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When you stop filtering yourself ...and it comes out wrong

6 min · 27 apr 2026
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In this episode, I’m talking about what happened when I stopped filtering myself—and how it came out all wrong. For a long time, I’ve defaulted to people-pleasing. Staying quiet, avoiding conflict, and prioritizing other people’s needs over my own. But when that pattern finally broke, it didn’t look like calm, clear communication. It looked like everything coming out at once. What I thought would feel like “standing up for myself” ended up feeling messy, reactive, and honestly… a little regretful. In this episode, I walk through that experience, what it showed me about my patterns, and why going from saying nothing to saying everything isn’t actually growth. I’m learning that there’s a middle ground—one that’s more intentional, more honest, and a lot less explosive. If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, holding things in, or figuring out how to express yourself without it all spilling over at once, this one’s for you. New episodes every Monday.

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