The Unfixed Mind

Weekend Check- In - 3 Taoist Things

Three Things a Taoist Does Every Day Most conversations about Taoism stay at the level of ideas. The water metaphor. The wisdom of not forcing. The value of stillness. People find these things resonant and then walk back into their lives and do exactly what they were doing before — because nobody explained what any of it actually looks like on a Tuesday morning. This weekend check-in is about the Tuesday morning. Three things a person living close to this tradition actually returns to throughout an ordinary day. Not a morning routine. Not a system to build and optimise. Just three orientations that change the quality of whatever the day is doing — available in the gaps the day already produces, without requiring anything the day isn't already offering. Follow The Modern Taoist so you don't miss the full Tuesday episodes. And if you know someone who has been reading about Taoism and wondering what to actually do with it, send this one their way. Three Things a Taoist Does Every Day Most conversations about Taoism stay at the level of ideas. The water metaphor. The wisdom of not forcing. The value of stillness. People find these things resonant and then walk back into their lives and do exactly what they were doing before — because nobody explained what any of it actually looks like on a Tuesday morning. This weekend check-in is about the Tuesday morning. Three things a person living close to this tradition actually returns to throughout an ordinary day. Not a morning routine. Not a system to build and optimise. Just three orientations that change the quality of whatever the day is doing — available in the gaps the day already produces, without requiring anything the day isn't already offering. Follow The Modern Taoist so you don't miss the full Tuesday episodes. And if you know someone who has been reading about Taoism and wondering what to actually do with it, send this one their way.

Its is NEVER the situation that is the problem

It Is Never the Situation Something goes wrong. And the immediate experience, almost every time, is that the situation is the problem — that the way forward runs through the circumstances changing, and until they do, you're stuck. Taoism has always disagreed with that reading. Not because circumstances don't matter, but because the situation is not where your life is actually happening. Your life is happening in your response to it. And the response — unlike the situation — is something you can actually work with. This episode is about the difference between reaction and response. Why the automatic, feeling-driven reaction is almost always the one that makes things worse. What creates the gap between the two. Why understanding this does nothing on its own, and what actually builds the capacity to use it when the situation is serious enough to matter. Also: a listener question from James in Edinburgh, who has been studying Taoism for two years, understands it completely, and finds it completely inaccessible the moment anything actually goes wrong. It's the question most serious students of this tradition eventually arrive at, and it deserves a real answer.

Weekend Check-In - Speaking In Absolutes

Speaking in Absolutes Is a Form of Giving Up I will never. This always happens. I'm just not the kind of person who. These sentences feel like honesty. Like finally facing the hard truth instead of pretending. They arrive with the authority of real experience behind them, and that authority makes them almost impossible to argue with from the inside. But they are almost never accurate. And the damage they do isn't in the moment they're spoken — it's in everything that happens after. In the way they quietly close doors that haven't actually been tested yet, and produce, over time, exactly the outcomes they claimed were inevitable. This weekend check-in is about what's really happening when we reach for the absolute. Why it feels like realism and functions like surrender. And what the small, honest shift looks like that leaves the future available without requiring you to pretend everything is fine. Follow The Modern Taoist so you don't miss the full Tuesday episodes. And if you know someone whose absolutes are running their life, send this one their way.

You Don't Have To Win Everyday

Life Is Not Asking You to Win Today Most people end hard days feeling like they failed them. Not because anything went wrong, exactly — but because the standard they applied to the day had nothing to do with what the day actually was. A day that deserved to be called endurance got filed under disappointing. A day that needed genuine rest got spent in guilty half-productivity that produced neither rest nor anything else. This episode is about the grading system most of us carry without ever choosing it — where it came from, why knowing it's unreasonable doesn't make it stop, and what actually changes when you start meeting each day on its own terms rather than forcing it through a metric it was never going to pass. Some days are for building. Some are for recovering. Some are simply for enduring. Learning to tell the difference — and to give each one the right standard rather than the same wrong one — turns out to be one of the more useful things a person can develop. Also: a listener question from Daniel in Melbourne about the I Ching — whether it's connected to Taoism, whether it's worth exploring, or whether it's just fortune-telling dressed up in ancient packaging.

Weekend Check-In - When Protection Becomes Possession

This weekend, I share a very personal experience that led me to wrestle with a much bigger question: What is the difference between protecting something and trying to possess it? It's a subtle distinction, but one that touches every part of our lives, from relationships and careers to our identities and expectations. In this Weekend Check-In, we explore why the Tao doesn't ask us to stop caring. It simply invites us to care without clinging. If you've ever struggled to let go, feared losing something important, or wondered why attachment creates so much suffering, this conversation is for you.