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Grief, Shame, and the Systems We're Living In

18 min · 27. maj 2026
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In this honest and reflective solo episode, Malisa Hepner explores the emotional weight of grief, mood shifts, shame, and the larger societal systems impacting mental health and everyday functioning. From the growing barriers Gen Z faces in gaining independence to the quiet exhaustion many people carry behind the scenes, Malisa unpacks how emotional struggles are often connected to much bigger cultural and systemic realities. She also shares practical insight into externalization techniques and how separating ourselves from shame-based narratives can create space for healing, self-compassion, and connection. This episode is a grounded reminder that many of the struggles we personalize are deeply collective. The next time shame or self-criticism shows up, pause and ask yourself: "What is this part of me trying to protect me from?" Begin externalizing the narrative instead of identifying with it completely. You are not the shame, the fear, or the overwhelm—you are the person experiencing it. That small shift can create enough space to respond with compassion instead of self-judgment. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! * $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! * $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) * $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink [https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink] Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1] https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner]

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