Cult Cultures: Do They Work?

What I See is NOT Real

Episode 26_ “What I See is Not Always What’s Real” We talk about the following: Middle-class upbringing with a step-father with anger issues—developed the notion of the importance of figuring out where you want to go in life. “You don’t come back from combat the same, regardless of what kind of experience you have, it opens your mind to other things. It taught me that what I see is not always what’s real.” James’ real-estate company is formed around helping veterans and active-duty in the JBLM area (south of Seattle) get in and out of the real estate market with ease, and profit. Appearance is only one aspect of who we are, but how can we start looking past appearances? What responsibility to we have when we choose to ‘look’ a certain way? People can manipulate things they say, but now how they act in the moment—that’s the best way to determine a person’s character. It’s so simple to rush to judgement—but it’s almost never true Once we are aware that our ‘look’ might induce trauma responses in other people, what do we do about that? –If at a snapshot you are a trigger to someone, well, how do you calm down a trigger? Have a conversation! Every time! Once you’ve closed yourself off to taking in new information, the conversation is over. “I always ask myself, am I making any assumptions that could stop this conversation from going forward?”   James’ #1 Culture-Hack:  Trust, but verify. What you see is not always real! About Our Guest: James’ Social Media Links: - OperationRedDot.com - https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.linkedin.com%2Fin%2Fjamesmarszalek%2F%3Ffbclid%3DIwAR13ZWBS3M5ZF0kPbSowdDEQuQTIGQ2VBU1xNUBoSPtnO7QimRkRbDF4DhI&h=AT2o0m0WJTcbcrznO3bH6B8Ethl5sEj8DHbeNBregcEcdl7sxmVzFbVnatOHeXqXBqDUgi0sAu-dtNlINmzk8HFa0-4j6JS5UNpF0zu7TBHRMVHDkTzDRLcxOUEIbaoIxA - https://www.facebook.com/Mad.Hatter87 https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamesmarszalek/ About Our Host: Daniella Mestyanek (Mest-aa-neck) Young is an author, TEDx speaker and Organizational Culture-Hacker with fascinating life story and important insights into culture, socialization and group behavior. Daniella is the President of DMY Enterprises and the co-founder of cavnessHR. Daniella was born and raised a third-generation member of the infamous religious cult the Children of God, known for promoting religious prostitution, pedophilia for God, and the end of the world. At 15, she escaped that life, moving to America and eventually becoming a US ARMY Captain. During her journey, she was college valedictorian, served as part of the first group of women to conduct deliberate ground combat operations with all-male troops, deployed twice to Afghanistan where she also competed in, and won, a marathon, received the Presidential Volunteer Service Medal from President Obama personally, married an Army helicopter pilot, is raising a trilingual little girl in Seattle, WA and is hard at work on her forthcoming memoir, Uncultured. Daniella’s Social Media: https://daniellamestyanekyoung.com/ mailto:daniella.m.young@gmail.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/daniellamyoung Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellamyoung_/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniella-young/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniellamestyanekyoung Sign up to join the waitlist for my memoir, UNCULTURED at https://daniellamestyanekyoung.com/   About Our Sponsor cavnessHR understands that time feels like the most limited resource in business. Small business leaders spend 25% of their time on HR and compliance matters, instead of directly increasing the bottom line with business growth. With cavnessHR, for a small monthly fee you can forego hiring an in-house HR team, and stop worrying about potential HR and compliance issues. With cavnessHR you have 24/7 access to real, live experts to handle everything from onboarding employees in a one-stop shop portal, advising you on HR laws, and even leadership and workplace culture seminars and workshops. In a constantly shifting corporate culture landscape, keep laser focus on your business with those cavnessHR Hours Recovered, while we take care of your HR. https://www.cavnesshr.com/   mailto:jason.cavness@cavnessHR.com @cavnessHR across social media   See https://acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Inclusion IS the Multiplier

