Think Fast Talk Smart: Communication Techniques

291. Hello, Stranger: Why Curiosity Beats Charisma Every Time

What keeps us from being more social? Nick Epley calls it a “mind-reading mistake.” We all think about what others think, particularly what they think about us. The problem, says Nick Epley [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/nick-epley/], is that we’re almost always wrong. Epley is a professor of behavioral science at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business and author of A Little More Social: How Small Choices Create Unexpected Happiness, Health, and Connection [https://fastersmarter.io/a-little-more-social]. What keeps people from engaging authentically, connecting deeply, and enjoying a meaningful social life? It comes down to an error of social cognition, “A mind-reading mistake,” Epley says. “If I don't think you want to talk to me, I won't try. And I'll never find out that I'm wrong about that.” In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart [https://www.fastersmarter.io/], Epley and host Matt Abrahams explore why we hold ourselves back from meaningful conversation, and what happens when we don’t. From taking an interest in others to sharing more freely about ourselves, Epley shares strategies for being a little more social — and making your life considerably better as a result. To listen to the extended Deep Thinks version of this episode, please visit FasterSmarter.io/premium [https://www.fastersmarter.io/premium/]. Episode Reference Links: * Nick Epley [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/nick-epley/] * Nick’s Book: A Little More Social [https://fastersmarter.io/a-little-more-social] * Ep.133 From Good to Super: How Supercommunicators Unlock the Language of Connection [https://www.fastersmarter.io/133-from-good-to-super-how-supercommunicators-unlock-the-language-of-connection/] Connect: * Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart Premium [https://www.fastersmarter.io/premium/] * Email Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.io * Episode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart Website [https://www.fastersmarter.io/291-hello-stranger-why-curiosity-beats-charisma-every-time/] * Newsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.io [http://fastersmarter.io/] * Think Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/think-fast-talk-smart/], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thinkfasttalksmart/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6caGRBUYZCmgDGM2RK6mxKB9jG_ccmm3] * Matt Abrahams >>> LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maabrahams/] Chapters: * (00:00) - Introduction * (01:31) - Problems with Body Language * (04:15) - Perspective Getting * (07:14) - Asking Better Questions * (08:41) - Moving Beyond Small Talk * (10:13) - Why We Hold Back * (11:33) - Advice For Introverts * (15:17) - A Little More Social * (18:34) - The Final Three Questions * (24:45) - Conclusion

290. Quick Thinks: How to Have Better Conversations About Aging

How can we approach aging with more joy, empathy, and meaningful connection? We often talk about lifespan, or how long we live, but Kerry Burnight [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/dr-kerry-burnight/] believes the more important question is how fully we live along the way. Burnight is a gerontologist, former professor of geriatric medicine, and author of Joyspan: The Art and Science of Thriving in Life's Second Half [http://fastersmarter.io/joyspan/]. Drawing from decades of experience working with older adults, she discusses why adopting a “growth aging mindset” can change the way we think about getting older, and why autonomy matters just as much as safety in conversations with aging loved ones. As she puts it, “it’s not just the big moments, it’s the little moments, too.” In this Quick Thinks episode of Think Fast Talk Smart [https://www.fastersmarter.io/], Burnight and host Matt Abrahams explore the role of listening, storytelling, and empathy in effective communication across generations. Through memorable examples and actionable advice, Burnight offers a compassionate framework for talking about — and thinking about — aging differently. Episode Reference Links: * Dr. Kerry Burnight [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/dr-kerry-burnight/] * Kerry’s Book: Joyspan [http://fastersmarter.io/joyspan/] * Ep.176 From Stereotypes to Synergy: Communicating Across Generations [https://www.fastersmarter.io/176-from-stereotypes-to-synergy-communicating-across-generations/]  Connect: * Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart Premium [https://www.fastersmarter.io/premium/] * Email Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.io * Episode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart Website [https://www.fastersmarter.io/290-quick-thinks/] * Newsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.io [http://fastersmarter.io/] * Think Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/think-fast-talk-smart/], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thinkfasttalksmart/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6caGRBUYZCmgDGM2RK6mxKB9jG_ccmm3] * Matt Abrahams >>> LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maabrahams/] Chapters: * (00:00) - Introduction * (02:52) - Aging Mindsets * (05:20) - Give of the Day * (08:48) - Difficult Aging Conversations * (18:09) - Explaining Complex Ideas * (19:38) - Conclusion  ******** Thank you to our sponsors.  These partnerships support the ongoing production of the podcast, allowing us to bring it to you at no cost. Strawberry.me. [https://strawberry.me/quiz?isDirect=1&promotionCode=smart&utm_source=smart] Get 50% off your first coaching session today at Strawberry.me/smart [https://strawberry.me/quiz?isDirect=1&promotionCode=smart&utm_source=smart] Join our Think Fast Talk Smart Learning Community and become the communicator you want to be.  [https://learning.fastersmarter.io/?redirect_from=podpage]

