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Why Damaged People Damage People

6 min · 12 jul 2026
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Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ Explore the profound paradox of "Why Hurt People Hurt People." This film unpicks how past pain can unconsciously manifest as aggression in relationships, turning kindness into a trigger. A vital inquiry into attachment, emotional patterns, and the path to genuine self-awareness and healing. #EmotionalIntelligence #Psychology #Relationships #HealingTrauma #SelfUnderstanding Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/why-hurt-people-hurt-people/ “It’s one of the puzzles of relationships that, after a hugely promising few months or years, one of the members of a couple may start to exhibit notably aggressive and unyielding behaviour. Out go their previous tenderness and loveliness and in come roughness and neglect. All they seem to want to do is to go out alone with their friends and flirt with strangers…” OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Deanca Rensyta https://www.deancarensyta.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

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