Episode 25 “Inclusion IS the multiplier” We talk about the following: Intersectionalities of persona that are created by a different-than-usual-life How Bobby as a black man is trying to focus on how he can work towards racial justice in the work place How being forgiven for mistakes when you are young is crucial to young people being able to bounce back and create a better life How to work towards giving everyone the same chance—teach children that they can do anything, bosses that forgive mistakes, teaching everyone to take more chances, hold our mid-level managers accountable for developing their people’s future careers and where they will go.  We have to think critically about what gaps we have in our teams, but I think that if a company hasn’t realized that, and only focus on how people look different from each other, they are missing the boat. We should be honest with ourselves and what kinds of people are likely to disagree with us, and then figure out how we will use those disagreements as a multiplier. Leaders, make it comfortable for people to disagree with you. “We have to structure our teams so that inclusion IS the multiplier, inclusion becomes the way we scale.” “The soundbite culture that we have nationally means that we don’t really have robust conversations.” Daniella asks: How can we white people make the world as safe and wonderful for your 5 black sons as it would be for my son (if I had one). Bobby says: When you see our kids, be nice to them. The world is a stage, but it’s also a classroom, so use that. Get to know us, get to know our kids. Be excited for them, the way that you would be for your kids. Don’t be surprised that my son wants to be an astronaut. “Make it safe for my sons to wear a hoody, when they are cold, just like you can.” “It takes a village to raise a child, so let’s be that village.” “Don’t be afraid of our children.” About Our Guest: Bobby Humes currently serves as the Director of the Seattle Department of Human Resources. In this role, Bobby and his team support over 10,000 employees across 36 City departments in the greater Seattle area. Prior to this role, Bobby served as Director of the Human Resource Division for Seattle Parks and Recreation, Director of Human Resources for the Kent School District, and Director of Talent Acquisition for the Washington State Department of Revenue. Bobby is passionate about people and providing high quality HR supports to public sector employees and managers. Bobby is an HR strategist and organizational change leader with extensive training and experience in HR project management, employee and labor relations, full life-cycle talent management, employee training, and leadership development and coaching. Bobby values inclusion and equity and believes that it is the work of all people to remove institutional and structural racism from the workplace. He believes that when we focus on removing racial injustice, the workplace becomes better for all people and organizations truly live out their missions and values. He is always seeking opportunities to learn, grow and share in this work. Bobby is originally from Long Beach, California. Bobby is a member of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Incorporated, he holds a Master of Science degree in Human Resources from Brandman University and is a US Army Combat Veteran. He is married to his best friend, Merissa, and is the proud father of five boys. Bobby’s Social Media Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/oginga-carr-61686612/ About Our Host: Daniella Mestyanek (Mest-aa-neck) Young is an author, TEDx speaker and Organizational Culture-Hacker with fascinating life story and important insights into culture, socialization and group behavior. Daniella is the President of DMY Enterprises and the co-founder of cavnessHR. Daniella was born and raised a third-generation member of the infamous religious cult the Children of God, known for promoting religious prostitution, pedophilia for God, and the end of the world. At 15, she escaped that life, moving to America and eventually becoming a US ARMY Captain. During her journey, she was college valedictorian, served as part of the first group of women to conduct deliberate ground combat operations with all-male troops, deployed twice to Afghanistan where she also competed in, and won, a marathon, received the Presidential Volunteer Service Medal from President Obama personally, married an Army helicopter pilot, is raising a trilingual little girl in Seattle, WA and is hard at work on her forthcoming memoir, Uncultured. Daniella’s Social Media: https://daniellamestyanekyoung.com/ mailto:daniella.m.young@gmail.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/daniellamyoung Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellamyoung_/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniella-young/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniellamestyanekyoung Sign up to join the waitlist for my memoir, UNCULTURED at https://daniellamestyanekyoung.com/   About Our Sponsor cavnessHR understands that time feels like the most limited resource in business. Small business leaders spend 25% of their time on HR and compliance matters, instead of directly increasing the bottom line with business growth. With cavnessHR, for a small monthly fee you can forego hiring an in-house HR team, and stop worrying about potential HR and compliance issues. With cavnessHR you have 24/7 access to real, live experts to handle everything from onboarding employees in a one-stop shop portal, advising you on HR laws, and even leadership and workplace culture seminars and workshops. In a constantly shifting corporate culture landscape, keep laser focus on your business with those cavnessHR Hours Recovered, while we take care of your HR. https://www.cavnesshr.com/   mailto:jason.cavness@cavnessHR.com @cavnessHR across social media   See https://acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Cult Cultures: Do They Work?

