The Version of You Before Kids is Dead (And That’s a Good Thing)

"I Related Too Much to Bishop from Juice..." | 90s Coming-of-Age Movies That Made Us Men

Most of us grew up watching 90s cinema classics, but what happens when you realize you adopted the wrong movie character as your blueprint for manhood? This week, De’Meco and Blair dive into a massive nostalgia trip, breaking down why Blair mistakenly idolized Tupac’s character, Bishop, in Juice, and how classic films shaped their views on masculinity and survival. From the cinematic lessons of Baby Boy to the realities of modern fatherhood, the guys look at what it actually takes to trade the streets for stability and build real generational wealth. What You’ll Learn/Hear: The "Bishop" Delusion: Blair’s unfiltered admission about relating a little too much to Juice growing up, and the dangerous appeal of the anti-hero. Guns and Butter: A deep look at John Singleton’s classic Baby Boy, dissecting how young men transition from being a "baby boy" to a leader who protects his family compound. Fictional Father Blueprints: Celebrating the authoritative love of Robin Harris as Pops in House Party and Floyd Henderson in Smart Guy. The Silent Grind: De’Meco’s experience running 10 miles in total silence to escape the content noise, and the reality of pushing a 70lb stroller. The Chicago Line in the Sand: Why the guys believe moving the Bears out of Soldier Field to the suburbs or Indiana would completely strip the soul from the franchise. About the Show: Welcome to Father Time with De’Meco & Blair, a space dedicated to navigating the real-world balance of fatherhood, relationships, career transitions, and creative passions. Hosted by two lifelong friends—one raised with a father, one raised without—this show serves as a continuous timeline of modern dad life. No scripts, no pretentious parenting advice—just raw game, high-impact gems, and authentic brotherhood grounded in culture. Presented by: Father Time Media Executively Produced by: De'Meco Deanes & Blair Cutts Edited by: De'Meco Deanes & Blair Cutts Theme Song by: Eems WYNK Seltzer + THC - https://drinkwynk.com/ - “FatherTimePod” for 20% off at checkout #FatherTimePod #NeverNotDad #ThisIsFatherTime

Ep. 057 - "I'm Preparing My Kids for a World I'll Never See" – The 100-Year Plan

Marathon running is often seen as a solitary pursuit of pain, but Dre Pabon is using every mile to map out a legacy that outlasts his own finish line. In this episode, we explore how 12 marathons, East Coast grit, and a mindful approach to cannabis are fueling a "100-year plan" for a world he’ll never even see. In this episode, you’ll learn: * The "Black List" of Fictional Fathers: Why Furious Styles and Papa Pope are the ultimate blueprints for modern leadership. * The "Revenge Tour": The psychology of training for a 3:08 Boston qualifying time and why "peaking" at the right time is everything. * Gardener vs. Carpenter: The parenting paradigm shift that moves you from "building" a child to "tending the soil." * Choosing Violence: The science of the pre-race playlist and the songs that get the "battery" going. * The Running Inclusivity Hack: Why the pavement doesn't care about your clubs, your membership, or your tax bracket. About the Show:Father Time with De’Meco & Blair is an authentic, witty, and grounded exploration of modern manhood. We sit at the intersection of fatherhood, career hustle, and the passions that keep us sane—from the marathon finish line to the toddler potty training trenches. 📍 Timestamped Chapters * 01:26 – The "Black List" of Dads: From Furious Styles to Papa Pope * 08:20 – The "Dad Gem": Jefferson Davis and the Leap of Faith * 14:16 – The Revenge Tour: Chasing the Boston Qualifying Time * 19:00 – Mindful Miles: Gummy-Heavy Strategies for the 26.2 * 31:49 – Embracing the Suck: Getting Comfortable with the Uncomfortable * 46:15 – From Cigarettes to 12 Marathons: The Ultimate Switch-Up * 53:45 – Tending the Soil: The Gardener vs. The Carpenter Philosophy Get ready for deep gems, marathon talk, and a whole lot of proud dad energy. Let us know what topics you'd like to hear us discuss this season in the comments below! Presented by: Father Time Media Executively Produced by: De'Meco Deanes & Blair CuttsEdited by: De'Meco Deanes & Blair CuttsTheme Song by: Eems WYNK Seltzer + THC - https://drinkwynk.com/ [https://drinkwynk.com/] - “FatherTimePod” for 20% off at checkout #FatherTimePod #NeverNotDad #ThisIsFatherTime #MarathonDad #100YearPlan

