The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Episode 347: When the Holidays Trigger Every Old Wound: How to Get Through Without Losing Yourself

The holidays have a magical way of triggering every wound you've ever had. In this solo episode, I'm sharing how you can take care of yourself so you don't lose your mind, your center, or your sanity in the process. Whether this is your first holiday season post separation, you're holding it together until January to file, or you're already divorced and juggling co-parenting, conflict, grief, or the pressure to make everything look "fine," nothing you're feeling means you're a bad mom or a bad person. It means you're human, and you deserve far more gentleness than you've ever been taught to give yourself. You'll hear me walk you through the predictable triggers and patterns that show up this time of year and why the holidays feel so damn hard. And together, we'll shift into a new way of moving through the season that protects your peace and honors your truth. What you'll hear about in this episode: * The predictable patterns and triggers that show up every holiday season * What your holiday reactions are actually rooted in and why they feel so overwhelming * A new way of approaching the season that protects your peace and honors your truth * Seven practical ways to care for yourself so you stay connected instead of collapsing under the pressure ✨ If you'd like to watch the video version of this episode, you can find it here [https://youtu.be/4Dm54yWKd14]. Resources & Links: Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist [https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/63e590d49b95d80014b5ac2a]Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate [http://kateanthony.com/apply] The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle [http://kateanthony.com/bundle]Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective [https://kateanthony.com/decided/]Kate on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kateanthony_divorcecoach/]Kate on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/YourDivorceSurvivalGuide]Kate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch [https://kateanthonydivorcecoach.substack.com/] The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are also available YouTube! [https://www.youtube.com/@YourDivorceSurvivalGuide] =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-347-when-the-holidays-trigger-every-old-wound-how-to-get-through-without-losing-yourself/ [https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-347-when-the-holidays-trigger-every-old-wound-how-to-get-through-without-losing-yourself/]

Episode 346: The Female Loneliness Epidemic

This episode is about the loneliness women feel inside of relationships and how that loneliness can cut deeper than anything else, even when someone is sitting right next to you. If you've been moving through your days feeling invisible, misunderstood, or emotionally starved inside your own home, please hear me when I say this: you are not alone. Loneliness in marriage has become one of the most common and most deeply painful experiences women quietly carry. Throughout this episode, you'll hear me talk about the female loneliness epidemic inside relationships and why the loneliness you feel is not a personal failure. It is your body, your intuition, and your unmet needs trying to get your attention in the most honest way they know how. I also share seven grounding steps that can help you gently validate your own experience, reconnect with what you truly need, and begin rebuilding emotional safety from the inside out. As I always say, you, my love, deserve to be happy. What you'll hear about in this episode: * How emotional labor conditions women into feeling disconnected and unseen * The somatic signs of emotional deprivation and what your body is quietly trying to tell you * Seven gentle grounding steps to help you validate your reality and rebuild emotional safety * How to recognize the difference between a temporary rut and the deeper experience of chronic loneliness * Why the loneliness you feel may be a sign that you are waking up to your truth, not breaking down Resources & Links: Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist [https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/63e590d49b95d80014b5ac2a]Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate [http://kateanthony.com/apply] The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle [http://kateanthony.com/bundle]Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective [https://kateanthony.com/decided/]Kate on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kateanthony_divorcecoach/]Kate on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/YourDivorceSurvivalGuide]Kate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch [https://kateanthonydivorcecoach.substack.com/] The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are also available YouTube! [https://www.youtube.com/@YourDivorceSurvivalGuide] =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. =================== Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-346-the-female-loneliness-epidemic/ [https://kateanthony.com/?post_type=podcast&p=2938]

[Encore Episode] Holidays in Divorce

Enjoy this encore episode as I walk you through a big one: navigating the holidays during divorce. The holidays can feel like walking an emotional tightrope while trying to hold onto some joy. Whether it's your first holiday season after divorce, your last one as a family before separating, or you've been navigating holidays in divorce for a while, it's a time that stirs up all the emotions. Wherever you are in this process, I want you to know that you're not alone. Also, were the holidays stress-free before divorce? Probably not. This episode isn't just about surviving the holidays, it's about reclaiming them in a way that works for you and your kids. Get emotionally prepared, collaborate where it counts, and make choices that put your kids at the heart of it all. In this episode, I also explore: * Self-care survival to ensure you're showing up for yourself and your kids * Creating new traditions that align with who you are now * Navigating the tricky question of whether to celebrate together "for the kids" * Practical co-parenting strategies for gift-giving, scheduling, and prioritizing your children Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate [http://kateanthony.com/apply] The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle [http://kateanthony.com/bundle]Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective [https://kateanthony.com/decided/]Kate on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kateanthony_divorcecoach/]Kate on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/YourDivorceSurvivalGuide]Kate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch [https://kateanthonydivorcecoach.substack.com/] The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are also available YouTube! [https://www.youtube.com/@YourDivorceSurvivalGuide] =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Episode 345: How to Communicate With Your Ex (Without Losing Your Mind) with the Pros at Talking Parents

If you've gone through divorce, are contemplating it, or you're smack in the messy middle, you already know: one of the hardest parts isn't the paperwork. It's learning how the hell to communicate with your ex. This is someone you likely have a lot of emotional heat with: toxic, irritating, disappointing, or all of the above and communication might even be one of the reasons you're not together anymore. And if you share kids? The communication doesn't end just because the relationship does. You still have to find a way to talk calmly, clearly, and with as much emotional self-protection as possible. That's why I brought on today's guests:Tessa Noel and Heather Ruiz from Talking Parents, a platform designed to reduce the chaos, conflict, and emotional landmines that come with co-parenting. Tessa is a certified divorce transition coach and a co-parent who's lived through a brutally high-conflict divorce. Heather brings 20+ years of communications and leadership experience, and her own co-parenting journey, to the work she does shaping Talking Parents' mission. At the end of the day, healthy communication isn't about fixing your ex, it's about reclaiming your power and creating the calm your kids need. ✨ If you'd like to watch the video version of this episode, you can find it here [https://youtu.be/iAXw9r22mGc]. What you'll hear about in this episode: * The biggest mistakes people make when they first start co-parenting with a difficult or high-conflict ex (11:45) * Real-life communication patterns that support healthier outcomes for kids (16:00) * How boundaries changed everything for Tessa and why Heather says they're essential to set early, even when things feel amicable (23:45) * Tessa's children's book Stella's Two Homes and how it helps kids navigate two-household families (28:45) Learn more about Tessa Noel and Heather Ruiz: Tessa Noel is a certified divorce transition and recovery coach with extensive knowledge in multiple life coaching frameworks. She holds a degree from California State University of San Marcos and has firsthand experience in the family courts of California. Tessa is also a co-parent with two children. In her free time, she loves to take them on adventures around their home state of California. With over 20 years in marketing and communication, Heather Ruiz is at the forefront of software services as TalkingParents Marketing Director, shaping the narrative around a pivotal time when digital platforms are redefining how co-parents coordinate, collaborate, and care for their children. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate [http://kateanthony.com/apply] The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle [http://kateanthony.com/bundle]Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective [https://kateanthony.com/decided/]Kate on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kateanthony_divorcecoach/]Kate on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/YourDivorceSurvivalGuide]Kate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch [https://kateanthonydivorcecoach.substack.com/] The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are also available YouTube! [https://www.youtube.com/@YourDivorceSurvivalGuide] Talking Parents [http://www.talkingparents.com] Talking Parents on Facebook [http://www.facebook.com/TalkingParents] Talking Parents on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/talkingparentsapp/] Talking Parents on LinkedIn [http://www.linkedin.com/company/talkingparents/] Talking Parents on TikTok [http://tiktok.com/@talkingparentsapp] Talking Parents on YouTube [http://youtube.com/@TalkingParentsApp] Tessa on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/coachkindmama/] Stella's Two Homes [https://a.co/d/3KUBT95] =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-345-how-to-communicate-with-your-ex-without-losing-your-mind-with-the-pros-at-talking-parents/ [https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-345-how-to-communicate-with-your-ex-without-losing-your-mind-with-the-pros-at-talking-parents/]

Episode 344: Parenting Plans, Support, and Legal Truths with Renee Bauer

This episode is all about parenting plans, spousal support, and the biggest legal truths people miss when they're divorcing with kids. I'm joined by award-winning divorce attorney and My Next Chapter's legal expert, Renee Bauer, who brings over two decades of family law experience to this conversation. We get into how courts are shifting toward shared parenting, why some parenting plans need two pages and others need fifty, and the real story behind modern alimony. We also talk about the legal roadmap inside My Next Chapter and why having good information early can save you time, money, and heartache. ✨ If you'd like to watch the video version of this episode, you can find it here. [https://youtu.be/6S-RPaL0BCw] What you'll hear about in this episode: * How custody language has shifted from "visitation" to shared parenting and why that shift matters (3:23) * What happens when someone demands 50/50 but can't follow through (8:18) * Why parenting plans range from simple to extremely detailed and how to know what level your family needs (25:23) * How My Next Chapter pulls legal, financial, and emotional guidance together so you're not navigating alone (30:23) * The big things Renee wishes people understood before hiring a divorce attorney (35:08) * How alimony has changed in recent years and why lifetime support is rarely on the table anymore (43:08) Learn more about Renee Bauer: Renee Bauer is an award-winning divorce attorney, published author, and the legal expert at My Next Chapter. As the founder of Happy Even After Family Law in Connecticut, she's spent over two decades helping people navigate divorce with dignity and confidence. Renee is also a sought-after speaker and advocate for reshaping how we think about divorce — not as failure, but as a chance to rewrite your next chapter with intention. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate [http://kateanthony.com/apply] The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle [http://kateanthony.com/bundle]Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective [https://kateanthony.com/decided/]Kate on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kateanthony_divorcecoach/]Kate on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/YourDivorceSurvivalGuide]Kate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch [https://kateanthonydivorcecoach.substack.com/] The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are also available YouTube! [https://www.youtube.com/@YourDivorceSurvivalGuide] My Next Chapter [https://www.mynextchapter.com/?utm_source=kateanthony&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=influencer&utm_id=referral] - Use code DSG to receive $30 off your first month Episode 342: From Uncertainty to Clarity with Tamara Frankfort Odinec and Shari Joseph of My Next Chapter [https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-342-from-uncertainty-to-clarity-with-tamara-frankfort-odinec-and-shari-joseph-of-my-next-chapter/] Renee's website [https://www.familylawyerct.com/]Renee on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/happy.even.after/] =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. =================== Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-344-parenting-plans-support-and-legal-truths-with-renee-bauer/ [https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-344-parenting-plans-support-and-legal-truths-with-renee-bauer/]