Episode 22_ “Cult Cultures: Do They Work?” We talk about the following: Working with at risk youth—gangs as ‘culture and belonging’ Listening/Reading books—an education of thinking and growing and learning to question things Books can be a powerful bonding tool, and ‘required reading’ can provide a shared rhetoric for common discussion and culture-creation Famous Cult Cultures: The Marine Corp, Gangs, Zappos, The Children of God, etc. Why they 'work', when they don't, and how to plan for the tipping point. Cult cultures work because they appeal to the basic needs of humans for connection, shared purpose, and community. Whether we set up the proper checkpoints and constant room for growth and learning can determine whether it goes right or wrong. Dave’s #1 Culture-Hack: Books! Books are a blueprint for where a company can go—what companies do you want to model? Carry a good book around everywhere you go, it can be an amazing tool for conversation and discussion. About Our Guest: Dave Burlin is a Marine Corps Veteran, and he believes that influence is the core foundation for growth. His passion is to help people maximize their influence potential so that they can create and lead innovative organizations that make a positive impact on our world. He has worked closely with organizations like Zappos and Simon Sinek Inc., and is inspired by teams that are leading examples of the power of company culture. Dave encourages serial entrepreneurs to maximize their full potential of influence by helping them communicate their vision, and invest in their greatest resource; their people. Creating a culture built on trust and communication allows a team to work and communicate at the highest level, so they can serve more people, and in turn sell more stuff. With growth comes more opportunity for leaders to emerge, and the cycle of leadership and influence continues. Dave has had the honor and privilege to be a TEDx Speaker in 2014, and he has been sharing the concept of #WHYNETWORKING for the last 2 years. He currently serves as a City Leader for Bunker Labs in Las Vegas, NV. Bunker Labs, is a non-profit organization with a focus to help equip, inspire, and connect Veterans and their spouses with resources to start and grow businesses. Dave’s Social Media Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daveburlin/ Discharge to Incharge: https://youtu.be/oLfozhW-JQ0?fbclid=IwAR19JTaFHLjBHbDUPsJ8zWY-Xc58D0sKxTQNf-vHfFxKHVa1BXB0bnUFXR4 Zappos cover letter: https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fyoutu.be%2FMS_dZikEW4M%3Ffbclid%3DIwAR3Q1lbbigit79ElZB7IRyR9SKkkLXcEHBm6-rtQka8cmrAPgmGZQtUPezQ&h=AT2rbEukW2AjDqaXcDzOO94msgQdcoLGKCPFjlRW2Aui5ujOi7Rq1v7M0ZwSNmPZ9B0-G6MLF2cIokwHhS_ndzxgvUM9qpmKT0_xaeypC0N-JXuzv74x-YhZrZTQz6AWow #whynetworking https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fyoutu.be%2F6_hXo6BweFU%3Ffbclid%3DIwAR03lxYq73qqQ4NBJDKpaEK8T39IHuT0LrmFU8i-9xymFK4e2_G_uTuPa84&h=AT2rbEukW2AjDqaXcDzOO94msgQdcoLGKCPFjlRW2Aui5ujOi7Rq1v7M0ZwSNmPZ9B0-G6MLF2cIokwHhS_ndzxgvUM9qpmKT0_xaeypC0N-JXuzv74x-YhZrZTQz6AWow TEDx Tulsa https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fyoutu.be%2F0fdTEDcW7Xk%3Ffbclid%3DIwAR08UtPUX8dkIB5Bkjeb0-JgZON1UZ4f0TWW4eFgy3y7lcEp0x1_eqlIsHM&h=AT2rbEukW2AjDqaXcDzOO94msgQdcoLGKCPFjlRW2Aui5ujOi7Rq1v7M0ZwSNmPZ9B0-G6MLF2cIokwHhS_ndzxgvUM9qpmKT0_xaeypC0N-JXuzv74x-YhZrZTQz6AWow Disrupt HR - The Swayze Effect https://disrupthr.co/vimeo-video/the-swayze-effect-when-violence-is-the-answer-dave-burlin-disrupthr-talks/?fbclid=IwAR08UtPUX8dkIB5Bkjeb0-JgZON1UZ4f0TWW4eFgy3y7lcEp0x1_eqlIsHM About Our Host: Daniella Mestyanek (Mest-aa-neck) Young is an author, TEDx speaker and Organizational Culture-Hacker with fascinating life story and important insights into culture, socialization and group behavior. Daniella is the President of DMY Enterprises and the co-founder of cavnessHR. Daniella was born and raised a third-generation member of the infamous religious cult the Children of God, known for promoting religious prostitution, pedophilia for God, and the end of the world. At 15, she escaped that life, moving to America and eventually becoming a US ARMY Captain. During her journey, she was college valedictorian, served as part of the first group of women to conduct deliberate ground combat operations with all-male troops, deployed twice to Afghanistan where she also competed in, and won, a marathon, received the Presidential Volunteer Service Medal from President Obama personally, married an Army helicopter pilot, is raising a trilingual little girl in Seattle, WA and is hard at work on her forthcoming memoir, Uncultured. Daniella’s Social Media: https://daniellamestyanekyoung.com/ mailto:daniella.m.young@gmail.