Better Sex

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the often misunderstood distinction between desire and attraction in intimate relationships. Zimmerman explains how many people confuse a decrease in spontaneous desire with a loss of attraction toward their partner. She details how desire can shift from proactive to reactive, particularly as relationships evolve, with age, stress, and familiarity. Listeners will gain insight into maintaining a healthy sex life by adapting to these changes instead of misconstruing them as a loss of attraction. Finally, she emphasizes the importance of deepening connections beyond physical appearances for long-term sexual fulfillment. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:58 Understanding Desire vs. Attraction 02:48 The Shift from Proactive to Reactive Desire 04:45 The Role of Brain Chemistry in Desire 06:26 Adapting to Changes in Attraction 07:44 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

In this episode of Better Sex, host Jess Zimmerman engages in a deep conversation with Rosalyn Dischiavo, who runs the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment. They discuss Ros's journey into sexuality education, the five levels of intimacy, and the concept of embodied receiving. The conversation covers the importance of embodiment in building intimacy, the challenges posed by modern technology and societal norms, and the distinction between sexual and sensual experiences. Ros also explains her workshops, designed to help people connect deeper with their bodies and build meaningful, intimate relationships. This episode emphasizes the need for graduated risks, learning to feel and process emotions, and the power of in-person connections. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:55 Meet Ros Dischiavo: Expert in Sexuality Education 03:09 The Shift to Public Workshops 07:38 Understanding Intimacy Levels 13:47 The Concept of Embodied Receiving 20:14 The Misconception of Mindfulness 20:57 The Fascination of Embodied Presence 22:55 The Impact of Advertising on Relaxation 24:39 Defining Deep Practice 25:01 Practicing Embodied Receiving 30:34 The Importance of In-Person Workshops 34:59 Distinguishing Sexual from Erotic 38:49 About the Institute for Sex Education and Enlightenment 40:19 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Interested in a bunch of resources about desire discrepancy? Visit: https://www.desirediscrepancy.com Bio: Dr. Rosalyn Dischiavo is the Founder and Director of Institute for Sex Education and Enlightenment, a professional training program for clinicians, therapists and educators. She was President of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) from 2022-2024 and served as Professional Education Steering Committee Chair on the AASECT Board of Directors from 2018-2020. She is the author of “The Deep Yes: The Lost Art of True Receiving.” Roz is a professor, author, an AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator (CSE) and Sex Educator Supervisor (CSES), She has a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy and a Doctor of Education in Human Sexuality. She was also co-host of a women's interest radio show on TIC FM in Hartford, CT, and brings humor and insight into all of her education. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman delves into the power of positivity and its impact on sexual relationships. Discussing common struggles faced by couples, Jessa emphasizes the importance of shifting focus from negative feelings to cultivating hope and enthusiasm. She shares her own journey into sex therapy and provides expert advice on making sex a joyful and light-hearted part of life. Jess encourages listeners to envision a future where sex is easy, natural, and fun, and offers resources through her platform 'Intimacy with Ease' to help achieve this transformation. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:45 The Power of Positivity in Sex Life 01:22 Understanding the Struggles in Sexual Relationships 03:08 Creating Hope and Positivity 05:24 Envisioning a Positive Sexual Relationship 06:00 Taking Action Towards Improvement 07:43 Resources for Transformation 08:03 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

In this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman delves into the intricacies of infidelity recovery with Dr. Elliott Kronenfeld. They discuss the complex emotions and traumas associated with infidelity, the process of rebuilding trust and security, and how couples can address the underlying issues that lead to cheating. Dr. Kronenfeld also introduces his books, 'Couples by Intention' and 'Unspoken Loss: Men, Infidelity, and Disenfranchised Grief,' which offer further insights into intentional relationships and infidelity recovery. The conversation deepens the understanding of trust, forgiveness, and the need for both partners to address their personal wounds in the path to healing. 00:00 Introduction 00:45 Guest Introduction 00:45 Dr. Elliott Kronenfeld on Infidelity 02:04 Understanding Infidelity 02:46 Stages of Infidelity Recovery 07:01 The Concepts of Forgiveness, Trust, and Security 22:43 Crisis and Trauma Phase 23:35 The Reality Phase 24:26 Rebuilding Trust and Security 30:49 Challenges in Infidelity Recovery 44:38 Conclusion Want to work with Jessa? https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Bio: Dr. Kronenfeld is an internationally known author, sex therapist, educator, TEDx speaker, veteran, and yoga teacher. His work has focused on helping people find, maintain, and grow their best relationships even when faced with the challenges of infertility, infidelity, challenged intimacy, parenting, and other complex life situations. He is a frequent guest on podcasts and other media outlets talking about the realities of relationships. As a university educator, he teaches sex and gender in China and the U.S. at the master’s and doctoral levels. Elliott is often on the road giving keynote talks and lectures at government agencies, universities, national organizations, conferences, and private practices on topics that relate to the human experience. He is the author of Couples by Intention and the new release, Unspoken Loss: Men, Infidelity, and Disenfranchisded Grief. A lover of travel, Elliott has been on every continent and brings his cultural experience and sensitivity to his work because he believes the human experience has commonality and uniqueness at the same time. He currently lives in Maine with his family where he is a yoga practitioner and constantly planning his next journey somewhere across the globe. www.drelliottk.com [http://www.drelliottk.com/] Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses the different challenges faced by partners with differing levels of sexual desire. She explains the emotional impact on both higher and lower desire individuals and highlights the common feelings of rejection, guilt, frustration, and resentment. Zimmerman emphasizes the importance of helping couples understand each other’s experiences and working towards a shared vision of enjoyable and natural sexual intimacy. She also invites listeners to seek further help through her courses and therapy sessions. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:56 Understanding Desire Discrepancies 02:35 Challenges Faced by Higher Desire Partners 03:11 Challenges Faced by Lower Desire Partners 04:25 Creating a Shared Vision for Intimacy 05:54 Inviting Lower Desire Partners into a New Vision 08:06 Conclusion and Resources Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]