach.com], a holistic alcohol coach for Women. She is radicalizing what it means to live alcohol-free through the lens of Women's empowerment for the aquarian age. We cover a lot of territories as we discuss masculine and feminine energy and the difference between independent and individual. "Independence" belongs to the group while "individual" belongs to the (surprise) individual. So many people get caught in the story that they are independent, or that it is the goal if we want to be free. The problem with that is there is no independence for the individual. All too often individuals give up their dharma, their purpose, to follow the road of independence, which leads nowhere. As an individual, we are dependent on others, maybe not people but the earth, and animals if nothing else. We are absolutely dependent, but we can be our own individuals within that dependence. The more we flounder about trying to grasp at independence the further we may fall under the influence of that desire. Check out Mary's website here www.marywagstaffcoach.com [http://www.marywagstaffcoach.com/] If you are a parent or the adult child of a parent you are caring for or if you are a professional caregiver in any field, you face the very real threat of burnout nipping at your heels every day. This podcast can help you take a step back from that and get a wider perspective but working with me on a 4 session Recover Yourself package can finally put to bed any fear of burning out. Once you know how to recover yourself out of any situation, you’ll begin to gain more with every little thing you give. You’ll become unshakable and avoid conflict and stress without even knowing they were an option. As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ [https://www.martinjon.com/] Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself [https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself] Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ [https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/] Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor [https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor] LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/] Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon [https://anchor.fm/martinjon] Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611 [https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611] Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178] Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself] Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon [https://linktr.ee/martinjon] Venmo: @MartinJon_Garcia --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support [https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support]

Creating Chaos in our lives is easy, and we all do it. Every expectation we carry for ourselves or others creates chaos. In this episode, I am talking with Thomas FreeMe about how when we have expectations and lie to ourselves and others we are creating chaos. That, and how the system, that we look to for guidance is creating chaos as well. If you are interested in contacting Thomas FreeMe check out his work by googling "Thomas FreeMe Podcast" or just connect here on YouTube. Recover Yourself is a podcast series focused on recovering strength and power we have inadvertently given up. There is no limit to our power and yet we have all been shown, warned, and taught to live in fear that we are not enough and that there is not enough resource in the world for us. As a former addict, I am coming out with the message that we can all recover. I am changing the conversation from "Recover From" to "Recover To" and I want to help people recover who they are. MartinJon is the host of Recover Yourself and a mentor, speaker, and originator of Portrait Facilitation which helps people recover themselves completely. MartinJon is dedicated to contributing his unique experiences to better the world, his life, and the lives of others by helping people understand we have no limits. As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbC1xT2V3a09YcV9BeS1ZQUFBakNJYmlWemVzQXxBQ3Jtc0ttdUs3S0tPeXd6Y0VVRy1wc3lpZ0o1eVFKeEZLdE5zcU1FSm9JWjZlMzBzT2toemp5QWxKZ1Jtc1ZBaUF5NTFya3ZROVo5WTdVRmxPQl9mTkQzcEQ0QThOTE1ZLVZTOGFXUTFxUUd3anhVdmRIaGVYbw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.martinjon.com%2F&v=6qZF3K1zf3E] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support [https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support]

I recently returned from Guatemala where I spent 5.5 days in complete darkness at The Hermitage Retreats [https://www.thehermitageretreats.com/]. This experience gave me a lot to think about and a lot to integrate into my life. Darkness has always been beautiful for me. When I was much younger I used to sit in a bathroom in the house I lived in which got no light in it unless the basement light was on. Sitting in there I had beautiful experiences of space breathing, whatever that means. Needless to say, I was very excited to experience darkness again over a greater amount of time. This episode is really just me telling my friends Robin Dluzen [https://www.robindluzen.com/], Tom Torluemke [https://tomtorluemke.com/], and Linda Dorman [http://lindadorman.com/] about what happened there. It is not a deep dive into my psyche, but a travelog of my experience. Recovery, to me, has everything to do with knowing myself, and sitting in the dark over the better part of a week is one way to be with one's Self. As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ [https://www.martinjon.com/] o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself [https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself] o Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178] o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon [https://linktr.ee/martinjon] o Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support [https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support]

