There’s No Such Thing as Self-Sabotage (What’s Really Happening Instead)

You Know What to Do. So Why Aren't You Doing It?

Episode 39: You Know What to Do. So Why Aren't You Doing It? You already know what would help. Drink more water. Get more sleep. Set the boundary. Move your body. Be kinder to yourself. So why is it still so hard to actually do those things? In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores one of the biggest frustrations in personal growth: the gap between knowing what to do and actually living it. Because awareness is powerful—but awareness alone doesn't create transformation. Lauren shares why lasting change isn't about becoming more disciplined, motivated, or productive. It's about learning how to reconnect your mind and body, experiment with what truly works for your unique nervous system, and stop trying to force yourself into someone else's formula. In This Episode, Lauren Explores: * Why awareness is only the beginning of personal growth * The hidden gap between knowing and becoming * Why discipline isn't usually the missing piece * How experience creates lasting transformation * The difference between forcing yourself and partnering with yourself * Why your body isn't resisting change—it's asking to be heard * How curiosity creates more growth than self-criticism * Why no single self-care routine or productivity system works for everyone * What it means to build a life that aligns with your unique emotional system * How to begin listening to your body's wisdom instead of overriding it ✨ Private Coaching with Lauren [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Work one-on-one with Lauren to build emotional wealth, understand your emotional patterns, and create the emotional capacity needed to move through life with clarity and confidence. Learn more HERE [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Want to Go Deeper? Join The Emotions Crash Course + The Emotions Circle [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course will help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life. Plus, when you join, you also get access to The Emotions Circle, Lauren’s private community where she shares exclusive audio drops, real-time reflections, deeper teachings, and behind-the-scenes support as this work comes to life in real time. ✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse]Take the next step in your self-care journey Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link]:  Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels. 👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] ✨ ⁠Free Resource: The Emotional Flow Map⁠ [https://angelic-apple-251.myflodesk.com/flowmap] If emotional resistance or avoidance is part of what’s creating stagnation, Lauren’s Emotional Flow Map is the place to start. The Flow Map teaches the four ways humans naturally handle emotions: * React * Resist * Avoid * Allow Connect with Lauren: * Instagram: @the_emotionscoach [https://www.instagram.com/the_emotionscoach/] * Website: laurencarlislebrown.com [http://laurencarlislebrown.com] * Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] * Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] * Learn  about One on One Coaching  with Lauren: EMOTIONAL FREEDOM CALL [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall]

The Identity Shift: Becoming Emotionally Available for Life

Episode 38: The Identity Shift: Becoming Emotionally Available for Life What if the goal of emotional work isn't to feel better?What if the goal is to become someone who trusts themselves enough to feel anything?In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores what she believes is one of the most powerful identity shifts we can make: becoming emotionally available for life.Emotional mastery isn't about becoming calm, confident, or happy all the time. It's about building the capacity to stay connected to yourself through joy, grief, uncertainty, disappointment, fear, anger, heartbreak, and everything in between.Because the full experience of being alive requires a willingness to feel the full experience of being human.Lauren shares how this identity has supported her through her own recent season of change, unexpected problems, overwhelm, and even the uncomfortable feelings that came with falling behind on this very podcast. In This Episode, Lauren Explores: * Why the goal of emotional work isn't simply to "feel better" * What it means to become emotionally available for life * The difference between surviving and becoming * How the five truths of the Emotions Manifesto support emotional mastery * Six common beliefs that block us from fully feeling our emotions * Why difficult emotions don't mean something has gone wrong * How emotional capacity supports bigger goals, deeper relationships, and meaningful growth * Why growth isn't about becoming fearless—it's about becoming willing * What it looks like to trust yourself through disappointment, shame, fear, and uncertainty * How becoming someone who can feel anything can make you feel truly unstoppable ✨ Private Coaching with Lauren [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Work one-on-one with Lauren to build emotional wealth, understand your emotional patterns, and create the emotional capacity needed to move through life with clarity and confidence. Learn more HERE [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Want to Go Deeper? Join The Emotions Crash Course + The Emotions Circle [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course will help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life. Plus, when you join, you also get access to The Emotions Circle, Lauren’s private community where she shares exclusive audio drops, real-time reflections, deeper teachings, and behind-the-scenes support as this work comes to life in real time. ✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse]Take the next step in your self-care journey Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link]:  Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels. 👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] ✨ ⁠⁠Free Resource: The Emotional Flow Map⁠⁠ [https://angelic-apple-251.myflodesk.com/flowmap] If emotional resistance or avoidance is part of what’s creating stagnation, Lauren’s Emotional Flow Map is the place to start. The Flow Map teaches the four ways humans naturally handle emotions: * React * Resist * Avoid * Allow Connect with Lauren: * Instagram: @the_emotionscoach [https://www.instagram.com/the_emotionscoach/] * Website: laurencarlislebrown.com [http://laurencarlislebrown.com] * Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] * Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] * Learn  about One on One Coaching  with Lauren: EMOTIONAL FREEDOM CALL [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall]

