Love Life With Matthew Hussey

4 Step Approach To Stop Obsessing Over Someone

18 min · 11. mai 2026
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Have you ever stared at a text message for 20 minutes trying to decode it and then another 20 minutes trying to figure out how to respond to it? In this week’s episode, I dive into the obsession and overthinking that can happen in dating, when every text, silence, and tiny interaction suddenly feels loaded with meaning. (And yes, I act out the entire internal meltdown we’ve all had while trying to craft the “perfect” reply.) More importantly, I share a powerful framework I teach to my coaching clients called the “CALM Method,” designed to help you stop spiraling and regain emotional control. We explore the idea of the “bodyguard," which is the protective part of you formed from past experiences that tries to keep you safe, but often also creates anxiety. I’ll walk you through practical steps to calm that fear, reconnect with yourself, and focus on real compatibility instead of fantasy. --- ►► If you want to stop feeling invisible on the dating apps, get out of situationships, and get real commitment, check out my free online masterclass Dating With Results: DatingWithResults.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbFlzNTRTOGNDZmlEU3lFSFZpYzRfMEI2ZVI1Z3xBQ3Jtc0tubU1JMHlYSVVjNk1kMTA1Qy1xcG13RlBSR2V5cTc1a1BwcmI5N19CODZiNGZjVkptTG5veEQ1Q2RvTkdKZHhUTWUyN0dQdE9IM1pMY3kwWGpSOUpiTmhZaWRYTkI0dHBqajY0OWpscE5BLTlNMTY2QQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.DatingWithResults.com%2F&v=HKHrbsKQFF8] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

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