289. Better with Age: Why Joy Matters More Than Longevity

A full life isn’t about the quantity of time, but the quality. Our lifespan might describe how long we live, but it doesn’t say anything about how well we live. For that, Kerry Burnight [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/dr-kerry-burnight/]says, we need a different measure: joyspan. Burnight is a gerontologist, former professor of geriatric medicine, and author of Joyspan: The Art and Science of Thriving in Life's Second Half [http://fastersmarter.io/joyspan/]. In her decades working with older adults, she noticed a gap: “I would have a lot of people who lived long lives and were in pretty darn good physical health. They were miserable.” That observation led her to dig into the research on well-being — and to find what it takes to enjoy a long life, not just endure one. In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart [https://www.fastersmarter.io/], Burnight joins host Matt Abrahams to explore her joyspan framework, explaining how growth, connection, adapting, and giving contribute to a full life. From changing the conversation around aging to communicating more effectively across generations, Burnight offers practical wisdom for living better at any age. Episode Reference Links: * Dr. Kerry Burnight [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/dr-kerry-burnight/] * Kerry’s Book: Joyspan [http://fastersmarter.io/joyspan/] * Ep.176 From Stereotypes to Synergy: Communicating Across Generations [https://www.fastersmarter.io/176-from-stereotypes-to-synergy-communicating-across-generations/]  Connect: * Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart Premium [https://www.fastersmarter.io/premium/] * Email Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.io * Episode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart Website [https://www.fastersmarter.io/289-better-with-age/] * Newsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.io [http://fastersmarter.io/] * Think Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/think-fast-talk-smart/], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thinkfasttalksmart/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6caGRBUYZCmgDGM2RK6mxKB9jG_ccmm3] * Matt Abrahams >>> LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maabrahams/] Chapters: * (00:00) - Introduction * (03:20) - Defining Joyspan * (05:27) - The Joyspan Matrix * (11:03) - Learning to Adjust * (11:57) - The Power of Stories * (15:38) - Internalized Ageism * (18:40) - The Final Three Questions * (25:58) - Conclusion ******** Thank you to our sponsors.  These partnerships support the ongoing production of the podcast, allowing us to bring it to you at no cost. Strawberry.me. [https://strawberry.me/quiz?isDirect=1&promotionCode=smart&utm_source=smart] Get 50% off your first coaching session today at Strawberry.me/smart [https://strawberry.me/quiz?isDirect=1&promotionCode=smart&utm_source=smart] Join our Think Fast Talk Smart Learning Community and become the communicator you want to be.  [https://learning.fastersmarter.io/?redirect_from=podpage]

