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Living in the Dash with Steven Fleming

Ed and Paul jam with career coach and musician Steven Fleming to tackle what it means to be "stuck in the dash" of life's transitions. Moving from corporate accounting to artistic freedom, Steven drops powerful mental models on overcoming fear, escaping the passive "NPC" mindset, and reclaiming your life's controller. The energetic session shifts into deep, raw vulnerability when Steven flips the script, challenging the hosts to reveal their own proudest personal triumphs.   Stick around to the end of this week’s episode for a very special performance by Steven Fleming courtesy of his YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@steventoddsounds/featured [https://www.youtube.com/@steventoddsounds/featured]. Don’t miss it!   Chapters 0:00 Opening 05:01 Self-Discovery and Facing Fears 09:09 Integrating Passions and Professional Life 13:07 The Power of Perspective and Reality 16:55 Embracing Change and Energy 23:18 Being the Main Character in Your Story 25:16 Unlocking Your Superpower 34:17 Leadership as a Unifying Force 48:56 Questions for Reflection and Growth

Whose Development Is It, Anyway?

It's that time of year. The calendar flips, performance reviews hit, and somewhere in the building a memo goes out: submit your professional development plan. No guidance. No direction. Just go do it — and oh, don't forget, you still have to do your actual job. That's exactly where a friend of mine found himself when he reached out to talk it through. We're calling him Matt — names changed to protect the innocent. And the conversation went somewhere I didn't expect. What started as "I don't even know where to start" turned into something a lot more interesting once we stopped talking about what the company needed and started asking what Matt actually wanted. In this episode, Paul and I get into the real friction behind professional development mandates — why so many of us dread them, what that resistance is actually telling us, and how to extract genuine value even when nobody handed you a map. CHAPTERS * 00:00 – Cold Open: "Go Learn This, Because I Said So" * 01:09 – Back in the Sandbox * 01:19 – Meet Matt: A Mandate with No Map * 03:15 – Paul's Background and the Familiar Tune of PD Season * 05:18 – Apply It or It Didn't Happen * 07:52 – Value Shows Up in Context * 08:53 – The Uncomfortable Truth: What If They Just Don't Want To? * 10:17 – Paul's Estate Sales Approach to Extracting Value * 12:39 – The Sticky Note on Paul's Desk * 13:12 – The Treasure Box: Whose Development Is This, Really? * 16:03 – "Go Learn This, Because I Said So" (And Why That Backfires) * 17:25 – The Trust Equation: Who's Actually Centered Here? * 19:47 – Green Pastures, No Map * 21:00 – The Three Filters: Accessible, Aligned, and Applicable * 24:04 – When You Need the Value to Show Up Immediately * 26:45 – Compliance Isn't the Same Thing as Growth * 30:10 – What Organizations Actually Get Right * 31:28 – Story Time: Ed Walks Into the Wrong Room * 40:53 – What He Actually Got Out of It * 44:54 – The Clique That Was Studying Cliques * 45:29 – Ed Was the Disruption * 48:45 – The Guiding Question

Acknowledge, Accept, and Address Career Chaos with Ryan Poirier

What happens when you suddenly lose your job? In this episode, therapist-in-training Dr. Ryan Poirier joins the podcast sandbox to talk about navigating the raw grief of career transitions. Ryan shares how a high school wrestling move called the "neck bridge" can teach us to survive heavy professional pressure without getting completely pinned. The conversation covers how to repurpose AI as a graduate school study tool , why mistakes are our best leadership teachers , and how to use the "Acknowledge, Accept, Address" framework to process big emotions. Finally, Ryan shares a powerful live epiphany: your internal personal mission and integrity matter far more than any corporate statement on a wall. Time Stamps 00:00 – Processing Job Loss and Finding the Glimmer 01:48 – Welcome to the Arena: Unfinished Thinking in the Sandbox  03:44 – The Metaphor of the Neck Bridge  06:27 – Redefining the Creative Canvas: Problem Solving vs. Art  10:55 – The Human Edge vs. Artificial Intelligence  14:19 – Operational Creativity & Graduate School AI Hacks  17:15 – Narrative Storytelling and Stumbling into Psychology  21:30 – People-First Leadership and the Safety to Fail  24:02 – Ladder vs. Rock Climbing Wall: Reimagining the Career  26:44 – Shifting Professional Values and Organizational Friction  33:24 – The Framework: Acknowledge, Accept, and Address  35:41 – Healing Through Creative Play  39:52 – Advisor Advice and the Hospital Psych Unit Path  41:34 – Unpacking Ikigai and Writing to Your Future Self  45:40 – Embracing the Messy Process of Collaborative Problem Solving  52:14 – Workplace Reminders and Staying Out of the River  56:10 – The Realm of Possibility: Prioritizing Self-Care in Transition  1:00:04 – The Epiphany: Internal Personal Mission vs. External Banners  1:01:17 – Approaching Careers as Experiments and Final Wrap-Up

Fandom, Pathways, and Self-Reflection with Kathleen Stone

What happens when you spend your entire life collecting elite academic degrees, only to realize the view from the top of the ladder isn't what you actually wanted? In this episode, Ed and Paul sit down with Dr. Kathleen Stone to talk about stripping away the corporate armor, surviving intense life transitions, and why the standard advice to "follow your passion" might be making you miserable. Timestamps: 00:00 – Mirror Check 01:05 – Drop the "Doctor" Title 03:06 – People Over Projects 06:33 – Email Typos & Leadership Flaws 12:57 – Why "Follow Your Passion" Is Bad Advice 17:51 – Harry Potter, Cosplay, & Clear Skies 21:27 – Life Is Too Short: Caregiving & Sunshine 28:17 – Pulling the Five-Degree Resumé Thread 33:53 – Evolving Whys: "Yes, And" 39:54 – Coasters, Dinosaurs, & Closing the Arena   Links Kathleen Living Life YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/@kathleenlivinglife]

Corporate to Franchise: Paul's Transformation Journey

In this episode, Paul Tonden shares his transformative journey from corporate America to franchise ownership, highlighting the challenges, lessons, and principles of entrepreneurship. Discover how systems, community, and mindset play crucial roles in building a sustainable business and navigating change. Chapters 00:00 Creating Sustainable Business Practices 00:40 Intro & The Shift 11:38 One Person's Treasure is Another's Soon 17:28 Service & Transitions 22:43 Discipline & Life 30:22 Circling Around