What's Love Got to Do with It? Season4 Episode #10

What's Love Got to Do with It? Season4 Episode #10

Most marriages die not from a lack of love, but from neglecting the marathon's unspoken rules. What if the secret to lasting love isn’t just about romance, but preparation for the unexpected? Kyle Colavitti, a seasoned storyteller and speaker, reveals the essential questions every person should ask before saying "I do" — and how these choices can make or break a lifelong partnership.This episode dives deep into marriage as a marathon, not a sprint. Kyle shares candid stories — from fertility struggles to health crises — illustrating how resilience, humor, and deliberate effort are the real foundations of lasting love. You'll discover why asking the right questions early on, like “Do I want to raise children with this person?” or “Will we care for each other when sickness and aging hit?”, can save you heartbreak later. She also explores how our parenting ideals, character traits, and even physical aging influence long-term compatibility and happiness.We break down practical topics like creating shared values, the importance of communication about life’s big challenges. Host and Coach Verlyn points out that effort, effort, effort is the real currency in marriage. She states that marriage is ten percent love, thirty percent commitment, and sixty percent effort. Plus, learn how to recognize the warning signs of mismatch and build a relationship that can withstand life's unpredictable turns. Kyle emphasizes that lasting love is a continuous journey — full of repairs, honest conversations, and shared effort.Why does this matter? Because most people walk into marriage unprepared for the marathon ahead. Without the right questions and mindset, it’s easy to run out of steam when obstacles appear. But with Kyle’s insights, you'll be better equipped to choose a partner who’s in it for the long haul, and to nurture a love that evolves and endures.Perfect for couples at any stage, or singles seeking clarity — if you want a relationship built to last, this episode is your must-listen. Don't just fall into love — train for it. Your marathon partner awaits.#family [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/family] #podcast [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/podcast] #goals [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/goals] #facts [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/facts] #wisdom [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/wisdom] #love [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/love] #marriage [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/marriage] #relationship [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/relationship] #couple [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/couple] #peace [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/peace] Key wordsMarriage as a marathon, Lasting love, Essential questions, Lifelong partnership, Resilience and humor, Fertility struggles, Health crises, Shared values, Communication, Effort in marriage, Long-term compatibility, Relationship building, Unpredictable turns, Preparedness for marriage, Choosing the right partnerThank you for joining the conversation. Please like, hit the subscribe button, and share with a few friends. Connect with Kylehttps://www.kylecolavitti.com/ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbVBORl92c1JXZnk0Q3dudTBUUnF1dUlqWWZvZ3xBQ3Jtc0tuejJJeU8tejV5TnhSdzUxTmFKd0l1TjJEM0FJZXZWcnl2dXNGaTBGOV81dVJBREpyU0JRRlR5T3lxNkw4MklnX3dlWHI3TzVIRV9oTU1jQV83aENJQ204Qzl3ZXN5NlgwVnBlUkQ3TzRlOWJnU0hEYw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.kylecolavitti.com%2F&v=9S-6N8ExNp4]kylecolavitti@gmail.com Connect with Verlynhttps://verlyntarlton.com/ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbThHNlFSbDJmc0NaNlc5YVdIU1hNb0kxX29oUXxBQ3Jtc0tseFFreGVlaDhJa0ExR1I5LURLSnlYckY2Qk1IdktPSW0xZ29tZ0VvUE5QZlhVazNEUGhQY2wxUUxkMHNYTXlnRGpNVGVDTlhUVUotMXV0bVh2cGFTZWhoNFhwM0M2NjB6UWtJbFhpeHJXLUcwQ1NIaw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fverlyntarlton.com%2F&v=9S-6N8ExNp4]May you experience extraordinary love.

