Ep. 45 | What Are You Really Chasing?

Ep. 45 | What Are You Really Chasing?

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what you're really chasing? Most of us spend our lives pursuing something we believe will finally make us feel happy, worthy, successful, safe, loved, or at peace. We organize our goals, decisions, and habits around it—often without even realizing it. In this episode, we're exploring the hidden motivations that drive our choices. I share my own journey of chasing perfection, emotional mastery, and the desire to become invincible, and what I discovered in that pursuit.  You'll learn: • What you're subconsciously chasing  • Why achievement, perfection, and success fail to create lasting fulfillment • The difference between being inspired by an ideal and measuring your worth by it • Questions to help you discover whether your current pursuit aligns with what matters most to you If you've ever felt exhausted by the pressure to be better, achieve more, or finally "arrive," this episode will help you step back and ask a powerful question: Is the thing you're chasing actually creating the life you want? Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck/] This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps you stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting you out of it right away. Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re done spinning in the same thoughts and you want more confidence, joy, and freedom in your life, this is where we do that work. Book your free consultation Here. [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/work-with-me/] Loved This Episode? * Follow the show * Leave a review * Share it with someone you know

Ep. 44 | Break the Rules: Why Doing It “Right” Is Holding You Back

What if the reason you struggle to stay consistent isn’t because you’re doing it wrong… but because you’re following rules that don’t actually fit you? In this episode, we’re talking about the pressure we often put on ourselves to do things the “right” way. I share my own early struggles with meditation—how I thought it had to look a certain way, feel a certain way, and be done perfectly—and how everything shifted when I stopped forcing myself into rigid rules and started allowing myself to experiment with finding my way. As a bonus, I also cover a couple of different meditation styles that are good for the anxious mind.  But this isn’t a meditation episode. It’s a deeper conversation about how much freedom we lose when we try to follow someone else’s system instead of learning how we actually work. In this episode, you’ll learn: *  Why “doing it right” often creates resistance instead of progress  *  Why consistency improves when you remove pressure and perfectionism  *  How rigid rules in any area of life can block long-term change  *  A new way to think about discipline: personalization over perfection  *  How breaking “rules” can actually create more peace, not less  If you’ve been feeling boxed in—or secretly rebellious—about something you want to do, this episode is for you.  Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck/] This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps you stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting you out of it right away. Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re done spinning in the same thoughts and you want more confidence, joy, and freedom in your life, this is where we do that work. Book your free consultation Here. [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/work-with-me/] Loved This Episode? * Follow the show * Leave a review * Share it with someone you know

Ep. 43 | Permission To Want More

Have you ever secretly wanted something for your life—but immediately talked yourself out of it? In this episode, I share the story of how I went from someone who dreaded travel, battled intense anxiety, and avoided unfamiliar experiences… to someone ziplining through Mexico, traveling solo, trying new foods, and fully participating in life in a way I never thought possible. But this episode isn’t about travel - nor is it about me. It’s about the dreams we quietly carry. The desires we suppress. And the ways we convince ourselves that growth, freedom, confidence, joy, or a different life are for other people—but not for us. You'll learn: *  How to identify the hidden dreams you’ve been suppressing *  Why acknowledging your desires is the first step toward change *  How fear and “practical thinking” keep us from pursuing what we want  *  The danger of obsessing over “the how”  *  Why imagination and daydreaming matter more than most people realize  *  How your brain uses your past to limit your future  *  Why real transformation starts with giving yourself permission to want more  If you’ve ever felt stuck in fear, self-doubt, shame, anxiety, or old beliefs about who you are, this episode is for you. Free Resource If you're feeling stuck and ready for real change, grab my free course: Get Unstuck  [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck/] This short course goes straight to the heart of what keeps you stuck and gives you practical tools to start shifting you out of it right away. Pro Tip: Start at minute 3 and watch at 1.5 speed.  Read to Go Deeper? If you’re done spinning in the same thoughts and you want more confidence, joy, and freedom in your life, this is where we do that work. Book your free Stuck to Clear consultation Here. [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/work-with-me/] Loved This Episode? * Follow the show * Leave a review * Share it with someone you know

Listener Favorite: Controlling Thoughts vs Believing Thoughts (The Key to Mental Freedom)

This is one of my most downloaded and most listened-to podcast episodes—and for good reason. I’m re-airing it this week because this is one of those core skills in mental and emotional freedom that almost everyone needs repeated exposure to. It’s simple in concept, but incredibly powerful in practice—and it’s also one that most of us were never really taught. Have you ever been told to “just stop thinking about it”… and immediately found that you couldn’t? In this episode, we unpack why that happens—and why trying to control your thoughts often makes them stronger, not quieter. We also dive into how your brain is actually designed to think constantly, what’s happening in the default mode network when your mind runs on autopilot, and how to work with your thoughts instead of against them. Most importantly, you’ll learn the difference between having a thought and believing a thought—and why that distinction is where real mental freedom begins. You’ll walk away with simple, practical tools for working with persistent or repetitive thoughts (instead of getting stuck in them), including a framework for how to relate to your mind in a much lighter, more useful way. If you’ve already heard this episode before, I really encourage you to listen again. These are the kinds of ideas that tend to land differently depending on what season you’re in—and this one is absolutely worth revisiting. Resources Free course: How To Get Unstuck at beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck [https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck/]

Ep. 42 | Creating A Future You Can't See Yet

In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about chronic back pain, a breaking point that brought me to tears, and the moment everything began to shift. After months of pain and frustration, I had an unexpected thought during prayerful meditation:  “There’s dancing in your future.” At the time, it made no logical sense. I could barely move without pain. But that single thought became a turning point—one that changed how I focused my mind, how I showed up, and ultimately, what I started creating in my life. This episode isn’t just about healing. It’s about understanding how your brain works—and how to use it on purpose to create your future you can't see yet. In this episode, you’ll learn: *  How one powerful thought can begin to shift your future  *  How to recognize thoughts that actually move you forward (vs. ones that don’t stick)  *  A simple way to connect, listen, and access more powerful guiding thoughts  *  How to start intentionally creating a future that feels aligned, hopeful, and possible * How your brain naturally creates more of what you focus on  *  The difference between letting your brain run vs. directing it on purpose   Your brain is always moving toward something.   The question is—are you choosing the direction?