You're Allowed to Outgrow the Version of Yourself That Got You Here

Episode 37: You're Allowed to Outgrow the Version of Yourself That Got You Here Growth isn't about becoming someone completely different. It's about becoming more fully yourself. In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores one of the most overlooked parts of personal growth: the grief that comes with outgrowing old versions of ourselves. Whether you're stepping into a new career, a new season of motherhood, a healthier relationship, or simply becoming more aligned with who you truly are, every expansion asks something of you. The version of you that got you here isn't wrong. She isn't broken. She deserves gratitude. But she was never meant to be the final version of you. Lauren shares personal stories from her own journey through motherhood, coaching, and business, offering a compassionate perspective on identity, change, and what it truly means to evolve without abandoning yourself. In This Episode, Lauren Explores: * Why growth always requires change * The difference between abandoning yourself and outgrowing yourself * Why every new chapter includes a form of grief * How to honor past versions of yourself instead of criticizing them * The power of integrating your wisdom instead of leaving your past behind * What motherhood taught Lauren about identity and continual evolution * How fear of being fully seen can quietly shape your decisions * A guided reflection to help you thank—and gently release—the version of yourself you've outgrown ✨ Private Coaching with Lauren [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Work one-on-one with Lauren to build emotional wealth, understand your emotional patterns, and create the emotional capacity needed to move through life with clarity and confidence. Learn more HERE [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Want to Go Deeper? Join The Emotions Crash Course + The Emotions Circle [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course will help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life. Plus, when you join, you also get access to The Emotions Circle, Lauren’s private community where she shares exclusive audio drops, real-time reflections, deeper teachings, and behind-the-scenes support as this work comes to life in real time. ✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse]Take the next step in your self-care journey Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link]:  Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels. 👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] ✨ ⁠Free Resource: The Emotional Flow Map⁠ [https://angelic-apple-251.myflodesk.com/flowmap] If emotional resistance or avoidance is part of what’s creating stagnation, Lauren’s Emotional Flow Map is the place to start. The Flow Map teaches the four ways humans naturally handle emotions: * React * Resist * Avoid * Allow Connect with Lauren: * Instagram: @the_emotionscoach [https://www.instagram.com/the_emotionscoach/] * Website: laurencarlislebrown.com [http://laurencarlislebrown.com] * Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] * Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] * Learn  about One on One Coaching  with Lauren: EMOTIONAL FREEDOM CALL [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall]

