How to Stop Difficult Conversations (Before They Start)

How to Stop Difficult Conversations (Before They Start)

There's something about the word "boundaries" that can conjure up the idea that someone is being difficult or purposely not helpful.The truth is, that's not at all what boundaries are about. If anything, good boundaries that aren't squishy can make things run more smoothly and actually help you AVOID conflict.  On this episode of the Elephant Conversations podcast, I'm talking about how having good boundaries can help you stop difficult conversations before they even begin.

The 100% Rule

Have you ever heard the expression that "perfection is the enemy of progress"? The reality of life is that nobody is ever going to be 100% perfect, and expecting them to be is just setting ourselves up for disappointment.  On this episode of the Elephant Conversation podcast, I'm talking about letting go of the idea that some people are projects to be fixed up and accepting that 100% perfection isn't a reasonable goal.

Filling the Emotional Bank Account

As a leader, it's sometimes easy to fall into the trap of only singling out an employee when something goes wrong instead of making a point to catch people when they're doing something right. So how do we break that habit and start making a point to draw attention to the positive?  On this episode of the Elephant Conversations podcast, I'm sharing how you can set your intention to fill the emotional bank accounts of the people around you and help yourself build stronger relationships.

It's Not Personal

You may think that including the phrase "it's not personal" when you're in the midst of a difficult conversation softens up what you're saying, but in reality, it's not doing you any favors.  In fact, it can have the complete opposite effect of what you intended.  On this episode of the Elephant Conversations podcast. I'm sharing why using "it's not personal" doesn't actually make things better and what to do when you catch yourself using it.

My #1 Tip for Speaking Powerfully

When you have a message to share, it's important for you to remain calm, cool, and confident and speak powerfully. If you are stressed and anxious and in flight or fight mode, it's contagious to those around you.  Having people stressed and on edge when you're speaking to them is not the most productive way to go. On this episode of Elephant Conversations, I uncover the #1 tip to speak powerfully in any situation you encounter.