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Trauma Isn't Destiny | Confronting Your Past In Midlife with James Elliott

1 h 11 min · 5. maj 2026
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Most men that suffer childhood trauma don't disclose it to others for decades of their life, or decide not to disclose it at all. This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, James Elliott shares how his own trauma shaped his toxic work ethic, and how it took him 21 years to look inside and make a change. Plus, we discuss James' recent work with NASA and how his team is shaping the future of medicine. We talk about: * How trauma shapes overachievement and perfectionism * The difference between "being a man" and becoming one * Childhood trauma healing — and why disclosure is so hard * His path through EMDR therapy and how it works * What his work with NASA reveals about the human body under stress * The African proverb that shifted his entire leadership philosophy * Why community — not achievement — is the foundation of happiness ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

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