288. Turn Your Audience into Co-Creators: Lessons from the Tiger Sisters

The Tiger Sisters share the keys to collaborative communication. Good marketing communication doesn’t just go one way. As the Tiger Sisters know, building a brand is about bringing your audience into the conversation. Cherie [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/cherie-brooke-luo/] and Jean Luo [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/jean-luo/] are sisters, tech and finance experts, and co-hosts of the Tiger Sisters Podcast [https://tigersisterspodcast.com/], a show about money, power, and love. Their approach to content creation mirrors how they think about communication: know your audience, stay curious, and embrace feedback. “We often think about our community as the co-producers of our episodes,” Cherie says. “Each episode we put out is like a mini product. Once we put it out, we can get feedback on whether or not people are resonating.” In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart [https://www.fastersmarter.io/], the Tiger Sisters join host Matt Abrahams, sharing how they’ve built a thriving brand through collaboration — with each other and with their audience. From simplifying complex topics to crafting messages that resonate, the Luo’s insights show why the best communication is about healthy back and forth. Episode Reference Links: * Jean Luo [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/jean-luo/] * Cherie Brooke Luo [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/cherie-brooke-luo/] * Tiger Sisters Podcast [https://tigersisterspodcast.com/] Connect: * Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart Premium [https://www.fastersmarter.io/premium/] * Email Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.io * Episode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart Website [https://www.fastersmarter.io/turn-audience-into-co-creators/] * Newsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.io [http://fastersmarter.io/] * Think Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/think-fast-talk-smart/], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thinkfasttalksmart/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6caGRBUYZCmgDGM2RK6mxKB9jG_ccmm3] * Matt Abrahams >>> LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maabrahams/] Chapters: * (00:00) - Introduction * (03:07) - The Tiger Sisters Mission * (04:43) - Going Viral on TikTok * (06:33) - Explaining Complex Topics * (08:29) - Learning from the Audience * (10:38) - Working as Sisters & Co-Founders * (13:38) - Reinventing Careers * (15:04) - Family Expectations * (16:53) - Personal Branding * (19:30) - Teaching Through Storytelling * (21:35) - The Final Three Questions * (26:56) - Conclusion  ******** Thank you to our sponsors.  These partnerships support the ongoing production of the podcast, allowing us to bring it to you at no cost. Strawberry.me. [https://strawberry.me/quiz?isDirect=1&promotionCode=smart&utm_source=smart] Get 50% off your first coaching session today at Strawberry.me/smart [https://strawberry.me/quiz?isDirect=1&promotionCode=smart&utm_source=smart] Join our Think Fast Talk Smart Learning Community and become the communicator you want to be.  [https://learning.fastersmarter.io/?redirect_from=podpage]

287. Give It a Rest to Do Your Best: The Sleep Habits That Catalyze Your Communication

If you want to do your best, you’d better get your rest. The quality of your sleep fundamentally affects the quality of your communication. Communicating well, Dr. Cheri Mah [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/dr-cheri-mah/] says, starts with being well-rested. “Sleep impacts nearly every aspect of how you function,” says Mah, a sleep physician, adjunct lecturer at Stanford Sleep Medicine Center, and internationally recognized expert on sleep and human performance. In her research and work, particularly with elite athletes and professional sports teams, she explores the link between getting rest and doing our best. “If you are getting quality sleep, you can think more clearly, react under pressure, make good judgment calls, have more patience, be more empathetic,” she says. In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart [https://www.fastersmarter.io/], Mah and host Matt Abrahams explore strategies for better sleep, from bedtime routines to paying off “sleep debt” to the “nappuccino” — a caffeine-fueled power nap. Whether you struggle to sleep or can nod off at any time or place, Mah’s insights reveal why doing our best requires getting our rest. To listen to the extended Deep Thinks version of this episode, please visit FasterSmarter.io/premium [https://www.fastersmarter.io/premium/]. Episode Reference Links: * Dr. Cheri Mah [https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/dr-cheri-mah/] * Ep.183 Rethinks: How Anxiety Can Fuel Better Communication [https://www.fastersmarter.io/183-rethinks-how-anxiety-can-fuel-better-communication/]  Connect: * Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart Premium [https://www.fastersmarter.io/premium/] * Email Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.io * Episode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart Website [https://www.fastersmarter.io/sleep-habits-communication/] * Newsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.io [http://fastersmarter.io/] * Think Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/think-fast-talk-smart/], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thinkfasttalksmart/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6caGRBUYZCmgDGM2RK6mxKB9jG_ccmm3] * Matt Abrahams >>> LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maabrahams/] ******** Thank you to our sponsors.  These partnerships support the ongoing production of the podcast, allowing us to bring it to you at no cost. Strawberry.me. [https://strawberry.me/quiz?isDirect=1&promotionCode=smart&utm_source=smart] Get 50% off your first coaching session today at Strawberry.me/smart [https://strawberry.me/quiz?isDirect=1&promotionCode=smart&utm_source=smart] Join our Think Fast Talk Smart Learning Community and become the communicator you want to be. [https://learning.fastersmarter.io/?redirect_from=podpage] Chapters: * (00:00) - Introduction * (01:15) - Sleep & Performance * (02:29) - Better Sleep Habits * (04:34) - Quieting a Racing Mind * (06:07) - Dr. Mah’s Night Routine * (07:37) - Sleep Extension * (09:10) - Preparing for Big Events * (10:02) - The Nappuccino * (11:39) - Managing Jet Lag * (14:14) - Chronotypes Explained * (16:18) - Starting the Day with Sleep * (17:58) - The Final Three Question * (22:15) - Conclusion