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/daniellamyoung Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellamyoung_/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniella-young/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniellamestyanekyoung Sign up to join the waitlist for my memoir, UNCULTURED at https://daniellamestyanekyoung.com/   About Our Sponsor cavnessHR understands that time feels like the most limited resource in business. Small business leaders spend 25% of their time on HR and compliance matters, instead of directly increasing the bottom line with business growth. With cavnessHR, for a small monthly fee you can forego hiring an in-house HR team, and stop worrying about potential HR and compliance issues. With cavnessHR you have 24/7 access to real, live experts to handle everything from onboarding employees in a one-stop shop portal, advising you on HR laws, and even leadership and workplace culture seminars and workshops. In a constantly shifting corporate culture landscape, keep laser focus on your business with those cavnessHR Hours Recovered, while we take care of your HR. https://www.cavnesshr.com/   mailto:jason.cavness@cavnessHR.com @cavnessHR across social media   See https://acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Relationship Resonance

Episode 23 “Relationship Resonance” We talk about the following: As a pharmacist, Doug realized that almost 14% of the new prescriptions for stress come from job strain, and he wanted to do something about that. Doug and Maryanne realized that focusing on relationships was a winning formula, and both have fought in their lives to build the tools to do that. The Hackings built a company to focus on relationships within the workplace that can make the workplace less stressful. Must focus on relationships if you want to escape the socialization and programming that you grew up with. Learning to question everything is a muscle that you have to build, before you can begin building your own way of thinking and making decisions. Not everything is ‘good’ or ‘bad’, it just is. Feelings are not negative or positive—we must allow ourselves to feel feelings. Sadness, and other negative feelings, need to be acknowledged, but not necessarily fixed. We shouldn’t be thinking of running around with a label gun labeling things ‘bad’ so that we can fix them. The hidden conceit behind the idea of ‘doing everything yourself’ In order to get trust in a relationship, you have to be seen as competent and warm. Many people spend time flexing their competence, but not developing their warmth. System includes identifying things that are connection-killers and learning how we get rid of them. Processes and Systems. The Hacking’s #1 Culture-Hack: All about leading with your heart, the heart is the multiplier. Without the heart, you can’t get to trust and admiration. Lead with the Heart! About Our Guest: Doug and Maryanne are married and run a company that does ‘Relationship Resonance’ Hacking’s Social Media Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/doug-hacking-pharmd-mba-a23918102/ https://relationshipresonance.com/ About Our Host: Daniella Mestyanek (Mest-aa-neck) Young is an author, TEDx speaker and Organizational Culture-Hacker with fascinating life story and important insights into culture, socialization and group behavior. Daniella is the President of DMY Enterprises and the co-founder of cavnessHR. Daniella was born and raised a third-generation member of the infamous religious cult the Children of God, known for promoting religious prostitution, pedophilia for God, and the end of the world. At 15, she escaped that life, moving to America and eventually becoming a US ARMY Captain. During her journey, she was college valedictorian, served as part of the first group of women to conduct deliberate ground combat operations with all-male troops, deployed twice to Afghanistan where she also competed in, and won, a marathon, received the Presidential Volunteer Service Medal from President Obama personally, married an Army helicopter pilot, is raising a trilingual little girl in Seattle, WA and is hard at work on her forthcoming memoir, Uncultured. Daniella’s Social Media: https://daniellamestyanekyoung.com/ mailto:daniella.m.young@gmail.