You're Not the Problem: Breaking Free from Survival Patterns with Lori Montry

What Are You Carrying? Setting Down Loads You Never Chose

What are you carrying just because it was handed to you? What baggage could you ditch at this age? And do you have room left for what matters to you? In this solo quickie episode of Butterfly Days, Tami asks the questions that might be the most useful ones you ask yourself all year. She gets honest about the loads midlife women carry without ever choosing them: the family peacemaking, the office mom role, the friendship where you give and never get. Tami draws the line between the sacred weight that love asks of you and the weight that got set in your arms out of habit, guilt, or because you are the one who never says no. She exposes the praise trap, those compliments that always come with a job attached, and shares the three gates to run every hard conversation through before you speak. This episode is your permission slip to ask one brave question: Is this mine to carry? Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack [https://tamijorden.substack.com/] and visit her website [https://tamijorden.com/] 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ [https://tamijorden.substack.com/] Website: https://tamijorden.com/ [https://tamijorden.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast [https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast]

It's Not Too Late: Protecting Your Brain Health in Midlife with Christine Despres

Have you ever wondered if it is too late to start protecting your brain? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Christine Despres, a registered nurse of over 30 years and founder of The Wellness Navigator, to talk about why midlife is actually the most powerful window you will ever have to transform your brain health. Christine shares her own story of discovering she carries the APOE4 gene linked to Alzheimer's risk, the midlife career pivot that took her from hospice nursing to brain health coaching, and the small, doable habits that protect your mind for decades to come. Connect with Christine Despres at thewellnessnavigator.com. [https://www.thewellnessnavigator.com/] 🦋 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack [https://tamijorden.substack.com/], visit her website [https://tamijorden.com/], and follow her on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@tamijorden22] & Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] 🦋

Stop Optimizing. Start Living: Choose Meaning Over Wellness

Wellness culture is everywhere. Optimize your body, extend your life, chase the protocol. But what if midlife is asking us a completely different question? In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami gets real about the wellness and longevity industrial complex and what it quietly sells to women in midlife: the idea that aging is a problem to solve. She makes the case for ikigai, the Japanese concept of a reason to get up in the morning, and the Stoic practice of amor fati, love of your fate, as the two things that actually deliver what every supplement stack promises and cannot deliver. This episode is a warm but bold rally cry to stop optimizing your body and start inhabiting your life. Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack [https://tamijorden.substack.com/] and visit her website [https://tamijorden.com/] 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ [https://tamijorden.substack.com/] Website: https://tamijorden.com/ [https://tamijorden.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast [https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast]

Aging Well: What a Harvard Dermatologist Wants GenX Women to Know

Are you tired of the hot girl hamster wheel? The endless products, the procedures you heard about from a friend, the serum you bought because an influencer said so? And still not loving what you see in the mirror? In this episode of Butterfly Days, Tami Jorden sits down with Dr. Mary Alice Mina, a Harvard-trained, double board-certified dermatologist and host of the globally ranked podcast The Skin Real, to get honest about what actually works for our skin in midlife and why true skin health starts from the inside out. Connect with Dr. Mina at theskinreal.com [https://www.theskinreal.com]. 🦋 Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack [https://tamijorden.substack.com/], visit her website [https://tamijorden.com/], and follow her on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@tamijorden22] & Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] 🦋

What Would You Regret? Using Your Mortality as a Compass in Midlife

What would you do if you knew exactly how much time you had left? What would you finally say? What would you stop tolerating and what would you stop postponing? In this solo episode of Butterfly Days, Tami draws on a decade of hospice volunteer work to ask the one question that has the power to cut through all the noise. She explores what the Stoics knew about facing mortality, why the dying teach us more about living than anything else, and how to use this season of your life as a compass toward what actually matters. This is not dark. This is clarity. 🦋 If you want to learn about hospice care for yourself or for someone you love, resources are linked in the show notes on Substack, Apple, and YouTube. Want more information on Hospice or Palliative Care? These are excellent to begin or reach out to me via contacts below; Caring Info Resources [https://www.caringinfo.org], HospiceFoundation.org [https://hospicefoundation.org/for-patients-families/], What is Palliative Care? [https://getpalliativecare.org], for our friends abroad but great info generally HospiceUK [https://www.hospiceuk.org/our-campaigns/dying-matters], & this is chockfull of good info The Conversation Project [https://theconversationproject.org/]. Subscribe to Tami Jorden's Substack [https://tamijorden.substack.com/] and visit her website [https://tamijorden.com/] 🦋 More from Butterfly Days: Substack: https://tamijorden.substack.com/ [https://tamijorden.substack.com/] Website: https://tamijorden.com/ [https://tamijorden.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamara-jorden-322918227/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/ [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1ASQDpGEUX/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast [https://www.instagram.com/butterflydayspodcast]