The Biggest Dating Red Flag Isn't What You Think

The Biggest Dating Red Flag Isn't What You Think

Politics has become one of the biggest filters in modern dating—but I don't think politics is actually the real issue. Over the last year, I've noticed something changing on dating apps. People aren't just telling you what they believe anymore. They're telling you who they refuse to date before you even say hello. So when did politics stop being something we discussed and start becoming part of our identity? In this episode, I look at how curiosity, open-mindedness, echo chambers, and social media have changed the way we approach relationships. This isn't about picking a political side. It's about asking a much bigger question: What happens to dating when we've already decided the other side has nothing worth hearing? I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. Have you noticed the same thing on dating apps?

Everyone Is Looking for a Way Out of the Apps

A conversation that should have never happened made me realize something I hadn't connected before. Dating apps and matchmaking services are trying to accomplish the same thing, but they're built on completely different incentives. One depends on engagement. The other depends on successful introductions. Once you notice that difference, it's hard to stop seeing it. It's why so many people are giving up on the apps, and why I think we're getting close to the next evolution of online dating.

You're Completely Invisible

I did sixty episodes of this podcast without ever showing my face. Then I turned on a camera and everything changed overnight. Comments, DMs, strangers feeling like they knew me — none of it happened for fourteen months and then all of it happened at once. This episode is about why presence does something that photos and audio never can, what it means for your dating profile, and why the thirty seconds of video you haven't posted yet might be the only thing standing between you and a connection. Video versions of the weekly podcast are available on: YouTube [https://youtube.com/@trenterikson?si=N_E7ILngSm6iLKHC] Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/2DFGqBQLbCS6xvtSGBNGv1?si=VvT5-qwFRfi_AyQaspTeRg] And often on: Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@trenterikson?_r=1&_t=ZT-97HwB8sUENJ] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/trenterikson?igsh=aGtwM2NrbWduZG80] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/share/18EsxKFtgB/] X [https://x.com/TrentErikson] Make sure to follow us while you’re there. Go to the website [http://www.girlscantellpodcast.com] and leave us a voicemail Click the microphone button on the lower right.

You're Upsetting People And Don't Even Know It

I've finally had it. This one's a little different. Shirtless showdowns, pickleball pansies, Wimbledon-level tennis jags on a public court, scooter shits, absurdly loud cars, and industrial-strength playground blunts. Tune in for a completely reasonable and measured discussion. Obviously. Video versions of the weekly podcast are always available on: YouTube [https://youtube.com/@trenterikson?si=N_E7ILngSm6iLKHC] Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/2DFGqBQLbCS6xvtSGBNGv1?si=VvT5-qwFRfi_AyQaspTeRg] And often on: Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@trenterikson?_r=1&_t=ZT-97HwB8sUENJ] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/trenterikson?igsh=aGtwM2NrbWduZG80] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/share/18EsxKFtgB/] X [https://x.com/TrentErikson] Make sure to follow us while you’re there. Go to the website [http://www.girlscantellpodcast.com] and leave us a voicemail Click the microphone button on the lower right.

Are You Wasting Someone Else's Time?

Most people on dating apps can answer a question. Almost nobody can actually play. This episode is about the difference and why it's the only thing I'm still looking for. Video versions of the weekly podcast are always available on: YouTube [https://youtube.com/@trenterikson?si=N_E7ILngSm6iLKHC] Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/2DFGqBQLbCS6xvtSGBNGv1?si=VvT5-qwFRfi_AyQaspTeRg] And often on: Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@trenterikson?_r=1&_t=ZT-97HwB8sUENJ] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/trenterikson?igsh=aGtwM2NrbWduZG80] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/share/18EsxKFtgB/] X [https://x.com/TrentErikson] Make sure to follow us while you’re there. Go to the website [http://www.girlscantellpodcast.com] and leave us a voicemail Click the microphone button on the lower right.