Who Am I When I'm Not Just Mom?

Who Am I When I'm Not Just Mom?

This Mother's Day, Tanya and Tami are having the conversation every mom needs to hear. How becoming a mom is one of life's greatest gifts — and how it can also mean quietly losing yourself along the way. From helicopter parenting to hiding behind your kids to avoid the hard stuff in your marriage, they get honest about identity, codependency, and what it might look like to finally come home to yourself. A love letter to every mom who has given everything she has, and is ready to start giving a little back to herself too.

What We're Leaving in Our 40's

We're a month into 49 — the last year before half a century — and things are already moving. Tanya's watching her daughter launch into adulthood. Tami's navigating a spring without baseball for the first time in years. And somehow we ended up in the deep end: what we're done carrying into the second half — anticipatory anxiety, playing small, fawning, and the roles we never actually signed up for. Because that's what 49 is turning out to be. The discomfort of changing your role in a relationship. The book quietly rearranging how we see ourselves. Why we're both turning our earbuds off on walks. And the question we're sitting with heading into 50: how do I want to feel? Not a bucket list. Just two twins, one honest conversation, and a whole lot of unlearning.

When You're Everyone's Keeper But Your Own

What if your vacation is actually revealing something you've been too busy to see? Tanya and Tami get honest about the invisible weight of managing everyone else's experience — and how it quietly keeps us from ever really arriving, no matter where we go. They dig into where that pattern comes from, why it's so hard to put down, and what it might look like to finally just be somewhere instead of orchestrating everyone else's experience. The hardest part isn't getting there. It's actually showing up once you do. This week's invitation: Identify one thing you want for yourself on your next trip — and protect it!

What Still Needs Wintering?

What in your life still needs wintering? What parts of you are asking for rest, even as everything around you says to push forward? In this episode, we explore the concept of "wintering"—those in-between spaces that deserve more than just powering through. We share our own experiences with difficult seasons and examine the signs that we're pushing too hard instead of allowing ourselves the rest and reflection that wintering requires. How do you distinguish between healthy resilience and harmful resistance? What happens when we ignore our need to slow down, retreat, and restore? From the physical effects of actual winter to the emotional landscape of life's challenging chapters, we discuss why these fallow periods might be preparing us for what's next—if we can learn to honor them instead of just endure them.

Forgiveness as a Verb: Co-Parenting After Divorce, Part 2

In this heartfelt continuation, Tami shares the hardest parts of co-parenting after divorce—from answering tough questions to introducing new partners, and why forgiveness isn't a one-time decision but a daily practice. She reveals the moment she knew her marriage was over and offers her best advice for those in the overwhelming early stages. This episode gets real about the emotional work of creating a thriving blended family, managing unexpected grief that surfaces years later, and why what feels impossible today can become what you're most proud of tomorrow. A must-listen for anyone navigating divorce or supporting someone who is.