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/daniellamyoung Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellamyoung_/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniella-young/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniellamestyanekyoung Sign up to join the waitlist for my memoir, UNCULTURED at https://daniellamestyanekyoung.com/   About Our Sponsor cavnessHR understands that time feels like the most limited resource in business. Small business leaders spend 25% of their time on HR and compliance matters, instead of directly increasing the bottom line with business growth. With cavnessHR, for a small monthly fee you can forego hiring an in-house HR team, and stop worrying about potential HR and compliance issues. With cavnessHR you have 24/7 access to real, live experts to handle everything from onboarding employees in a one-stop shop portal, advising you on HR laws, and even leadership and workplace culture seminars and workshops. In a constantly shifting corporate culture landscape, keep laser focus on your business with those cavnessHR Hours Recovered, while we take care of your HR. https://www.cavnesshr.com/   mailto:jason.cavness@cavnessHR.com @cavnessHR across social media   See https://acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The Dynamics of Change

Episode 22_ “The Dynamic of Change” We talk about the following: Losing a sports career and spiraling into depression, obesity & diabeties Clarity—we need to be clear about what we want in life Content—something you can do, learn or elevate Consistency—how are you pursuing it every day? Motivation—a team has to have a shared purpose The importance of setting individual and team motivation and purposes that are planned far in advance for major goals Great Quotes—“Business problems are just a manifestation of personal problems.” “What is your ‘ness’, your Daniella-ness, your Oginga-ness? What are the three words that describe you?” Listener Gift—“How to Create Your Limitless Goals” Oginga’s #1 Culture-Hack: 4/20; First thing in the morning: drink 20 ounces of water, 20 minutes of body activation, 20 minutes of reading from a real book, 20 minutes of visualization of how I’d like my day to go. About Our Guest: Oginga is an author, international workshop leader, organizational structure expert and HR consultant. He brings 20 years of experience in Sales, Management, and Human Resources. His passion is in the dynamic of change; dealing with it, working through it, and preparing for it. Oginga focuses on productivity through structure and human capital development. He is the author of the book, Your Limitless Life. Oginga’s Social Media Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/oginga-carr-61686612/ http://www.ogingacarr.com/ Oginga Carr 501.318.8138 About Our Host: Daniella Mestyanek (Mest-aa-neck) Young is an author, TEDx speaker and Organizational Culture-Hacker with fascinating life story and important insights into culture, socialization and group behavior. Daniella is the President of DMY Enterprises and the co-founder of cavnessHR. Daniella was born and raised a third-generation member of the infamous religious cult the Children of God, known for promoting religious prostitution, pedophilia for God, and the end of the world. At 15, she escaped that life, moving to America and eventually becoming a US ARMY Captain. During her journey, she was college valedictorian, served as part of the first group of women to conduct deliberate ground combat operations with all-male troops, deployed twice to Afghanistan where she also competed in, and won, a marathon, received the Presidential Volunteer Service Medal from President Obama personally, married an Army helicopter pilot, is raising a trilingual little girl in Seattle, WA and is hard at work on her forthcoming memoir, Uncultured. Daniella’s Social Media: https://daniellamestyanekyoung.com/ mailto:daniella.m.young@gmail.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/daniellamyoung Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellamyoung_/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniella-young/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniellamestyanekyoung Sign up to join the waitlist for my memoir, UNCULTURED at https://daniellamestyanekyoung.com/   About Our Sponsor cavnessHR understands that time feels like the most limited resource in business. Small business leaders spend 25% of their time on HR and compliance matters, instead of directly increasing the bottom line with business growth. With cavnessHR, for a small monthly fee you can forego hiring an in-house HR team, and stop worrying about potential HR and compliance issues. With cavnessHR you have 24/7 access to real, live experts to handle everything from onboarding employees in a one-stop shop portal, advising you on HR laws, and even leadership and workplace culture seminars and workshops. In a constantly shifting corporate culture landscape, keep laser focus on your business with those cavnessHR Hours Recovered, while we take care of your HR. https://www.cavnesshr.com/   mailto:jason.cavness@cavnessHR.com @cavnessHR across social media   See https://acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.