Ep. 56 - Running is the New Golf

Is the "exclusivity" of the golf world starting to feel more like a burden than a hobby? De’Meco and Blair explore why they’re trading in the scorecard shaming of the fairway for the mental battle of the pavement, and why the running community is actually the supportive space dads have been looking for.In this episode, you’ll learn:The Oregon Real Estate Hack: How to leverage buying power and why your first mortgage payment might be further away than you think.Community Comparison: Why "scorecard shaming" in golf contrasts so sharply with the "just finish" energy of the running world.The Chicago Debate: A deep dive into whether Kanye West’s "evolution" or Derrick Rose’s ACL tear left a deeper scar on the Windy City.Fatherhood Icons: A tribute to Ray Campbell (Sister Sister) and the art of loving a family that isn't biologically yours.Timestamped Chapters00:00 - High Stakes & Low Eyes: The West Coast Dispensary Incident03:45 - The Oregon House Hunt & The Mortgage "In Arrears" Hack10:15 - Golf vs. Running: Why the Fairway is Losing its Soul23:15 - The DJ Plays This, I’m Not Leaving (Club Anthems)28:50 - Chicago's Heartbreak: Kanye's Evolution vs. D-Rose's Knee33:15 - The Forgotten Father: Ray Campbell (Sister Sister)52:40 - Stolen Valor? The 18-Mile Marathon Medal DebateAbout the ShowFather Time with De’Meco & Blair isn’t just another "dad show"—it’s a look at the legacy of fatherhood from the people who actually live it. Whether you’re an expecting father staring at a positive test, a dad in the toddler trenches, or navigating the world of elementary school algebra, this is your home base.We believe the truest judge of a father isn't the man himself, but the person on the receiving end of his parenting. That’s why we bring in perspectives from every stage of life to talk about the ripple effects of how we show up.We’re just trying to be 1% better than we were yesterday. Glad to have you along for the ride.Let us know what topics you'd like to hear us discuss this season, in the comments below!Presented by: Father Time MediaExecutively Produced by: De'Meco Deanes & Blair CuttsEdited by: De'Meco Deanes & Blair CuttsTheme Song by EemsWYNK Seltzer + THC - https://drinkwynk.com/ - “FatherTimePod” for 20% off at checkout#FatherTimePod #NeverNotDad #ThisIsFatherTime

The Version of You Before Kids is Dead (And That’s a Good Thing)