Is Marriage Dead for Us? Season 4 Episode #9

Most women and parents overlook thesilent crisis impacting our community’s future: our marriage rates are plummeting, and it's shaping a generation that’s disconnected from the importance of family. Why are so many of our daughters influenced by a narrative that undervalues marriage — and how can we change that perspective before it’s too late? In this eye-opening episode, Verlyn Tarlton, a seasoned premarital coach and cultural observer, dives deep into the messages we send our daughters about marriage and the alarming statistics revealing the decline in Black marriage rates — from 70% among Asians to only 34% among our community. She shares powerful stories and historical insights, including her grandfather’s writings and nostalgic reflections from 1991, revealing that these attitudeshave persisted for decades. Verlyn explores how societal and familial influences shape young women’s views about independence, love, and family. You’ll discover: The cultural messages influencing girls’ perceptions of marriage and whether they favor careers over commitment. How the absence of marriage perpetuates cycles of unwed motherhood and societal instability. Practical strategies for fostering conversations about family and marriage that plant positive seeds early. Why healing from past relationship wounds is critical tobreaking generational patterns. The importance of presenting marriage as a valuable, honorable goal — not just a fairy tale, but a viable, rewardingchoice. This episode underscores why understanding and addressing these cultural narratives is vital — because the health of our families, communities, and race depend on it. If we want future generations to thrive with strong, lasting families, we must act now by shifting the conversation and leading byexample. Perfect for parents, community leaders, and women ready to reclaim their cultural legacy, this episode challenges you to rethink what’s possible for our daughters and their futures. Let’s work together to prioritize marriage, instill family values, and restore hope — because the future of ourcommunity depends on it. #family #facts #podcast #goals #love #wisdom#relationship #couple Key words Decline in Marriage Rates, Black CommunityMarriage Trends, Cultural Narratives on Marriage, Family Values and Marriage, Generational Patterns in Relationships, Premarital Coaching Insights, Societal Influences on Marriage, Marriage and Family Stability, Empowering Women in Relationships, Cultural Legacy and Marriage Thank you for joining the conversation. Make sure to like and if you have not already hit the subscribe button and share with a few friends. Connect with VerlynHome - Verlyn Tarlton [https://verlyntarlton.com/] May you experience extraordinary love.

Bring Back Shame Season 4 Episode #8

Our culture has lost sight of the power of shame — and the consequences are clear. In this provocative episode of Before You Do w/Verlyn, Coach Verlyn makes a compelling case for bringing shame back, not as guilt, but as a vital force to restore dignity, virtue, and community values. Growing up in Washington DC, Verlyn recalls a time when shame was a social glue—when adults cared about how they were viewed and took responsibility for their behavior in front of children. From men hiding liquor and cigarettes behind their backs to women dressing with class and modesty, a collective sense of shame fostered respect and self-control. Today, she argues, we've abandoned that moral backbone, leading to a culture of brazen disrespect and a lack of accountability.You'll discover:Why shame was once a key to personal and communal integrity. How modern fashion and media are eroding young girls' self-respect. Practical steps parents, grandparents, and communities can take to teach daughters true dignity. The critical role of nurturing a culture that values virtue, class, and civility. Verlyn’s powerful call to action: "Bring back shame" to elevate our daughters and preserve community values.This episode challenges you to reflect on what we're teaching the next generation—through our words and actions—and emphasizes why instilling a sense of shame can be an act of love and responsibility. It’s essential listening for anyone concerned about the moral direction of our society, especially parents and mentors who want to raise daughters with dignity and poise.Join Verlyn as she fiercely advocates for reclaiming shame as a moral compass—because without it, our culture risks losing its soul. Are you ready to make shame great again?Consequence-Driven Parenting Reinforces Values. Children’s behavior is shaped more effectively through setting clear boundaries tied to societal consequences than through abstract moral lessons. Why it matters. Actions motivated by fear of shame and community opinion create stronger internal discipline than guilt-based or permissive approaches. In practice parents should consistently connect behaviors to visible community standards, demonstrating that shame functions as a social adhesive for virtue.Cultural standards inform self-image and dress. Fashion choices for young girls should reflect societal expectations of modesty and class, rather than trends dictated solely by commercial interests. Early exposure to provocative styles signals a distorted value system, potentially shaping future behaviors and self-esteem. In practice, parents and guardians should model and enforce age-appropriate dress codes aligned with community values, emphasizing dignity over trendiness.Collective Responsibility for Cultural Transmission: Shame is a collective tool, and its erosion stems from individual choices not to uphold societal standards and to accept behavior that diminishes communal integrity. Individual complacency weakens community resilience, making social cohesion and moral standards impossible to sustain. In practice community-led initiatives, mentorship, and accountability partnerships can restore shared norms and reinforce the importance of cultural shame.Restoring Shame as a Civilizing Force: Shame functions as a vital social regulator that preserves dignity and inhibits degrading behaviors; its absence fosters reckless disregard for collective values. Rehabilitating shame helps curb lewdness, disrespect, and social divisiveness, fostering a society that values dignity and self-control. In practice. Public narratives, education, and media should emphasize shame as a sign of character and responsibility, not just an outdated concept.#shame #wisdom #saveourdaughters #family #values #virtue #podcast #love #respect Thank you for joining the conversation. Please like, subscribe, and share. Connect with VerlynHome - Verlyn Tarlton [https://verlyntarlton.com/] May you experience extraordinary love

