Why Success Doesn't Always Feel Good: Motivation, Shame & Emotional Health

Why Success Doesn't Always Feel Good: Motivation, Shame & Emotional Health

Why do some people accomplish so much yet still struggle with self-doubt? In this episode, Malisa Hepner and Dr. Carla Caturia explore the relationship between motivation, shame, family dynamics, and emotional well-being. They discuss how early experiences shape our relationship with achievement and offer practical guidance for raising resilient, emotionally healthy children. Notice when motivation is being fueled by fear, criticism, or the need to prove worth. Sustainable growth happens when people feel supported, connected, and valued beyond their performance. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! * $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! * $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) * $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink [https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink] Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1] https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner] Carla's links: Website [https://www.thehouseofrise.com/], Insta [https://www.instagram.com/drcarlacaturia/], Youtube [https://youtube.com/@drcarlacaturia?si=Q7NqHJt2DKLt4ssB]

The Stuff We Don't Say Out Loud

In this solo episode, Malisa Hepner takes a break from the heavy stuff to have a little fun exploring Reddit advice questions. Along the way, she reflects on everyday insecurities, social awkwardness, relationships, and the universal human experience of wondering if we're doing life "right." Honest, relatable, and sprinkled with humor, this episode is a reminder that we're all navigating the messy middle together. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! * $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! * $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) * $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink [https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink] Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1] https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner]

From Academia to Authenticity: Personal Transformation, Self-Discovery, and Living Fully

In this episode of Emotionally Unavailable, Malisa Hepner sits down with Jonathan Marion to explore the winding path from academic success to personal transformation. Jonathan shares how navigating his own struggles led him to question old definitions of achievement and ultimately embrace a more authentic way of living. Together, they discuss identity, self-awareness, emotional growth, and the courage it takes to step outside of societal expectations. This conversation offers a thoughtful look at what happens when we stop performing who we think we should be and start becoming who we truly are. Take a few minutes to identify one area of your life where you're operating from expectation rather than authenticity. Ask yourself, "If I wasn't worried about how this looked to others, what would feel most true for me?" Then choose one small action this week that aligns with that answer. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! * $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! * $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) * $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink [https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink] Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1] https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner] Jonathan's links: Website [http://www.stepsalongtheway.global/], Steps to chat [http://stepstochat.com/], mini workbook [http://beginnoticing.com/]

Grief, Shame, and the Systems We're Living In

In this honest and reflective solo episode, Malisa Hepner explores the emotional weight of grief, mood shifts, shame, and the larger societal systems impacting mental health and everyday functioning. From the growing barriers Gen Z faces in gaining independence to the quiet exhaustion many people carry behind the scenes, Malisa unpacks how emotional struggles are often connected to much bigger cultural and systemic realities. She also shares practical insight into externalization techniques and how separating ourselves from shame-based narratives can create space for healing, self-compassion, and connection. This episode is a grounded reminder that many of the struggles we personalize are deeply collective. The next time shame or self-criticism shows up, pause and ask yourself: "What is this part of me trying to protect me from?" Begin externalizing the narrative instead of identifying with it completely. You are not the shame, the fear, or the overwhelm—you are the person experiencing it. That small shift can create enough space to respond with compassion instead of self-judgment. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! * $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! * $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) * $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink [https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink] Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1] https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner]

How Well Do We Know Each Other? | Malisa & Charly Hepner's Fun Mother-Daughter Q&A

Join host, Malisa Hepner, and her daughter, Charly, for a playful and heartfelt episode filled with funny questions, unexpected answers, favorite memories, and honest moments. From silly fears to personality quirks, this lighthearted mother-daughter conversation offers laughter, connection, and a glimpse into the bond they share. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! * $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! * $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) * $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink [https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink] Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1] https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner]