Sunday Stroll 01 | The 99 People Who Didn't Fuck With You

Mundane Musings: What Makes It True? *TRIGGER WARNING*

⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of childhood abuse, sexual abuse, and suicide. This is another one of those episodes that I wasn't going to post. And if you’ve been with me for a bit, then you know that there seem to be times when I question whether or not I should an episode, and if we want to be undeniably clear about the why, it’s because, and some of you already know this, and that’s some disclosures leave me, us, feeling so fucking vulnerable that we really do think that maybe we might just want to keep it to ourselves.   This is one of those.   That probably tells you everything you need to know about why I did this one and am sharing.   It’s a theme and promise to myself. If I am going to “be real” then, fucking be real, and as such, if I post it, it’s gotta be real and true. Otherwise, it stays on the hard drive.   No editing out the life that drives this.   We deserve better than that trifling shit.    And you all know what I mean by that….   I was 13 or 14 years old when my parents sent me to a psychologist. Not because they had any idea what was actually happening to me — in the house, next door, inside my own head.    Or in my heart.   They just knew that their kid had changed and they wanted to know why.    So there I was, sitting across from a stranger with my hands in my pockets, and something that had been building pressure inside of me that I needed to let out; it felt like it was strangling me.   It needed to came out.   I just didn’t know how badly I needed that to happen. Or what it would cost me when I did let it out.   She, the professional that I was supposed to trust, asked me a question that closed every door I had just opened.   I went home. My mother said what she said. I went downstairs, put on KISS, and crawled under my bed.   I'm 60 years old and that's something I've never told another living soul until right now.   This episode isn't a lesson. It's not organized and it's not supposed to be. It's me sitting behind a microphone doing what I used to call mundane musings — which really just means I needed to hear myself think out loud. About the psychologist. About the surveys and the theories and the schools of thought that never answered the actual question. About two POWs in the same camp who come out and become completely different people. About November 2nd, 1994.   And about the one question that changed everything for me when I finally stopped running long enough to ask it:   What makes it true?   I know what it feels like to think you don't belong here — and I know what it feels like to be wrong about that.   Come sit with me for a little bit….   The Site [https://www.theloveofyourlifetime.com]

Get The Freebies First — No Email, No Catch, No Bullshit

I got burned. More times than I want to count. Free masterclass, free workbook, free something — and what I got was a well-packaged lead magnet designed to sell me the next thing.    The information wasn't worthless.    But it wasn't what they implied it was either.   But damn if I didn’t giving them my money in hopes that they would finally deliver on what they promised and what I so desperately needed and wanted.   Nope.   For me, it just ended up being more of the same promises and the same lack of transparency and honesty.   But maybe that’s just me.   So when we built ours, the stuff that Sharon and I created, we did it differently.   Do we have free shit? Yep.   Two free workbooks on the site right now. The Mist first. Then Single Shit and Relationship Ruckus. No email required. No sign-up. No gate of any kind.    You click the link and you get the PDF. That's it.   They're free because I want you to understand the foundational principles before you spend a dime.    And I'm telling you honestly — those two free workbooks are going to be harder than you expect. That's not an accident. That's the filter. If you can't sit with what's introduced in The Mist, The Confrontation at $47 is going to be a rough ride.   The order matters. The Mist. Single Shit. The Confrontation. The Trilogy. The workshop. Everything builds on everything before it. And every dollar you spend applies forward — I hated paying layer after layer for the same thing so I built it so you don't have to.   Start free.    The Site [https://www.theloveofyourlifetime.com]   Or don’t.

Episode 37 | Everyone Has An Opinion — What's Yours Of You?

