Ep. 46 | You Can't Hate Yourself Happy: 10 Sneaky Ways You're Judging Yourself

Ep. 46 | You Can't Hate Yourself Happy: 10 Sneaky Ways You're Judging Yourself

Most people believe self-criticism motivates change. But what if it's actually the thing keeping you stuck? I recently returned from a retreat in Maui with a room full of ambitious women—many of whom have built million-dollar and multi-million-dollar businesses. I joined the group because I wanted to be around women who would stretch me. But once I got there, I noticed insecurity, comparison, and self-judgment started showing up in my own mind. As I observed my thoughts throughout the week, I realized just how sneaky self-judgment can be. It rarely sounds like "I hate myself." More often, it disguises itself as questions, high standards, perfectionism, comparison, and the belief that you should be further along than you are. In this episode, I'm sharing 10 sneaky ways you may be judging yourself without even realizing it. You'll learn: •10 sneaky ways self-judgement shows up  • Why successful women struggle with self-judgement too • The hidden ways self-judgment keeps you stuck • What "The Judgement Trap" is and how to stop it • Why self-compassion is not the same as self-complacency • How to pursue growth without making yourself wrong If you've ever wondered why you can be kind to everyone else but struggle to offer that same compassion to yourself, this episode is for you. 🎁 Free Resource: The Inner Critic Fix: 3 Simple Steps for the LDS Woman Who's Tired of Being Her Own Worst Critic Download here: beckygarnercoaching.com/innercriticfix [https://beckygarnercoaching-innercriticfix.subscribepage.io/]

Listener Favorite: Breaking Free From Struggle

This week I'm sharing one of the most downloaded and most shared episodes of the podcast. In this deeply personal episode, I take you behind the scenes of my own journey through anxiety, depression, anorexia, and addiction, and the surprising tools that ultimately helped me find freedom. For years, I was told that I would always struggle. That I would always be depressed. That I would always have an eating disorder. That addiction would always be part of my story. But despite decades of setbacks, diagnoses, treatments, and failed attempts, I kept looking for answers. I kept trying. And over time, I discovered something powerful: You're not stuck the way you are. In this episode, I share my story of struggle, recovery, and hope, along with the lessons that helped me create lasting change after nearly 30 years of feeling trapped in patterns I thought I'd never escape. You'll learn: • Why change is possible, even when you've struggled for years • The mindset shift that helped me keep moving forward • What finally helped me break free from old patterns • Why recovery isn't about perfection—it's about persistence If you're feeling discouraged, overwhelmed, or wondering if things can ever get better, I hope this episode reminds you that they can. Because no matter how long you've struggled, you're not stuck the way you are. Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck/] This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps you stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting you out of it right away. Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re done spinning in the same thoughts and you want more confidence, joy, and freedom in your life, this is where we do that work. Book your free consultation Here. [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/work-with-me/] Loved This Episode? * Follow the show * Leave a review * Share it with someone you know

Ep. 45 | What Are You Really Chasing?

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what you're really chasing? Most of us spend our lives pursuing something we believe will finally make us feel happy, worthy, successful, safe, loved, or at peace. We organize our goals, decisions, and habits around it—often without even realizing it. In this episode, we're exploring the hidden motivations that drive our choices. I share my own journey of chasing perfection, emotional mastery, and the desire to become invincible, and what I discovered in that pursuit.  You'll learn: • What you're subconsciously chasing  • Why achievement, perfection, and success fail to create lasting fulfillment • The difference between being inspired by an ideal and measuring your worth by it • Questions to help you discover whether your current pursuit aligns with what matters most to you If you've ever felt exhausted by the pressure to be better, achieve more, or finally "arrive," this episode will help you step back and ask a powerful question: Is the thing you're chasing actually creating the life you want? Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck/] This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps you stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting you out of it right away. Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re done spinning in the same thoughts and you want more confidence, joy, and freedom in your life, this is where we do that work. Book your free consultation Here. [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/work-with-me/] Loved This Episode? * Follow the show * Leave a review * Share it with someone you know

Ep. 44 | Break the Rules: Why Doing It “Right” Is Holding You Back

What if the reason you struggle to stay consistent isn’t because you’re doing it wrong… but because you’re following rules that don’t actually fit you? In this episode, we’re talking about the pressure we often put on ourselves to do things the “right” way. I share my own early struggles with meditation—how I thought it had to look a certain way, feel a certain way, and be done perfectly—and how everything shifted when I stopped forcing myself into rigid rules and started allowing myself to experiment with finding my way. As a bonus, I also cover a couple of different meditation styles that are good for the anxious mind.  But this isn’t a meditation episode. It’s a deeper conversation about how much freedom we lose when we try to follow someone else’s system instead of learning how we actually work. In this episode, you’ll learn: *  Why “doing it right” often creates resistance instead of progress  *  Why consistency improves when you remove pressure and perfectionism  *  How rigid rules in any area of life can block long-term change  *  A new way to think about discipline: personalization over perfection  *  How breaking “rules” can actually create more peace, not less  If you’ve been feeling boxed in—or secretly rebellious—about something you want to do, this episode is for you.  Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck/] This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps you stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting you out of it right away. Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re done spinning in the same thoughts and you want more confidence, joy, and freedom in your life, this is where we do that work. Book your free consultation Here. [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/work-with-me/] Loved This Episode? * Follow the show * Leave a review * Share it with someone you know

Ep. 43 | Permission To Want More

Have you ever secretly wanted something for your life—but immediately talked yourself out of it? In this episode, I share the story of how I went from someone who dreaded travel, battled intense anxiety, and avoided unfamiliar experiences… to someone ziplining through Mexico, traveling solo, trying new foods, and fully participating in life in a way I never thought possible. But this episode isn’t about travel - nor is it about me. It’s about the dreams we quietly carry. The desires we suppress. And the ways we convince ourselves that growth, freedom, confidence, joy, or a different life are for other people—but not for us. You'll learn: *  How to identify the hidden dreams you’ve been suppressing *  Why acknowledging your desires is the first step toward change *  How fear and “practical thinking” keep us from pursuing what we want  *  The danger of obsessing over “the how”  *  Why imagination and daydreaming matter more than most people realize  *  How your brain uses your past to limit your future  *  Why real transformation starts with giving yourself permission to want more  If you’ve ever felt stuck in fear, self-doubt, shame, anxiety, or old beliefs about who you are, this episode is for you. Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck/] This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps you stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting you out of it right away. Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re done spinning in the same thoughts and you want more confidence, joy, and freedom in your life, this is where we do that work. Book your free Stuck to Clear consultation Here. [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/work-with-me/] Loved This Episode? * Follow the show * Leave a review * Share it with someone you know