Let’s be real—the guy you were before the car seat and the 3 AM wake-up calls? He’s officially retired. In this episode, De’Meco and Blair talk through the reality of letting the "old you" go and why it feels more like an upgrade than a loss. We aren’t experts and we definitely don’t have a crystal ball—we’re just two dads sharing the playbook that’s getting us through this week, knowing full well we might have to scrap it and start over by next Tuesday.What we’re navigating in this session:The "Pre-Dad" Ego: De’Meco on why he’s letting the old version of himself go and how he’s growing into the version his daughter needs today.The "Shut Up and Listen" Strategy: Blair shares how he’s learning to stop parenting from his own past and start observing his kids as the individuals they actually are.Parenthood as the Great Unknown: Why we’re tossing the "expert" books and just trying to hit the fairway one shot at a time in a game with no fixed rules.The Music Shuffle Mirror: How a transition from 90s R&B heartbreak to Sea Shanties and BB Mak reflects the men we’re becoming (for better or worse).The Scrubs Effect: Finding the real-life "dad gems" in fictional bromances and navigating the "Millennial Cringe" of the latest revivals.📍 Episode Chapters00:00 - Finding Our Fictional "Ride or Dies"The bromance draft: From Nick Miller and Schmidt to the Turk and JD blueprint.04:02 - The Toddler Intro WorkshopDe’Meco’s realization that his daughter is outgrowing her intro (and a quick 4.0 GPA brag from Blair).05:36 - The Meatball Sub Rule: Dad Risk AssessmentWhy the version of you that ate trash-can subs is officially retired for the sake of the kids.05:58 - R.I.P. to the "Pre-Dad" Version of MeDe’Meco’s deep dive into why you have to let fatherhood change you—because there’s no going back.08:15 - The "Shut Up and Listen" StrategyBlair on why our kids aren't mini-versions of us, and how to stop parenting from our own old playbooks.13:36 - The "Shuffle of Shame": BB Mak & Sea ShantiesThe moment we admit our music taste has evolved into something our friends (and maybe our kids) would judge us for.21:09 - 90s R&B Heartbreak & Dorm Room VibesA nostalgic trip back to 2008, crying to Toni Braxton, and the "ripple" iTunes screensaver.29:50 - Is the Scrubs Revival "Millennial Cringe"?Navigating the nostalgia of reboots and why we just need a reason to laugh again.38:50 - Parenting Through the Noise: Real Talk on Racial AnxietyThe heavy reality of navigating mental health, grocery store runs, and parenting during trying times.About the ShowFather Time with De’Meco & Blair isn’t just another "dad show"—it’s a look at the legacy of fatherhood from the people who actually live it. Whether you’re an expecting father staring at a positive test, a dad in the toddler trenches, or navigating the world of elementary school algebra, this is your home base.We believe the truest judge of a father isn't the man himself, but the person on the receiving end of his parenting. That’s why we bring in perspectives from every stage of life to talk about the ripple effects of how we show up.We’re just trying to be 1% better than we were yesterday. Glad to have you along for the ride.Let us know what topics you'd like to hear us discuss this season, in the comments below!Presented by: Father Time MediaExecutively Produced by: De'Meco Deanes & Blair CuttsEdited by: De'Meco Deanes & Blair CuttsTheme Song by EemsWYNK Seltzer + THC - https://drinkwynk.com/ - “FatherTimePod” for 20% off at checkout#FatherTimePod #NeverNotDad #ThisIsFatherTime

Ep. 054 - The 54-Episode Reset

We’ve been at this for two years, but it’s time for a reintroduction. We’re stripping it back to our four pillars—Fatherhood, Relationships, Careers, and Passions—and exploring why the truest judge of our legacy isn't us, but the people on the receiving end of our time. In the mix this week: * The Reset: Why Episode 54 is the new foundation for Father Time. * The Four Pillars: How we balance the chaos of being a man in 2026. * The Stark Legacy: Why Iron Man's dad is the "Forgotten Fictional Father" of the week. * Shamrock Shuffle: Training for a Chicago 8K without letting "AI trainers" ruin your knees. Father Time with De’Meco & Blair isn’t just another "dad show"—it’s a look at the legacy of fatherhood from the people who actually live it. Whether you’re an expecting father staring at a positive test, a dad in the toddler trenches, or navigating the world of elementary school algebra, this is your home base. We believe the truest judge of a father isn't the man himself, but the person on the receiving end of his parenting. That’s why we bring in perspectives from every stage of life to talk about the ripple effects of how we show up. Beyond the "Dad Gems," we’re just two friends trying to balance it all: * Fatherhood: Breaking old cycles to raise the next generation. * Relationships: Staying afloat in the "roaring rapids" of marriage. * Careers: Making the 9-to-5 work for the passion, not the other way around. * Passions: Everything from MCU deep-dives to 8K training—staying you while being a dad. We’re just trying to be 1% better than we were yesterday. Glad to have you along for the ride. Let us know what topics you'd like to hear us discuss this season, in the comments below! Presented by: Father Time Media Executively Produced by: De'Meco Deanes & Blair Cutts Edited by: De'Meco Deanes & Blair Cutts Theme Song by Eems WYNK Seltzer + THC  -  https://drinkwynk.com/ - “FatherTimePod” for 20% off at checkout #FatherTimePod #NeverNotDad #ThisIsFatherTime About the Show