Full transparency. As of June 16th, 2026, my day job is delivering food via a delivery service in 97 degree St. Louis heat and fucking humidity so thick that you don’t even need to iron your clothes before you step out into the day.    With this podcast, or the site, or anything that Sharon and I are building, there is no advertising revenue. No team. No YouTube money. Just Sharon and me and a microphone and whatever this is.   And what does that mean? It means that we don’t have anyone telling us to “chill out” or “that’s a bit too much.” It means that the way that this started, from the heart and genuinely real, is how it still is. It’s imperfect because the two of us are imperfect.   But it’s fucking real.   Sharon rang the bell twice for her two cancers. For those of you that know what that means and the significance, then you know and it’s something that is a living and permanent part of the rest of our lives.    That particular storm is over.    What's left is rent, groceries at prices that have no business being what they are, and the ongoing work of building something real without a safety net.   What’s left is a deepening love and respect for one another that neither of us knew existed. And again, this isn’t about perfection, rather, it’s about living and loving and learning.   This morning I went face to face with someone we owe rent money to. Could have been a short conversation. Perhaps “should have been” a short-ass conversation.   But it wasn’t.   They turned it into an opinion session about how we should be living our lives.    Everyone has a fucking opinion, right? I shut it down.    We had an agreement. Everything else was none of their purview.    That's not arrogance.    That's knowing the difference between what belongs to someone else and what belongs to you.   This episode is about that difference.    Everyone. Has. An. Opinion.    About your finances, your relationships, your choices, the word they use to try to diminish you.    None of it defines you unless you hand it that authority. And you've been handing it that authority your whole life without realizing that's what you were doing.   What's your opinion of you?    That's the only one that actually runs the show.

Sunday Stroll 05 | Cherry Pick The Good Stuff

I'm sitting on the sofa next to Sharon with my coffee watching birds land on a light outside the window. I've got an iMac, a Vocaster 2, Bose speakers, a MacBook Air, an iPad Pro, a 32-inch monitor. None of it holds my hand when I get home from work. No technology replaces genuine compassion and care for another person. That's the whole musing right there and I could stop. But I didn't. This one is about cherry picking. I did it for most of my life without knowing that's what I was doing — called it telling it like it was, called it being honest, called it facing reality. What I was actually doing was rooting around consistently for the painful stuff, the stuff that confirmed what I already believed about myself. You have a choice about what you root around for. That's not toxic positivity. That's just a fact about where you put your attention. If you're going to cherry pick anyway — and you are, we all do — why not pick the good stuff sometimes.

Episode 36 | All People Suck — And Other Bullshit You Tell Yourself

All people suck. Men are dogs. Women just want one thing. You keep attracting the same type and you've decided that's just how people are. It isn't. That's how you see people. And how you see people is a direct reflection of what you believe about yourself. I know that's not what you want to hear. Say it anyway. This episode is about dating, relationships, and the sweeping generalizations we make when we keep bumping into the same kinds of people and can't figure out why. I've been married five times. I'm not talking theoretically. I'm talking about what it costs to walk into relationship after relationship without knowing what you actually want — and then wondering why nothing works. So here's the exercise. List five qualities that make a good partner for you. Now ask yourself — why do you keep settling for three out of five? And when you're done with that question, ask yourself the harder one. When did you last sit down and develop the same kind of generous, patient, compassionate relationship with yourself that you keep hoping someone else is going to show up and give you? The episode ends with me wanting pancakes at midnight. My wife said it was too late. My choice whether to eat them anyway. Think on that. All people suck. Men are dogs. Women just want one thing. You keep attracting the same type and you've decided that's just how people are. It isn't. That's how you see people. And how you see people is a direct reflection of what you believe about yourself. I know that's not what you want to hear. Say it anyway. This episode is about dating, relationships, and the sweeping generalizations we make when we keep bumping into the same kinds of people and can't figure out why. I've been married five times. I'm not talking theoretically. I'm talking about what it costs to walk into relationship after relationship without knowing what you actually want — and then wondering why nothing works. So here's the exercise. List five qualities that make a good partner for you. Now ask yourself — why do you keep settling for three out of five? And when you're done with that question, ask yourself the harder one. When did you last sit down and develop the same kind of generous, patient, compassionate relationship with yourself that you keep hoping someone else is going to show up and give you? The episode ends with me wanting pancakes at midnight. My wife said it was too late. My choice whether to eat them anyway. Think on that.