Awareness is a cumulative process. If you start right now and open yourself to becoming aware of something that you previously were not aware of, like “What are you avoiding doing?” Whether there is a clear answer or not matters less than being aware that the question may have an answer. That is how we become aware, we can simply start by asking a question about how we feel about something and approach it with curiosity. Ann HInce is the author of A Pathway to Insight [https://www.amazon.com/Pathway-Insight-Re-capture-your-childhood/dp/B08N9P9LP6/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2KH05BBFT2T03&keywords=a+pathway+to+insight&qid=1636134218&qsid=140-6035270-0892918&sprefix=a+pathway+to+insight%2Caps%2C213&sr=8-1&sres=B08N9P9LP6%2C1600251617%2C1501894293%2C1942094477%2C0974371424%2C1782798269%2C1947165887%2C1506434258%2C1792377606%2C1462796796%2CB07MBF1LWN%2C1734081112%2C0910034311%2C1736433105%2C1603741011%2C1981089152&srpt=ABIS_BOOK], published a year ago today as I write this. Ann has found that seeking out what we truly feel, and accepting those feelings, is the key to inner peace. Ann’s focus on awareness is arrived at through EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique) also known as tapping. We don’t cover tapping in this episode but there are plenty of places on the internet you can find instructions on that specific procedure. Awareness, however it is arrived at, is the focus here, and to add awareness to any aspect of your life is beneficial. I hope you will take this as a sign to become more aware of your thoughts and feelings so you can continue to recover yourselves. You can find, and contact Ann on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTc4hb7ZKvih1LlRHK0cUjg ], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/AnnHinceWisdom ], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/ann.hince/], and through her website [//www.AnnHince.com ]. As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself [https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself] o Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178] o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon [https://linktr.ee/martinjon] o Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support [https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support]

Harm reduction has been a huge focus of mine recently and I am happy to be conversing with Gretchen for this episode. I have to admit, I am a fan of toughness. That is not to say I am a fan of tough love, many people see my approach as one that stems from tough love but that’s not the case. Love, deep love, when we have it for ourselves and can offer it to others can very quickly look tough as it relates to the tough love movement, but it is what motivates those actions that are the measure. Love can at times look quite tough but there are a lot of things that cannot be explained along the journey of love looking like what we expect, and it looks tough. The “Tough Love” idea is a simple one, get tough and you’ll see results, but that has rarely been the case and like the disease model never was backed by research. However, that never stopped anyone from making the statement that it was backed by research. I have no problem with love looking tough but when we take steps to be tough alone we are only doing more harm. Gretchen Burns Bergman is the Executive Director and a Co-Founder of A New PATH (Parents for Addiction Treatment & Healing), a 22-year-old non-profit organization that works to reduce the stigma associated with substance use disorders through education and compassionate support while advocating for therapeutic rather than punitive drug policies. She served as California State Chairperson for Proposition 36 in 2000 (treatment instead of incarceration), and she was one of the three signers of Prop 64 in 2016 to legalize marijuana. She is the lead organizer of the Moms United to End the War on Drugs international campaign. Her articles on therapeutic justice and harm reduction strategies have been published nationwide, and she has spoken before countless audiences. Since 2014, A New PATH has been providing overdose prevention training and Narcan distribution in San Diego County. Currently, over 9000 individuals have been trained and 2040 lives are reported saved. She is also a fashion show producer and has two grown sons who are in long-term recovery from heroin addiction. • Websites: www.anewpath.org and www.momsunited.net • Facebook: facebook.com/anewpathsite • Youtube: https://youtube.com/user/PATHMomsUnited • To support our work: https://www.anewpath.org/support-usTeasers As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself o Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ o Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor o LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ o Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon o Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611 o .Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 o Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon o Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support [https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support]