22: Still Dressing for Winter: Fear, Hope, and the Habit of Bracing for Disappointment

27: The Lie: Putting Yourself First Is Selfish | Carmen Walsh on Living the Life You've Been Given

For decades, Carmen Walsh was the supporting actor in her own life, the woman everyone could count on. After years of people-pleasing, burnout, and unhealthy relationships, she finally understood she was never here to follow or carry anyone else. She set herself free and became her own joyful authority. Today, Carmen is a speaker and writer who helps women reconnect with themselves, let go of self-abandonment, and discover the freedom that comes from living authentically. In this conversation, we explore: • The lie that putting yourself first is selfish • How responsibility can quietly become self-abandonment • Why following your joy isn't selfish • The subtle difference between personal growth and trying to fix yourself • Why life isn't a test to pass, but a gift to experience • Simple ways to reconnect with yourself when you've spent years taking care of everyone else Whether you've struggled with people-pleasing, burnout, or the belief that putting yourself first is selfish, this conversation offers a fresh perspective on responsibility, joy, and what it means to truly live the life you've been given. Connect with Carmen Website: https://carmenwalsh.com [https://carmenwalsh.com] Instagram: @carmen_livelovesavorlife Send me a message [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2569468/fan_mail/new]

Monday Moment: When Joy Feels Like a Betrayal

What if feeling joy while someone you love is suffering isn't selfish, but necessary?  In this Monday Moment, Tania explores the hidden belief that joy can feel like a betrayal, and why giving ourselves permission to experience both love and joy may be one of the most compassionate choices we can make.  Send me a message [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2569468/fan_mail/new]

26: Chicken Wing Arms: Menopause, Self-Judgment, and the Habit of Putting Ourselves on Trial

Tania shares a very real moment from her own life: lying in bed, exhausted, judging her "chicken wing arms" and wondering why self-criticism continues to demand so much of our attention. What begins as a late-night conversation with herself about chicken wing arms, cellulite, and menopause quickly turns into a deeper exploration of self-judgment, the stories we tell ourselves, and the hidden belief that being hard on ourselves will somehow make us better. In this honest reflection, Tania questions the voice of the inner critic, explores the true cost of self-judgment, and invites listeners to consider whether that voice deserves as much authority as we've given it. Send me a message [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2569468/fan_mail/new]

Monday Moment: Follow the Envy

In this Monday Moment, Tania reflects on an unexpected experience with envy while scrolling social media. What if envy isn't something to avoid, but something worth paying attention to? A short reflection on comparison, curiosity, and the surprising places our emotions can lead us. Send me a message [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2569468/fan_mail/new]

25: How I Learned the Voice in My Head Is Not Me

In this episode of Banish the Lies, Tania shares the story of a 10-day silent meditation retreat that challenged everything she thought she knew about peace, healing, and the voice in her head. What began as a search for relief from emotional pain became an unexpected lesson in observing thoughts rather than automatically believing them. Through humor, honesty, and reflection, Tania explores the difference between hearing the inner critic and becoming it, and why true freedom may have less to do with controlling our thoughts and more to do with changing our relationship to them. If you've ever found yourself trapped in worry, self-criticism, or the constant commentary of your own mind, this episode offers a powerful reminder: you are not the voice in your head. Send me a message [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2569468/fan_mail/new]