Submission: Truth Exposed Season 4 Episode # 7

Most women miss the secret to truly empowering their relationships — and it’s all wrapped up in a misunderstood word: submission. What if understanding this simple concept could unlock the peace, protection, and partnership you've been craving? Verlyn Tarlton, your favorite premarital coach and Auntie who’s seen the transformational power of truecooperation, dives deep into how submission isn’t about weakness or losing control — it’s about creating order, strength, and harmony in your marriage. She reveals how embracing this principle can liberate women from the burdens of decision-making and change the dynamic with your man from constant conflict to mutual support. In this episode, you'll discover: The true meaning ofsubmission and how it aligns with everyday hierarchies like workplaces, schools, and governments. Why women often resist submission and how to reframe it as a source of power and peace. Practical ways to support your husband’s leadership and why it benefits the whole family. How faith, prayer, and cooperation can turn conflicts into moments of bonding and growth. The surprising ways feminism and modern culture have skewed perceptions o submission, and why returning to faith-based principles is essential. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re battling against your husband, or if you want a marriage built on trust, respect, and divine order, this episode is your wake-up call. Perfect for women of faith, those seeking peace in their home, oranyone wanting to redefine strength in marriage. Get ready to see submission as your secret weapon for a healthier, happier partnership — and start building the love life you truly deserve. Verlyn Tarlton is a seasoned premarital coach and speaker dedicated to helping women embrace their divine roles in marriage and life. Her insights stem from years of experience guiding women to lead with faith and purpose. Don’t miss this opportunity to transform your perspective and your marriage. Hit play now and take the first step toward a relationshipwhere love, respect, and harmony reign supreme. Thank you for joining the conversation. Please make sure to hit the subscribe button, like, and share with three or four friends. Make marriage great again. Connect with Verlynhttps://verlyntarlton.com/ #respect #love #marriage #wisdom #family #relationship #couple #goals #peace #podcast Key words Submission, Empowerment, Partnership, Hierarchy, Cooperation, Faith-based, Spiritual unity, Gender roles, Feminism, Marital dynamics, Support and growth, Relationship foundation, Decision-making, Mutual support, Peace and harmony May you experience extraordinary love.

Most Women Overlook This Season 4 Episode #6

Most people overlook the real test of a relationship — how your partner responds when life doesn’t go according to plan. In this eye-opening episode, Verlyn Tarlton shares profoundinsights from her personal health challenge, revealing what truly defines a partner’s character beyond the honeymoon phase. Discover why the foundation of lasting love isn’t just about chemistry or shared interests but about resilience, dependability, and how someone shows up when everything is falling apart. Verlyn breaks down the critical traits you must assess — from leadership under pressure to family values — to avoid costly mistakes that could impact your future children, finances, and emotional well-being. You'll learn How to recognize "stickability"- the ability to stay composed and dependable through adversity The importance of observing your partner's response to simple challenges and stresses Why character and heart matter more than looks when life hurdles arise How to shift from emotional infatuation to strategic future focus making in choosing a spouse Practical questions to ask yourself and partner to determine if he's truly marriage minded If you’re tired of making choices based solely on fleeting feelings, and ready to build a love that lasts through challenges, this episode is your must-listen. Verlyn, a seasoned pre-marital coach, draws from over 20 years of marriage and real-life experience to guide you toward discerning intent over attraction. Her insights will inspire you to see beyond the surface and focus on the qualities that create a legacy of love. Perfect for women serious about making smarter, future-proof relationship choices. Tune in for a mindset shift that could change your life — because love built on character, trust, and resilience lasts forever. #respect #love #marriage #wisdom #family #relationships #couples #goals #peace #podcast #levelup Key words * Relationship resilience * Partner's character * Leadership under pressure * Family values * Emotional infatuation * Future-focused decision-making * Marriage material * Trust and resilience Thank you for joining the conversation. Please remember to like, share with friends, and subscribe. That is greatly appreciated. Pick up your freebies as well as connect with Verlyn: Home - Verlyn Tarlton [https://verlyntarlton.com/] May you experience extraordinary love