Creating Conscious Relationships

If receiving love, help, or support feels uncomfortable, even though a part of you deeply craves it, this episode is for you. We’re exploring hyper-independence: where it comes from, how it quietly shapes your relationships, and why control often hides beneath self-reliance. Whether you tend to overfunction for others, downplay your needs, or keep people at arm’s length, this will hit home. I’ll walk you through: * What hyper-independence really looks like (the obvious and less obvious signs) * The nervous system root of not 'needing anyone' * How this pattern blocks emotional intimacy, even with the right people * Why emotional receptivity feels vulnerable, and how to practice it * A more balanced way to relate: interdependence Plus: some real-life stories from my own journey, and practical ways to start softening, receiving, and being seen. If you'd like support healing your relationship patterns, you can book a free 1:1 consultation call with Jenelle. [https://calendly.com/jenelleannette/45min] This is for you if you're in a relationship and would like to overcome blocks, create more depth and intimacy, and fortify your connection, OR you're single and are looking to shift dating/relationship patterns so you can call in the love you want. Book a free consultation call here [https://calendly.com/jenelleannette/45min]. Let’s stay connected: DM me on Instagram @jenelleannette [https://www.instagram.com/jenelleannette/?hl=en] Or reach out by email: hello@jenelleannette.com

What if the parts of you you’re most ashamed of are actually the key to your power? In this episode, I’m diving into the complex, sneaky ways shame shows up in our lives and relationships, and how to unravel it. Shame is often at the root of the patterns we can’t seem to break. It tells us we’re bad. Unworthy. Too much. Not enough. And most of the time, we don’t even realize it’s there. You’ll hear me speak to: * Why shame exists (and the evolutionary reason we all have it) * How shame manifests in your relationships, from defensiveness to people-pleasing to sabotaging connection * Subtle and unconscious signs you're carrying shame (especially if you're highly self-critical or judgmental of others) * How shame drives disconnection, secrecy, and self-abandonment, and how healing it changes everything * What helped me personally unravel shame around my past, my sexuality, and parts of myself I thought were “too much” * The power of safe relationships and community in breaking free from shame * Journal prompts and reflections to help you explore your own shame and step into more freedom This episode will help you unravel any shame that keeps you stuck, so you can become truly free and have the best relationships possible. Journal Prompts to Explore After Listening: 1. What would my life look like if I were free of shame? What would I start or stop doing? 2. What parts of me have I been denying or shaming the most? 3. In what ways do I judge or shame others, and how might that be a reflection of my own shame? Resources + Links: → Book a free 1:1 consultation with Jenelle [https://calendly.com/jenelleannette/45min] if you’re ready to work through shame, heal relationship patterns, and feel more like you in love and life → Come say hi on Instagram @jenelleannette [https://www.instagram.com/jenelleannette/?hl=en] -- I love hearing what landed → If you don't have IG, you can email me at hello@jenelleannette.com If this episode supported you, please follow + leave a review to help the show grow ♡

If you’ve ever felt guilty saying no, obligated to do things you don’t want to do, or pushed your desires aside out of fear of disapproval… This one’s for you. In this episode, I explore how fear, obligation, and guilt quietly shape our lives and what becomes possible when you start giving yourself radical permission instead. Inside, I speak to: * The nervous system root of people-pleasing * How “being nice” can block intimacy, authenticity, and true belonging * How to spot the invisible “shoulds” that run your life * Learning to set boundaries without guilt * A powerful exercise to reclaim what you really want * Working through the fear of disappointing others This is about uncovering the invisible rulebook that says you must always be agreeable, helpful, humble, and never make anyone uncomfortable. This is about making space for your desires without labeling them as wrong, shameful, or too much. This is a quiet rebellion against everything that keeps you small. APPLY FOR 1:1 WORK Wanting support in healing your relationship patterns, overcoming anxiety, and stepping into the life you want? Book a free 1:1 consultation with Jenelle (limited availability) [https://calendly.com/jenelleannette/45min] Connect with Jenelle Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jenelleannette/?hl=en] Email: hello@jenelleannette.com

So many of us walk into love with a subconscious checklist: Are they giving me enough attention? Are they playful, deep, sexy, emotionally available enough? But what if this constant focus on what you're getting is actually pushing connection further away? In this episode, I share a perspective shift that helps you avoid feeling unmet and unfulfilled in love. In this episode, we will explore: * One of the most common blind spots that can sabotage relationships * How to avoid losing yourself in love by knowing what you need * The questions you can ask yourself to create more vibrancy and aliveness in your relationship. Want support creating a more alive, passionate, and healthy relationship? In 1:1 work, we will asses your relationship patterns, uncover blocks and rewire your nervous system so you can have the relationship you want. Book a free consultation with Jenelle to learn more: Limited availability  [https://calendly.com/jenelleannette/45min] Instagram: @jenelleannette [https://www.instagram.com/jenelleannette/?hl=en] Email: hell@jenelleannette

If you tend to overthink love and panic when someone pulls away, and spiral into worst-case thinking… This episode is for you. In this episode, I explain how anxious attachment lives in the body and why understanding your patterns alone won't change them. You’ll learn how somatic experiencing can help you finally stop the spiral, shift old patterns, and feel genuinely safe in love. Inside, we’ll explore: * Why anxious attachment creates a need to control, even in ways that look subtle, like fantasizing or people-pleasing * The primal fear wired into your nervous system that drives anxious behaviors * Why talk therapy might be unintentionally reinforcing your fear-based patterns * How somatic work helps you stop clinging, self-abandoning, or sabotaging love * The difference between intuition vs. fear: Is your anxiety onto something, or lying to you? * How to invite deeper connection without controlling your partner or losing yourself Want support healing your relationship patterns? Click this link to book a 1:1 consultation with Jenelle [https://calendly.com/jenelleannette/45min]  This is first come first serve, and there may be a waitlist. When you have your consultation, Jenelle will let you know her availability. 📩 Want to share your experience or ask a question?  DM me on Instagram [@jenelleannette [https://www.instagram.com/jenelleannette/?hl=en]] or email me directly [hello@jenelleannette.com].