You're Not One Person—You're a Living System

Episode 36: You're Not One Person—You're a Living System What if the reason you feel inconsistent isn't because something is wrong with you? What if you're simply responding to different seasons, experiences, and needs within your own unique internal ecosystem? In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores one of the most compassionate shifts you can make in your emotional life: moving away from trying to "fix" yourself and instead learning how to understand yourself. Rather than seeing yourself as one static personality, Lauren invites you to consider that you're a living system made up of many different parts—each carrying its own wisdom, fears, strengths, and experiences. Some parts are hopeful. Some are protective. Some are tired. Some are deeply courageous. The goal isn't to silence those parts. The goal is to build a relationship with them. Because the more connected you become with your internal world, the more clarity, self-trust, and emotional freedom you create. In This Episode, Lauren Explores: * Why you're not inconsistent—you're contextual * What it means to think of yourself as a living ecosystem * How different "versions" of yourself show up in different situations * Why curiosity creates more growth than self-criticism * The difference between self-improvement and self-relationship * How different parts of you carry different strengths, fears, and wisdom * Why emotional integration creates greater peace and clarity * Questions you can begin asking yourself to better understand your internal world * How building a relationship with yourself changes the way you navigate life ✨ Private Coaching with Lauren [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Work one-on-one with Lauren to build emotional wealth, understand your emotional patterns, and create the emotional capacity needed to move through life with clarity and confidence. Learn more HERE [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Want to Go Deeper? Join The Emotions Crash Course + The Emotions Circle [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course will help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life. Plus, when you join, you also get access to The Emotions Circle, Lauren’s private community where she shares exclusive audio drops, real-time reflections, deeper teachings, and behind-the-scenes support as this work comes to life in real time. ✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse]Take the next step in your self-care journey Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link]:  Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels. 👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] ✨ ⁠Free Resource: The Emotional Flow Map⁠ [https://angelic-apple-251.myflodesk.com/flowmap] If emotional resistance or avoidance is part of what’s creating stagnation, Lauren’s Emotional Flow Map is the place to start. The Flow Map teaches the four ways humans naturally handle emotions: * React * Resist * Avoid * Allow Connect with Lauren: * Instagram: @the_emotionscoach [https://www.instagram.com/the_emotionscoach/] * Website: laurencarlislebrown.com [http://laurencarlislebrown.com] * Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] * Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] * Learn  about One on One Coaching  with Lauren: EMOTIONAL FREEDOM CALL [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall]

What Emotional Wealth Actually Looks Like in Real Life

Episode 35: What Emotional Wealth Actually Looks Like in Real Life In this deeply personal episode of All the Feels, Lauren opens the door to her real life and shares what emotional wealth looks like beyond the concepts, frameworks, and coaching tools. After nearly a decade of dreaming, planning, and building, Lauren and her family are preparing to move into their mountain home in Western North Carolina—a dream that has lived in her heart for more than 12 years. But as exciting as this season has been, it has also been messy, exhausting, beautiful, emotional, and challenging. And that's exactly the point. Because emotional wealth isn't about creating a life without challenges. It's about having the tools to navigate challenges with awareness, self-compassion, flexibility, and support. Through stories of disrupted routines, sleep deprivation, solo-parenting, co-regulation, unmet needs, and adjusting expectations, Lauren offers a real-life look at what happens when emotional health becomes a way of living—not just something you learn about. In This Episode, Lauren Explores: * Why beautiful seasons can still be difficult * The difference between discomfort and unnecessary suffering * What emotional wealth looks like in everyday life * How understanding your unique needs changes everything * Why self-care isn't a fixed checklist * The power of responding to reality instead of fighting it * A personal story about supporting her daughter through nighttime dysregulation * Co-regulation and caring for others without abandoning yourself * Why flexibility is a critical emotional skill * How emotional wealth helps you move through life's transitions with greater ease ✨ Private Coaching with Lauren [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Work one-on-one with Lauren to build emotional wealth, understand your emotional patterns, and create the emotional capacity needed to move through life with clarity and confidence. Learn more HERE [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Want to Go Deeper? Join The Emotions Crash Course + The Emotions Circle [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course will help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life. Plus, when you join, you also get access to The Emotions Circle, Lauren’s private community where she shares exclusive audio drops, real-time reflections, deeper teachings, and behind-the-scenes support as this work comes to life in real time. ✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] Take the next step in your self-care journey Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link]:  Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels. 👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] ✨ ⁠Free Resource: The Emotional Flow Map⁠ [https://angelic-apple-251.myflodesk.com/flowmap] If emotional resistance or avoidance is part of what’s creating stagnation, Lauren’s Emotional Flow Map is the place to start. The Flow Map teaches the four ways humans naturally handle emotions: * React * Resist * Avoid * Allow Connect with Lauren: * Instagram: @the_emotionscoach [https://www.instagram.com/the_emotionscoach/] * Website: laurencarlislebrown.com [http://laurencarlislebrown.com] * Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] * Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] * Learn  about One on One Coaching  with Lauren: EMOTIONAL FREEDOM CALL [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall]