What to Say & How to Say It

274: "That's Just the Way I Am" — Breaking Free from Old Mindsets in Marriage

Are you stuck in the mindset of "That's just the way I am"? In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner unpack why so many Christian husbands and wives stay trapped in childhood pain and emotional habits—and how to let God transform them. 💬 Learn how to: Recognize when you're letting pain define your identity Break free from cycles of blame and emotional immaturity Invite God into your healing so you can grow and thrive in your marriage Take responsibility for your mindset and respond differently in conflict 🎧 Free Resources: 👉 Download Five Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells and take our Marriage Assessment at greaterimpactwives.org

273: Stop Avoiding Change! How Courageous Conversations Can Transform Your Relationship

Change. Conflict. Courage. Three words every marriage faces—yet few couples know how to navigate them well. In today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina Roesner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove dig deep into how courageous conversations can transform your marriage. They unpack: 💬 Why "change" often leads to chaos and conflict 💬 How to talk about hard issues without blame or accusation 💬 The difference between being assertive vs aggressive 💬 Why logic—not emotion—solves problems 💬 How to stay open-minded, manage emotions, and build trust again If you've ever thought, "I don't do conflict," this conversation will lovingly challenge that belief—and show you that healthy confrontation is actually the gateway to deeper intimacy and lasting change. ✨ Watch now to learn how courage, humility, and truth can heal your marriage from the inside out.

272: How Accountability Can Save Your Marriage | 4 Ways the Truth Sets You Free

Welcome to What to Say and How to Say It, the podcast that helps Christian couples communicate better, resolve conflict, and build a thriving marriage rooted in faith. In today's episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner talk about how accountability can heal your marriage — and how truth, grace, and humility can strengthen your relationship with your spouse and with God. 💡 Take the next step in your marriage: 👉 Download our FREE PDF: Five Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells 👉 Take your Free Marriage Assessment at greaterimpactwives.org If you've been struggling with communication, trust, or emotional distance in your marriage, this episode will help you see how godly accountability leads to peace, healing, and deeper connection. 💖 Subscribe for more episodes on Christian marriage help, communication tips, and biblical wisdom for couples. #ChristianMarriage #MarriageHelp #MarriageAdvice #FaithBasedMarriage #Accountability #MarriageCommunication #ChristianPodcast #NinaRosner #ShyLewis #WhatToSayAndHowToSayIt #ChristianRelationship #MarriageHealing #BiblicalMarriage #GodlyMarriage #MarriageCoaching

271: What Do You Do with Change? | How to Handle Change, Chaos & Conflict in Relationships

Today, we're talking about change — not the kind you keep in a jar, but the kind that shakes up your life and relationships. Change is constant, and whether it's good or bad, it always brings some level of chaos and conflict. 💡 In this episode, you'll discover: ✅ Why change (even positive change) often leads to chaos ✅ How conflict can actually bring growth — if handled well ✅ The importance of courageous conversations in healthy relationships ✅ What the Bible says about confronting one another with love ✅ Why avoiding conflict keeps you stuck in unhealthy patterns If you're struggling with change in your marriage or relationships, this episode will help you face it with courage and faith. 🌐 Visit greaterimpact.org to: Take the Marriage Self-Assessment Learn more about the Marriage Transformation Program Discover practical ways to fix what's broken in your relationship 💬 Need help working through fear or conflict? Reach out to Kyle Hargrove, LPC — email: kylehargrovelpc@gmail.com (Texas-based counseling) Don't forget to subscribe, like, and share this video to help others handle change with wisdom and grace. #relationships #marriageadvice #communication #faith #growth #relationshiptips #couplestherapy #ChristianMarriage #change #conflictresolution #WhatToSayAndHowToSayIt #NinaRoesner #KyleHargrove #greaterimpact #emotionalhealth #courageousconversations #ChristCenteredMarriage

270: From Blame to Breakthrough: How Emotional Regulation Transformed Sarah's Marriage

In this powerful episode, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner sit down with Sarah Karlich, a Licensed Professional Counselor, to explore how her personal and professional journey through trauma, emotional dysregulation, and the Greater Impact Marriage Intensive transformed her marriage and faith. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Sarah shares how: Emotional regulation changed how she communicated with her husband Childhood trauma shaped her reactions and belief systems God used surrender, truth, and community to restore her heart Her marriage went from disconnected to deeply healing and connected 🎯 Key Takeaways: Why blame is the enemy's language—and how to break the cycle How healing starts with you, not your spouse What emotional safety looks like in real marriage transformation The difference between managing behavior and true spiritual change 📥 Get your FREE resources: 💡 5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells 📝 Free Marriage Assessment 💬 Whether you're feeling stuck, frustrated, or alone in your marriage—this episode will give you hope and practical wisdom rooted in God's Word. 🔔 Don't forget to subscribe, like, and share this episode with someone who needs encouragement and truth today! #ChristianMarriage #MarriageHelp #EmotionalRegulation #ChristianPodcast #GreaterImpact #MarriageTestimony #FaithAndMarriage #ChristianCounseling #MarriageRestoration #EmotionalHealing #BiblicalMarriage