The Loyalty Tax: What Overperforming in the Wrong Place Actually Costs You

Your Strengths Are Someone Else's Job Description

You are good at your job. But chances are, the most valuable thing you bring to your work is not even listed in your job description. High achievers do not just perform their roles. They solve problems nobody assigned them. They develop people without the coaching title. They build systems that outlast them. They hold teams together in ways that never show up in a performance review. That is what Dr. Nic calls the Strengths Tax — and in Episode 4 of Adulting In My Purpose, she is breaking down exactly how it works and what it is costing you. In this episode you will learn: — What the Strengths Tax is and why high achievers keep paying it without realizing it— The 4 types of informal labor most professionals give away for free— 3 audit questions to identify what your work is actually worth on the open market— Why ease does not equal low value — and how to stop underpricing what comes naturally to you If you have ever felt like you were doing more than your job description but getting paid for less than your contribution, this episode will give you the language, the framework, and the next step. Take the free Career Crossroads Assessment at adultinginmypurpose.com #AdultingInMyPurpose #DrNic #CLARITYFramework #TheStrengthsTax #CareerClarity

Qualified and Overlooked: The Promotion They Gave Someone Else

You were the most qualified person in the room. You did the work, trained the team, and kept the department running. And then the promotion went to someone else. If you have ever sat in that moment — forced to smile, wondering if you missed something, questioning everything you thought you knew about how advancement works — this episode is for you. In Episode 10 of Adulting In My Purpose™, Dr. Nic delivers one of the most clarifying reframes in the entire series: being overlooked is not evidence that you weren't ready. In most cases, it is evidence that the environment was not designed to reward what you bring. And those two diagnoses require completely different responses. In this episode you will learn: — Why high achievers misdiagnose being overlooked as a personal failure — and how that mistake keeps them stuck — The 4-part Overlooked Diagnosis: Visibility Gap, Fit Misalignment, Structural Barrier, and Wrong Table Entirely — 3 questions to determine whether this is a fixable situation or a signal to move — Why the L step of the CLARITY Framework — Leverage Your Strengths — is about more than knowing what you're good at Whether you're still in the room where it happened or years removed and still carrying it — this episode will give you language, a framework, and a path forward. Take the free Career Crossroads Assessment: adultinginmypurpose.com

The Loyalty Tax: What Overperforming in the Wrong Place Actually Costs You

You were taught that loyalty, hard work, and excellence would always be rewarded. So you showed up. Gave your best. Stayed committed — even when something felt off. But what if the very thing you've been praised for has quietly been working against you? In Episode 9 of Adulting In My Purpose™, Dr. Nic introduces a concept that stops high achievers in their tracks: The Loyalty Tax. It's not on your pay stub. No one sends you a bill. But it accumulates every time you pour your best into an environment that has already decided your ceiling — costing you time, energy, identity, and opportunity. In this episode, you'll learn: — Why loyalty is a virtue that becomes a liability when it's misdirected — The 4 forms the Loyalty Tax takes in the lives of high-achieving professionals — The CLARITY Framework's L step: how to leverage your strengths toward something that actually belongs to you — 3 questions to assess whether your strengths are building your future or someone else's If you've ever felt like you were the most capable person in the room and still couldn't get ahead, this episode is for you. Take the free Career Crossroads Assessment: adultinginmypurpose.com

The Résumé That Lied to You: Why Success Isn’t Giving You Clarity

You did everything right. You got the degrees, built the résumé, and checked all the boxes. From the outside, it looks like success. So why does it still feel like something is off? In this episode of Adulting In My Purpose: The Clarity Chronicles, Dr. Nic unpacks the truth high-achieving professionals rarely say out loud: success on paper does not guarantee alignment in real life. This is not a motivation issue or a discipline issue. This is a clarity issue. You’ll learn why your résumé was never designed to guide your life decisions, how misalignment shows up even when you’re doing well, and the internal shift required before your next move can actually be the right one. This episode introduces the first step of the CLARITY Framework, Confront Your Reality, and challenges you to tell the truth about where you are so you can move forward with intention. If you’ve been feeling stuck, stretched, or successful but still unfulfilled, this conversation will meet you right where you are. Ready to get clear on what’s next for you? Take the Career Crossroads Assessment at adultinginmypurpose.com.

Build Your 90-Day Clarity Roadmap: Reset, Refocus, and Realign

Are you ready to finish strong and step into your next season with purpose? In this episode of Adulting In My Purpose: The Clarity Chronicles, Dr. Nic walks you through her proven CLARITY Framework™ to help you create a 90-day roadmap that aligns your actions with your true priorities. You’ll uncover the hidden blockers that have been keeping you stuck, learn how to refocus your energy on what truly matters, and leave with practical steps you can start today. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, distracted, or just unsure of your next move—this episode is your reset button. Tune in and start building the next 90 days with intention, confidence, and clarity.